Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

Surfbabe wrote: »

Mooloo - I'm so sorry you feel so down - its not a nice feeling.

Have you got arthritis by any chance? I've been having Pyshio and all the exercises they given me have been pilate ones - but they are helping.

Chin up - you're doing brilliantly - we're all here to support you, so your not alone.

Hi Surfbabe,
I am being treated for Sponydlitis in my neck, but I have aches and pains relating to all sorts of "age" related bits n bobs. No body has ever said its Arthritis, but my mum has had it for years, and its similar so although its not been told to me, I reckon I do. As the weather and other aspects affect my health. The physio is purely on my neck to try to "free" the nerve that is being squashed.
I go back tomorrow, and see the Neurosurgeon on the 24th. Just dont fancy having the disc removed. The risks are high.

Savvy_sewing

I am just going to ring the Social Worker now, to commence the battle for this week. I was too low to do it earlier.!! Poor woman, I know its not her actual fault, but I have to start somewhere.

Ellidee

Aww Mooloo you poor thing. My Mum, who will be eighty this year, has among other ailments, spondylitis and I know how she suffers. Can't be easy for you to lift the babies especially as they will obviously get heavier. You have my sympathy, you've got enough on your plate without that too.

Keeping_Motivated

Hi just caught up with your thread. Its no wonder you get down sometimes.. You are human after all... Its a good job in general you seem to be able to pull yourself out of it and try and plug away.

I was wondering with all the things that your twins suffer from are they getting any treatment, skills classes, parenting classes, counselling etc etc Sorry if some of these are not relevant to them but maybe some are and if the relevant agencies do not get some form of treatment in place then surely alot of what is happening is 'firefighting'?

Good luck with the call to the Social Worker x

Keeping_Motivated

Just a thought is the father getting any form of help too... like skills, parenting classes, counselling etc to maybe improve things that end??

Savvy_sewing

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Just a thought is the father getting any form of help too... like skills, parenting classes, counselling etc to maybe improve things that end??

The father has been offered help with his drug habit. Also with his wetting the bed issues, but he doesnt like interference and he is anti establishment. Now hes anti me.
Your right about me "firefighting", it seems like I am working backwards at the moment.
I spoke to the Social worker, informed her of the things that went awry over the weekend. I also told her I think that I am holding up my end of the bargain, but the system seems to have left me to do it all. Letting me down over the housing etc.
Good news is I am a great auntie, again, today, my neice has had a healthy 8lb 14oz boy. this morning. That means my sister will fly in from France at the weekend. May not get to see her though, not having my car, but at least there is more of an option then if she wasnt. i have only seen her once in 4 years.
Twins are back home now. So I can off load BBJ care to mum for an hour. I think I will be going for a bath and letting hot water seep into my bones for a bit. I had contemplated going swimming on a Monday night again, but I think I better chat to the Physio tommorrow to check that thats ok.
Cant believe that its nearly 4pm and I am just getting my lunch now!! Whats happened to me? I see to have lost all time zones just lately. And Days, and weeks..... and I am only 46!!! Please dont tell me I am going senile as well!!:rolleyes:

Savvy_sewing

Ellidee wrote: »

Aww Mooloo you poor thing. My Mum, who will be eighty this year, has among other ailments, spondylitis and I know how she suffers. Can't be easy for you to lift the babies especially as they will obviously get heavier. You have my sympathy, you've got enough on your plate without that too.

Thanks for the vote of sympathy. Hope that I will still be around in my eighties, but at this rate reckon I will be worn out!! Sometimes I think I would be better off going back to work!! Least I knew what day of the week it was then!! Called in to see people at work last Tuesday, and its over 4 months since I was back at work, (bar one week in November when I tried). Cant believe that has gone already. What a change my life has taken since September.
I only hope that it gets better, not sure I can cope with much more on the slide down. Does this mountain never end seems to be my thoughts these days.?

Savvy_sewing

Its all quiet at the moment in the Mooloo household. So I am able to get back on to the computer for a little while.
For me its a no spends day. So I am pleased. Mind you I should really be doing a tesco shop, for home delivery. Probably missed the cheap delivery slots now though. Toying with the idea of doing a bit of a store cupboard challenge, and seeing what I can come up with. Perhaps I better have a look at the grocery challenge and a few other threads if I get the chance.
Twins are holed up in the bedroom with both babies, and are watching a film. Bought today, (even after I asked them to stop buying them and rent them!). I even joined Lovefilms.com or what ever its called, so that they could have unlimited DVDs sent to us every month.! Cant win Can I. How do you get through to people with Learning difficulties, that the money may be in thier names, but it is to be used to buy the things they need for thier babies too.? I think we could sink under a pile of DVDs. Twin2 has debts that need to be paid off too.
Blow out some hot air here.....:cool:

DS is still out and about, he was supposed to be home by 6pm. So I have worries about him starting to play up. Can understand he gets fed up of the cramped conditions, but I wish he would be home at stated time, just to stop me from worrying.
List for thursday
I need to remember that when we have the next meeting on Thursday for twin2's social update that I have to bring in the fact that visiting other Grangdparents was a bit haywire. 1) Tighter defined times for visits.
That the Housing representative had said that Twin2 could keep her flat on until the next assessment, and her benefit would not be affected. We got a bill saying they had stopped benefit and were now charging her £1095 for the rent for that 3roomed Sh** hole, for the last month!. The landlord should be shot for that, he has turned a house into 5 flats, if he is charging £269 a flat per week, he should have nightmares. How can a council justify placing someone into accommodation who is homeless as such an extortionate rate?
How can a landlord justify charging that much? Think I was in the wrong business, working hard for my money, I should have kept my Pub and rented out all the rooms and gone on holiday to the seychelles!!
I digress from my list. Oops.
2) that housing benefit was cut after promised would keep.
3) that promise to have me rehoused has not happened.
4) that transport has been cut already
5) that Twin2 boyfriend is still trying to solicitate funds from her
6)that the conditions are not suitable for 6 people for much longer and that means that we are all on top of each other, which means tensions are high at times.
I am sure that there were other things I was supposed to say but I cant remember.
I would like to know if I could attempt to go back to work part time, to save my sanity. ( I know that my health may not be up to it, but I dont know unless I try).
Should Social have been helping twin2 to get DLA, and to sort out the debts, or at least help her to find out what is and whats not available to her. Surely I should not be shouting when they were the ones who sent her back to me?
I need to find a way to get me back into positive mode, ideas how I can make it work for all of us here?
To be honest if anyone has any ideas how I can help my family, and myself I would be grateful.
It appears I am in a "unique" situation as far as the council is concerned, and so there doesnt appear to be the help that I want or need anymore.
To me it would be simple. (especially at the rent they charged for a bedroom bathroom and kitchen). Couldnt the council/social services rent a large older property for us all to live in. Help me with a respite carer one day a week so I could get away.Or let me go to work Part time on a Morning when twins and babies are at babyclubs. And the appropriate lessons in parentcraft, money and safety be given to the girls. Maybe even a "classroom" in the house for them to use?
Sounds easy to me.

Savvy_sewing

Ah DS back now. I can relax, (after reading the riot act)

Savvy_sewing

Well its (nearly) the dawning of another day. I really need to get my act together as I have the Physio this morning. Already decided to break the rules of being MSE and take a taxi,:o if I go by the buses I have to leave in 5 mins, or I dont make it. I am still trying to have a second cup of tea an hour and a half after the alarm went off.Got DS up for school, made his packed lunch, washed up the dishes that last night got missed (?) Sent Text to DBF to say happy birthday. (Oh and an email for him at work). But the joints are saying no hurry today please.
I shall be giving the twins a rude awakening in 15 mins to make sure they are up and moving before I go. They have baby cafe today, so they have got to walk . Bet they dont go as the weather is so bad? Have to dig out the Socials Taxi number to cancel if they do.
That is another job to do.! Must put it somewhere prominant in future.!
Social Worker is due this afternoon at 3pm to talk to twin2 about the weekend. (What good that will do remains to be seen!) Like talking to someone from planet zog. any more than 3 sentences and it will all be lost into outer space.
I am trying to be more positive this morning.
Was very down yesterday.
Dog is desperate to go out, and I am not dressed yet. Better do that at least. Dont fancy any accidents. Mind you he hasnt had one since the first day we moved here so thats a good start.

Things should start to be easier on the money side now. as Both girls now have thier Child benefit and child tax credits coming in. Phew.