The Spendaholics Anonymous Thread!

poorandindenial

Show the dress LC - don't keep us wanting...

Well done on the spending in Barcelona, did you have a lovely time?

I was doing OK until I booked a holiday, but I think that is utterly essential. Other than that the only frivolity was a £5 top in the sale which is only the second item of clothing I have bought this year.

Little_Chicken

Hi poor - can't show.....it's not online. I agree hols are essential. Barcie was fab - and I brought the sun back with me...

poorandindenial

Little_Chicken wrote: »

and I brought the sun back with me...

Splendid, thank you very much!

Little_Chicken

Oh dear...looks like this thread has died. And I enjoyed it very muchly. ;0(

fritzbrain

This is my first post. I was looking for a forum and wanted help with how to deal with compulsive spending. Reading all the other posts (well, just halfway through but I'll finish it all eventually!) was very heartening. There's hope for me yet. It's just very depressing that I'm driven to look online for some support, because my family doesn't understand why I do the things I do. And I don't think I will find any groups in my country either. *sigh*

However, I am glad to have found this site.

compulsivespender79

Little_Chicken wrote: »

Oh dear...looks like this thread has died. And I enjoyed it very muchly. ;0(

I do hope not! I've been hiding out of shame . My tax credits have gone up this month, meaning more "disposable" income, meaning "Oops, I did it again"! Let's just say I've been slightly out of control of my spending. Time to get back on this thread and start reigning it in again.
We can't let this thread go now anyway, we have a new member!

fritzbrain wrote:

This is my first post. I was looking for a forum and wanted help with how to deal with compulsive spending. Reading all the other posts (well, just halfway through but I'll finish it all eventually!) was very heartening. There's hope for me yet. It's just very depressing that I'm driven to look online for some support, because my family doesn't understand why I do the things I do. And I don't think I will find any groups in my country either. *sigh*

However, I am glad to have found this site.

:hello: Welcome Fritzbrain! Someone from the Phillipines has found our thread! That's fantastic. Well I do hope we can resurrect the thread, and hopefully provide some support and help.
You're very welcome here!

CSx

fritzbrain

Thank you very much CSx. I really need to get my life back in order.

I have since learned that being a shopaholic is a lifelong thing---something frankly scares me because it means I'll have to battle it all the time. I had gone this route before, maxed out my credit cards until I was found out to be neck-deep in debt and fixed it with help from my mom, but it recurred 2 years later. Again had the talk, much self-recrimination, fixed it again. That was in 2001. So I've been good. Until last year, anyway. My travel agent messed up my reservations for a business trip, and instead of totally canceling it she told me to get a refund (which I got late last year, considering my trip was in April). To get more money I borrowed it out of my credit cards. I should have paid it off first before going on my merry way as usual, but I kept thinking it was okay until my mom found out again by accident this year that I was in debt. To keep doing it, and being in denial... well, I guess there is no relaxing one's guard. I have cut up my credit cards. I am using cash again (which makes me feel like the stupid 20-year old I was when this first started happening). I have not made trips to the mall by myself. I'm afraid and angry that I'm so impulsive. And no one understands what it's like. They just make me feel stupid for having let it go that far. Well, maybe my dad, who's actually the biggest impulse spender I know but my mom controls that to a degree, but he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong because he makes a lot of money anyway, and can afford it.

I have a very well-paying job, which is probably part of the problem but if I hadn't put away year-end bonuses immediately in long term time deposits at the behest of my accountant, I'd be broke and be unable to pay anything. I've always hated having to deal with finances and stuff; my accountant does my tax work and I just pay whatever she says. Investments are like things that require major translation. It's time to grow up, I guess, and learn. If not I'll end up old and unable to afford my own care.

I really applaud all of you who keep on going. It gives me hope that I can take control of my life financially, some day!

Buffythedebtslayer

it better not have died. I have been also hiding out of shame, since spending 134 pounds on a printer.

that I don't need.

and there was something else but I can't remember now.

Any how welcome Fitzbrain! You dont sound too bad to me!

xxxx

compulsivespender79

Hey Buffy,

Love your sig. Do you think we've all been hiding out of shame?

Fritz, I don't think any of us deserve applause at the moment!

Millie2008_2

Well, now I have an excuse for my compulsive and impulsive spendng- I have just been diagnosed with ADD, inattentive- and impulsiveness, be it spending or whatever it part of it

It helps me to get a little insight, not that it helps to make me spend less, but wait till I am on the meds