Split with OH tonight

Snaggles

Hi Lucy, I'm really sorry hun, I know things haven't been easy. Sending you a big (((hug))) and you know where we are if you need to talk about it. xxx

taxi73

Hi Sorry to hear that and sending hugs but if you feel that way it's the best thing to do

tealady

Lucy1982 wrote: »

I know in my heart it's right, I saw a friend earlier and told him I feel calmer on the inside but a bit wibbly on the outside.

Wibble away it will get better I promise. You know deep down what was the right decision, now it's time to put any regrets behind you and be selfish, go for what YOU want and need.

Frugalmum_2

Big Hugs Lucy,

You obviously knew it was time and you've done the right thing for you, well done for making the decision. It's never easy but like so many have already said it will get better, you need to centre on yourself and don't worry.

Take care

ZTD

Lucy1982 wrote: »

Hi

I know some of you will know I have been having trouble with OH, well I ended it tonight. I know it's the right thing for me, I know and feel this deep down. But I feel terrible because I have hurt him.

:grouphug:

Lucy1982 wrote: »

He has no idea what he has done wrong even though I have explained how I am feeling endless times.

He does have an idea. He just thinks he's done nothing wrong. The two are not the same.

Lucy1982 wrote: »

Why is it you can feel so bad for doing the right thing for you???

Because ending relationships always hurts. The fact it feels bad doesn't mean it is.

Lucy1982 wrote: »

:grouphug:

Lucy1982 wrote: »

I've put this on my diary and the debt and depression thread. I doubt anyone has anything to say but I just feel so lousy.

We always have something to say - you know that...

:kisses3: Don't worry, things will get better. :grouphug:

Karmacat

Hello Lucy

I hope you've been able to get some sleep.... fact is, you and your ex are coming from such different places, and thats whats led to this. Thats what I get from your saying that he doesn't know what he's done wrong - his idea of what a relationship should be is so different from your idea, there's no meeting in the middle. Thats when its probably best to leave, and thats what you've done.

Lots of hugs, take care of yourself, and as the others have said, wibble away to us.

xx

FeelingLow

aww hun i'm so sorry !!!!{hugs}}}

mickey_mouse

big hugs - I know it hurts at the moment but things will get a lot better and you will meet someone lovely to share your life with.

Bunnyinthelights

Stay strong honey.
Big hugs x

Lucy1982_2

Thanks Guys.

Well I got an ok nights sleep and I still feel like I have done the right things and I think you are right he doesn't understand because he can't see how he has made me feel.

I will be ok and I have already decided that with the money I will save now (on petrol to visit him etc - could be £40 a month!) I will pay off my little debts quickly and save for a trip to America to see a friend I've not seen in about 2 years. It will give me something to look forward to and in the meantime I am going to have some good old fashioned me time.

I just need to remember that I have done the best thing for both of us even though he can't see it!

I feel a bit more positive today and need to see this not as the ending of something but the start of something bigger. It wasn't working and while I am upset that it ended like this, I can move on and make something better for myself. I know that sound selfish, but this has to be the most selfish thing I have done in a long time, but it was something I needed to do.

So today I am off out with Mum for a bit of shopping (vouchers from christmas of course!) and a nice pub lunch which will be the start of it all.