Split with OH tonight

sasp

Hi Lucy,
Speaking from experience I spilt from my hub of 9 years, 4 years ago. At the time he had no clue I was SO miserable. We were like bro an sis, had 2 kids and everyone thought we were the perfect couple (including my mum an dad who were distraught for our children). I felt terrible but knew I HAD to do it for my own sanity sake.
I just wanted to reassure you that even though it was tough on everyone, I am now happily married to my absolute soulmate and we have a son together, my ex is married again and we have a very amicable parental arrangement for our children.

There is light at the end of the tunnel, and although people do get hurt, they equally do get over it. You have to do what is right for you.
I hope everything works out for you hun.

Love sasp xx:D

beanielou

Have a hug Lucy
Hope u had a good day today.

cazjenki

You'll get through this Lucy, it is hard but you have to concentrate on yourself. My ex was selfish and was never there to support me, it was just like having another child. Keep your chin up.

Lucy1982_2

Thanks guys

Just back from my day out. Lunch was lovely.

He just tried calling again. I can't speak to him so I chickened out and texted him back (Terrible I know, but we have discussed this in the past) I said I was sorry, that he is a nice guy, just not right for me, that yesterday was the last straw. I've told him to take card but could he please not call me again.

That's not nasty is it?

now i feel all guilty again!

Burlesque_Babe

No, that's not nasty. You have been polite and firm, you need him to know that it won't work out so he needs to know where he stands.

spud30

I dont think you're being nasty either Lucy - I promise I would tell you if you were

You have told him in the past that the way he treated you was unacceptable, gave him a chance to change, but he didnt :rolleyes:

You have nothing at all to feel bad about

lunar

Lucy

Just wanted to send you hugs. When i left my marriage i knew it was the best thing for us both, it was still the hardest thing i have done in my life. I can tell you now that no matter how hurt we both were at the time a few years later we are both happy with new partners and he realises that i did the right thing for our futures.

yeovilmac

Hi Lucy,

I ended my relationship with my girlfriend in November. We had tried to make it work but past troubles came back to haunt my mind and I had to finish it.

I felt really bad as when it finished, I had to ask her to move out and go back home which was 85 miles away..:eek: . I felt truly awful about doing it but my sanity was being compromised and I felt I was losing my identity slowly. I'm 40 in May and might not have too many more opportunities for happiness - maybe she was my soulmate but then again, maybe she wasn't.

Lucy, you'll feel really bad for a few weeks, maybe a month or two, especially as you were the one who took control and stopped things going any further. You might want to half-expect a backlash from him as I had ( nasty texts, the odd abusive e-mail etc ) but you have done what's right for YOU!!!!

Good luck for the future, I wish you well in finding true happiness.

Best wishes

Martin

Lost_in_music

Big hugs Lucy, you have to do what's best for you and don't feel guilty about it. I'm just about to leave my husband of 15 yrs wasn't an easy decision to make but been trying to make it work for a long time now and its not so for once putting myself first.

Wishing you the very best for the future

ellerose

Much love to you Lucy. Me and my OH have also split today. Still feeling a bit numb. Feel like all the progress with my debt is going to be scuppered by me having to live on my own again.