Wedding Cost nightmare

missjennipenni

Well done for making a stand!

Becles

Stuff them and their "uneccessary stress". Your Dad needs you at the moment and looking after him should be your top priority. Tell them you don't need the "uneccessary stress" from their wedding dramas!

Hope you are ok, and best wishes for your Dad.

MrsE_2

Just say sorry but you have to withdraw from the roles because you can't afford to chip in with their wedding costs.

amandada

Congratulations on following through-it would have been so much easier to swallow it and conform, but you've stuck to your convictions-it's not always easy when it comes to wedding and suchlike.
Best wishes to you and your dad for hopefully a good outcome to his illness x

bunty109

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope they have the decency to let the matter drop: you've other things to concentrate on. xx

haylibo

That was brave of you, well done! Hope all goes well with your dad xx

G-G_4

Sorry bout your dad.. x

I think you have done the right thing.. Being a bankrupt myself I have discovered all too well what the consequences of over overspending and doing things to keep others happy means.

You made the right decision x

full-time-mum

Mrs7ones wrote: »

Well, they've been told!
And they are not happy.
It would seem that we are putting unnecessary stress on them and spoiling the fun of it all.

What about the stress you are under making ends meet and putting food on the table without being blackmailed by family members.

Mrs7ones wrote: »

They 'thought' we were aware of what we would be expected to pay for, and as it is a special day, we are expected to conform and cough-up! (that aint gunna happen!!), and make a bit of effort for them.

No, they 'thought' that once you'd told DD and DS that they had you over a barrel and you would roll over and play ball. Good for you.- I'm sick of the way weddings seem to be such extravagant keeping up with the joneses, all sinigng all dancing, with bells on affairs

Mrs7ones wrote: »

Anyway, we all know where we stand now, and TBH, the importance of it all has just plunged in my life as my dad has just been diagnosed with a very very serious illness

Now there is some serious stress. Best wishes to your Dad and :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: for you.

flowerscotland

omg huni, ive been reading this thread very shocked, I cannot understand how you can be asked to contribute to someone elses wedding, plus buy a gift, get something to wear for the rest of the family, hair done etc, its just shocking that they have asked you :mad:

Im glad you have came to a decision, I would have came to the same one

My fiance and I are getting married this year and we are having a really small wedding, with us our daughters and two witnesses, we will all get something to wear and go out for a meal or something after it, and that will be it. I dont want a wedding, as I know I do not have the funds to pay for it, and i would rather put my money towards something else, we will be looking to buy a house after the summer, and change our cars etc, so we cant do everything. And most importantly due to funds being tight with us, i would never ask someone else to pay for things :eek:

Thinking about you, your dad and your family

x x x

Mrs7ones

Thank you all so very much for your best wished re my dad.

Me and DH need to forget all about the wedding for the time being and concentrate on my side of the family for a while...... my mum's going to need us.