Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

gigglewiggle

Mooloo: I note your plea for help (To be honest if anyone has any ideas how I can help my family, and myself I would be grateful). I know without the support of my sister during my dark periods I would never have survived. Do you have and family or friends you can call on to either support you or be a shoulder to cry on occasionally?

Seaxwyn

Hi Mooloo, I haven't been on the computer for a couple of days so just caught up on your posts. Not surprising you get down, you have a huge amount on your shoulders. I well remember how full-on it is looking after baby twins just on its own - and you have teenagers, money worries, housing problem and 100 other things to worry about. So don't apologise for having bad days.

Your list looks very reasonable. Surely the social worker will see that and come up with a plan to give you the support you need. If not, don't hesitate to go higher up in the Council. You're not asking for much and you are saving them a huge responsibility and cost by having the twins and babies with you.

I think it's a very good idea to go back to work and the Council will have to help with a childminder for the babies at least.

Final thought - if you can't stop the girls buying DVDs, can you at least sell them once they've watched them?

Savvy_sewing

Seaxwyn wrote: »

Hi Mooloo, I haven't been on the computer for a couple of days so just caught up on your posts. Not surprising you get down, you have a huge amount on your shoulders. I well remember how full-on it is looking after baby twins just on its own - and you have teenagers, money worries, housing problem and 100 other things to worry about. So don't apologise for having bad days.

Your list looks very reasonable. Surely the social worker will see that and come up with a plan to give you the support you need. If not, don't hesitate to go higher up in the Council. You're not asking for much and you are saving them a huge responsibility and cost by having the twins and babies with you.

I think it's a very good idea to go back to work and the Council will have to help with a childminder for the babies at least.

Final thought - if you can't stop the girls buying DVDs, can you at least sell them once they've watched them?

Well social lady has been. I have mentioned all my list to her. So at least she is now aware of things.
She is going to contact the housing (again) about twin2s bill and see if anything can be done about that. She is also going to take her tomorrow afternoon to her old flat to collect her things. (So the boyfriend will have to give her them!).
She has said that it could be a possibility for me to go back to work, if we can trust the situation here. i.e. that Twin2 will stick to the rules, and that the boyfriend doesnt hang around here. But at the moment its not a No which is an improvement from the last meeting in November.
Something I can look forward to. (If I get my health sorted out that is).
Well Part time anyway.
So lets hope I can get my arm sorted out.
I was a physio today, so I am stiff and sore from that now, but I was before I went anyway.
I feel a bit more hopeful than I did. But I would prefer to see the council sorted out, and the housing issues addressed before I believe anything.
I think we are mostly on top of the finances, although if the girls do get Disabilities sorted out, then we may get a little bit more. But I believe I can probably cope, if we can get the DVD and choccies sorted out.!!
You might be right, could be we might be able to sell them on the Ebay or something. If I can persuade them to part with them.
Thanks for all the votes of confidence. That does help.
re family, they are not close enough to help, and my sister lives in France. Parents go their alot. months on end, as my sister is disabled.
But they do talk to me on MSN when they can, and would do more if they could.

gigglewiggle

I note you mention family but no friends, is that an oversight or deliberate?

You very kindly offered an ear earlier, if you need one yourself you can PM me.

Savvy_sewing

gigglewiggle wrote: »

I note you mention family but no friends, is that an oversight or deliberate?

You very kindly offered an ear earlier, if you need one yourself you can PM me.

No it was not that I dont have friend. It was that I had other things going on and family was the first explanation. Then I ended ubruptly as other things were going on in the house. I have a boyfriend. I love him with all my heart, but he does not like me to talk about him to anyone. What we have is private. He doesnt like the idea of me talking to strangers.
I do mention him as DBF.
He has done his best to support me. He has been the rock. But as the word goes, I sometimes cannot reach him at my moment of need, or sometimes I just dont want to burden him anymore than I already do. If I lost him, I dont know what I would do.
I had a best friend until about a year ago, but with my moving we lost touch really.
Dont worry about me, I have been through worse, I will get through this. I am sorry that I posted without mentioning my friend too.

Savvy_sewing

By the way gigglewiggle, I thought you had a brother not a sister? Maybe I have the wrong person.?
But I have to confess, I am never really sure who I am talking to on here, and I may have remembered incorrectly. I use this site normally for the annonimity, for the support without attachments and just the need to vent off at times that are not convenient to those I love and hold so close.
I fear that if I tell my nearest and dearest at the moment of my distress or frustration that I will put fear into them. As I know that it will pass, and I will be the same old solid, strong, independant person that they all think that i am. (dispite I have told them all its all a facade!)
But hey ho.
i get it wrong sometimes.
I note that your an engineer. I never looked at profiles before. Strange. It never occurred to me.
Dont know what made me tonight? Oh yes I vaguely remember you asked me how I knew you lived locally when you first made yourself known to me.
To confess I still didnt think to look then.
Maybe I am nieve.
Well its very late and I must get to bed. I have no painkillers left, If i was not in pain before, I certainly am now.

I am allowed to digress its my thread!!
To all of you out there that have read my thread, gosh over a thousand. I thank you.
I am happy to say that I may be stuck in a 2 bed flat with my girls, but Iknow that they do deep down love me for who I am, and although they dont always show it, occasionally they shine like rare pearls.
Tonight was the best.
To my twins, I salute them, Mummy falls apart sometimes, but they love me nomatter what.
Twin 2 appologiesed to me tonight, BBJ smiled.
Twin 1 made me a cup of tea, and BBP laughed.
DDS just told me about aliens and war games. Thats my life. xx:T

Savvy_sewing

Ok so its 20 mins later. Ihad to come back and edit. Spellings. I am terrible for typing so fast that I get the letters the wrong way around.
Luckily I doubt anyone is out there.
I am closing down now.
Thanks for all the support.
Perhaps this is not the right place for me at the moment. Causes too much heart ache.
Night all. Bye

Seaxwyn

Morning Mooloo - I hope you have a great day. I'm sure every mother on here can relate to what you say, it's just that you have a few more people to care for than most of us.

I agree with you - I like this place for the anonymity, and would feel uncomfortable if I thought anyone 'knew' me in the real world too. And this is a place for writing what we want - mostly money related - and we don't have to share any other details.

Keep posting if it helps you - and we'd miss you if you stopped.

Surfbabe

Seaxwyn wrote: »

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Keep posting if it helps you - and we'd miss you if you stopped.

Hear, hear. I might not have the problems you have Mooloo but I think you are coping fantastivcally - I'm not sure I could in your circumstances.

I think of this site as a mutual support site as well for what ever reason it may be. Sometimes you need to talk to people that don;t know you and won't be judgemental.

Hope you have a better day today.

Savvy_sewing

Unfortunately for me, this is no longer an annonamous site. Its been breeched somewhat.:eek: Not that there is anything I have said on here that i regret. I dont.
What has been said on here, is me, pure and simple,. as I thought that nobody knew me.
But I now feel uncomfortable, and wonder what else is being "infiltrated" my diary, my emails, my texts and now here have all been subject to underhand or surrupticious, readings. So apart from the person who has distrusted me so much, that they feel the need to try and catchme out, at what ever it is in life they mistrust, I have enjoyed the site.
I will go back to just the grocery challenge and posting the odd recipes as sometimes asked.
My thread is no longer. thanks ladies. (and possibly men, it was pointed out to me!) I appreciated the support.:T