Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Errata

It looks like you're going to have to ask for help in moving from your parents, your son, Biggest, and your OH. You'e done plenty for all of them in the past, now it's their turn to help you out.
Can you asap move some of your DS and your stuff over to your parents and Biggest's as a halfway house ?
If you will physically struggle with the Twins and babies stuff tell their social worker they'll have to help out.

The mixup over the Jobcentre appointment is a nuisance. Take it easy.

Savvy_sewing

Well the weekend in Oxford went by far too quickly!. I took the baby over to his other grandparents, and collected him again yesterday afternoon. They brought him back wet, they had gone out for the day house hunting, and hadnt any spare nappies to change him into!! Brilliant, meant he was wet all the way home. Luckily after a bath he was fine. No nappy rash. But the car seat now needs to be cleaned. Its a new seat too!. (Well only been used about 6 times!). The twins and thier boyfriends managed to keep the house in good order. Which is a bonus. Although I think that it was more the boyfriends then the twins doing.
I am a bit fed up of having a house full of people, as DS and his mates are all around too. I have retired to my room, to hibernate this morning. But it is the easter holidays so I suppose its best they are around and I know where they are.
I could do with a little bit of me time. So that I can gather my self together and to get organised ready to move.
My parents are away at the moment, and will be off to France for the summer in a few weeks time. So they are not going to be able to help much. My son is going to have to step up to the mark. At least he is looking foreward to our move and is being positive about it. I was worried about him, as we are going to be in a little village without even a shop, but he is going to have a moped so hes happy. I am hoping that his father is going to help with that. He said he would, so lets hope that for once he does something he says. DS will be working for DAF in Daventry apparantly. So his life is taking shape.
The twins seem to be settling with the idea that they will be in New Horizons, and apparantly someone is coming to see them from there next week. Letter arrived on Saturday.
The down side of moving, is that when I wanted to show my BF the place, he was not interested. I have tried talking about the cottage, and the changes that are about to happen with him, but he doesnt comment. He just lets me get on with things.
So thats what I will just have to do. I am hoping that I will not have to keep on moving though. Its very tiring. Will have to downsize alot, and that is quite a daunting task!. What will I prioritize?
I will have to reduce the clothes I have!. At the moment, I have 3 wardrobes and 3 chest of drawers pretty well full to the brim!! Oops. Least I have stuff I have had since I was ummmmm in my twenties!!!! Oh dear!!

Savvy_sewing

Well it has taken me 3 minutes short of 5 hours to fill in the Disability Living Allowance forms. I am still not 100% happy that I have done it correctly, but I suppose time will tell. I could not wait for Welfare Rights to help me, and have used some guidance I was steered towards.
I am aching all over, and starving hungry. Missed Lunch. Noticed nobody has been to see if I am ok or not!! Could have died up here and nobody would have noticed!!
Time to zap my heat pad in the microwave and have a lie down. See if I can find something to put between some bread first though..

Savvy_sewing

Well I am feeling very tired. Twins cooked chicken and pasta for tea, but I have no apetite for it today. It looked as bland as it tasted, so I gave up. Not that it will kill me to miss a meal occasionally. I did manage to have a cuppa soup and a couple of slices of bread earlier. I am incredibly sore today. I think bending over that DLA form has done me in. I am struggling to type at the moment. But its only for a few moments at a time. Then I stop.
I have been trying to get my head back into a positive mode, re listening to my Paul McKenna CD and trying to focus on a happier time etc.
I want to wake up tomorrow and have the energy to start sorting out my clothes. HOpefully my friend is going to come over and help me. So that I dont keep things that are way passed thier use.
My digital camera has gone up the spout, so taking pictures and putting things on EBay will have to wait until I can borrow a camera from Biggest of Mooloo or maybe my Dad when he gets back off of his easter holidays.
I dont suppose I will have much call for my Wedding Dress, or my many "posh" frocks that I had when I used to run a pub. MInd you I did donate a lot of my evening stuff to the BHF when we were short of dresses once a year or so ago.
There is bound to be plenty to take to charity, as I have got to reduce my wardrobe by at least two thirds. All the size 8's might as well get sold off or given away. Due to the gabapentin I have put on over a stone and a half, if not more, and am now tipping into size 12 instead of size 10 even. So that will illiminate a good 60% of my wardrobe I would say. I was hoping to slim down back into some of my better clothes, but I have to be realistic. They are just not going to be needed in a village! Warm clothes for the winter, and trousers and tops for the day I suppose. Although I will keep a few "posh" frocks for Christmas and anniversaries. Just in case.!!
Now will be a good time to get rid of all the miss matched stockings, pop socks, and the like!. Having someone along side me, will not only help me physically but will help me mentally to tackle this task too. Perhaps we can even manage a laugh or two, I know that there is a dress in the wardrobe that I wore when I was 17. So thats 30 years old. I have worn it a couple of times since, but as my Mum made it for me, I loathed to get rid of it. But I must I suppose. !!
Going to go and see if I can find this Flylady thread that has been suggested, and see if I can get something sorted out, to tackle my mountain of jobs.!
At least the house is still in a reasonable state at the moment, and I think that finally the boyfriends have gone. The car has gone out of the drive, and its very quite down there. Dont hear any guitars or singing. Heaven!. Just a low hum of the TV. DS has gone over to his mates at the other end of the town, and is stopping over there. When he comes home tomorrow I shall be directing him to his studies.! He has had a good break away in Oxford as well, so its time to get tough and get him to focus the last few days on his GCSE's. He only has until the 12th June and they will all be over. Thats not that long really.

jha

Here's the link to this weeks flylady thread mooloo - i think i am rubbish with links

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1621863

Savvy_sewing

Great, I am hoping that I will manage to catch up with some of the Flying, tomorrow, as well as the organising/sorting that I plan to start on my Wardrobe...s (All 3 of them, EEK)

Savvy_sewing

Morning, the sun is shining and I am hoping that I will be able to make a good start on the wardrobes. My mate is going to come along and see if she can help me. Even if its a decide is it a keep, throw or sell sort of thing. This is going to be a massive task.
BF has just sent me an encouraging text.
Sending twins off to get the basics for the lunch and I must do a on line shopping.

Surfbabe

Glad to see you are in positive frame of mind today Mooloo. We did the great wardrobe clear out with my DD yesterday - the door now shuts and I have 5 bags of clothes for either the charity shop or the clothes bank. 3 of these are dustbin bags so of course she now reckons she needs to go shopping !!!

Have a fruitful day - its DS 20th B/d today so not much on here !!!

Savvy_sewing

Surfbabe wrote: »

Glad to see you are in positive frame of mind today Mooloo. We did the great wardrobe clear out with my DD yesterday - the door now shuts and I have 5 bags of clothes for either the charity shop or the clothes bank. 3 of these are dustbin bags so of course she now reckons she needs to go shopping !!!

Have a fruitful day - its DS 20th B/d today so not much on here !!!

Oo if you did 5 bags then I will probably be doing twice that!!! :eek:
Happy Birthday to DS :bdaycake::bdaycake:two just incase there are lots of mates to eat!

Savvy_sewing

11 bags sorted out!. 5 went to charity, gift aided, 3 were bags for the rag man, but they get money for the weight, so better then nothing. Then there were actually 3 bags full of things that belong to the twins and the babies!.
Wardrobe is looking a lot less stuffed. (wardrobes, really as its like 3 side by side, double doors!)
Asda order done, delivery will be tomorrow. Its somewhere around £90. But it will be one of the last big orders that I make before I move. One fridge freezer is completely empty now. I shall clean it on Thursday, and then it will be ready to take over to the cottage at the end of the month. The larger freezer will have to wait until we are about to actually move. (If it will fit in the cottage). I hope so, as I only bought it two months ago.!! Even though it was second hand. I am hoping that I will be able to batch bake on my good days and then have stuff in the freezer for DS just to reheat if I am bad. But I will need him around when I do the batch baking as I cant lift heavy things, or the like!.
Will cross that bridge when I come to it!.
Tomorrow we have the meeting with Social Services, and the various other powers that be about the twins future. I dont expect it to be an easy one. But hopefully they will confirm that thier future is sorted out.