Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Keeping_Motivated

Have I missed something?

Whats happened Mooloo? I think it would be a shame to give up the support you are getting on here. I for one admire you and feel for you, so I would like to offer support, advice, an ear, alternatives, for what its worth.

Please reconsider as I am sure whoever has upset you has not intended to?

Seaxwyn

Hi Mooloo - I'm sorry too that you're abandoning the thread. Hope to keep up with you elsewhere.

Ellidee

I love reading your thread Mooloo - please keep posting if it helps you. Thinking of you. Take care XX

Savvy_sewing

I am in a dilema as to whether to stay posting on here or not. I have had a massive arguement, personnally, and I just no longer feel that ease of the annonimity as my OH knows who I am, and is reading this site. I know that that should not stop me from posting, as there is nothing I have said on here that is not what I was telling him, or trying to tell him, but he feels I am not able to share with him, but I am with "strangers", this has put me in an awkward position, and currently I am not sure what I want to do. I appreciate everyones support so far and I know in myself that it was a good thing for me to do. It has helped me focus on the finances, the spending and a way forward with the girls and the babies. But I am now worried that if I put something in here, before he has come home from work, or had the chance to communicate he will think that I am holding out on him. As we do not live together there is a delay in swapping information, and somethings I write here are spontaneous and a way for me to get my head around my problems with life here. So perhaps I will just have to get my head around the whole thing and see how I feel in a few days maybe.?
Today there is a further meeting with the Social Services and I hope that we can make further advances into the care of BBJ and Twin2 especially. Perhaps I will post and let you all know how that has gone on. (AFter I have informed OH how it went of course.).

Ellidee

Mooloo I know it's non of my business BUT your OH (understandably) can't be with you 24/7 so I feel if it helps you by posting on here then carry on. Maybe you could re-register under a different username ? Also remember he knows your identity but we don't.

Seaxwyn

Hi Mooloo, that is a difficult dilemma but probably in a day or two you will know what you feel is best. I for one hope you keep posting.

Savvy_Sue

I would go back and remove any names you have used (there's an Edit button on posts you have made), as that will protect your anonymity, and that of your family. But you need to come to some agreement with your DBF: I can see how helpful it would be to post here, and I hope he would be able to see that the support of strangers is different to what he can give, even if we become 'friends' if you see what I mean.

Keeping_Motivated

I hope that as well as the feelings that it brought up for your OH I hope he noted the lovely/positive things you said about him on here (without giving his identity therefore protecting his privacy). I hope after he has finished taking it personal that he can seperate the two and see that this has nothing to do with him not supporting you or you not sharing everything with him and holds no reflection on him.

Take care, I hope it gets resolved.

Penry

Hi Mooloo, just wanted to say that the first time I saw your thread it crossed my mind that it might be easy for people in the real world to identify you and your family, as you do mention names and location and your situation is quite unique. Not that I think you have said anything wrong at all, and I wish you luck in your search for support! Just that is might put you in a difficult position if your daughter's bf's family, for example, were to read your thread.

On a separate note you should be entitled to a Carer's Assessment in your own right through the Social work department to identify what YOU need in order to continue caring for your daughter's, for example the assistance to get you back in work. I'm afraid I don't know how to do a link, but if you put carers support and your location into google it gives some links for where you might get support for yourself, or ask your social worker who hopefully will be useful!

Good luck

Savvy_sewing

Ok, I thought about changing my id. and starting again. Then I thought that DBF may think I am deliberately hiding things from him, and I dont want that to happen either. I thought about abandoning this thread, and starting again. But basically thats daft really because I would be sussed out again anyway.
So perhaps I will carry on posting afterall. I need the MSE contact more than I realised. I cant keep hijacking Hypnos thread. Although I will still be posting on that one, and doing my grocery challenge. I will look for that Carers thread, thankyou verymuch.
I must go and do the dinner, everyone is sitting here expectantly and I havent done anything except defrost the chicken becuase we babysat the grandchildren while the twins went to the cinema. NOw my arms are tired, and my shoulders are aching. but it was worth it. Catch you all later maybe. If not I will designate some time tomorrow to post. Such a lot has happened since Friday.