Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

K. Sorry was getting melancholy again. Must stay positive. I will find out sooner rather then later. I will keep asking the powers to be what I can do, and eventually surely I will come up trumps??
Apparantly I can earn around £90 a week on top of my ESA, if only I could find work. ?
However the council would then take that into account and most of that would be off set against Housing benefit and council tax benefit!.
Well I am really very tired, and although it is only Monday, I fancy a glass of wine before I go to sleep. If i can be bothered to go back down stairs.

Reckon I might need a camode in the cottage, as it has a downstairs bathroom, the lean too at the side of the house.
I would love to show the picture of it, but I cannot manage to post pictures, even though I have seen plenty people do it!!!

carolt2

What about volunteering somewhere, it may lead to paid work.. or going back to your old job for a few hours a week?
Yes your right you must stay positive..

As for the commode you mentioned did you have any type of assesment for your disability. You might be able to have an assesment that could indicate any equipment you may need to help you aroung the house....

Savvy_sewing

No I havent had an assessment. I did ask about it when I wrote to complain about the situation the SS had put me in. But apparantly I have to ask the Adult Assessment for myself. I dont get a referral. Perhaps once I have managed to move into the cottage I will have more time for all of that.? I dont need a commode as of yet. Its just that I do tend to get up several times in the night to go to the loo. At the moment I have a lovely ensuite so its not a problem. I was just thinking about the fact that I would have to go up and down stairs in the cottage....

Savvy_sewing

Hello, I had a visit from one of the Social Workers from the teenage support team. Twin2's worker. She has said that Twin2's referral to New Horizons has gone in, and that the other worker has given her Twin1's to hand in on Wednesday. Next week we are having a meeting with them, the Head of teenage Support, some one from New Horizons and the various Social Workers.
She gave me a letter to confirm it.
She has said that when we leave here, they will place the girls and thier babies either in the New Horizon flats or in one or other of thier places in Wellingborough, or Rushden or "wherever". She has said that I need not worry, and that they will not be left homeless.

So someone please can you tell me why this was not done before I had to shout, rant and rave, and give up!. Why did they wait for me to be at breaking point?

The estate agents rang and said that they want to show someone around here on Thursday afternoon! EEK They arent hanging around.!
So tomorrow is going to be a battle to tidy up the twins messy rooms etc.

Tomorrow evening DS and I have to go across to Oxford for a meeting with the YOT. Which I am not looking foreward to. I hope that it will be putting the problems from last September finally into the back.

I planned to go to see my BF after, and DS is going to see his girlfriend.
I will have to come back home earlier then planned on Thursday, which is my BF's DD's 16th Birthday. So no celebrating for me.

The social worker has told us that we are in our rights not to let the father of BBJ here anymore. (Or where ever we are living). She has suggested that we still let the baby go to his grandparents at the weekend, but we must tell them that it is a No Smacking policy, and that he must be careful how he lifts the child etc. If he comes back with any fresh marks then we are to tell her immediately. !!
When we broke the news to the father he went off on one, but he rang me back and asked me what was going on. He started to rant, but I managed to calm him down. My biggest fear is him turning up around here and causing a problem.!!
My best friend, who I havent seen for a few weeks came to see me this morning, and we went for a drive to see where the cottage is. She too was pleased. She said that she found it hard to keep her mouth shut when the twins etc are not helping me, etc etc She agrees that I need to have time with my son, and to not have all of this stress.
Lets face it, if he makes any mess he cannot blame it on the others!

I am going to have to down size dramatically. She said that she is off next week, so she is going to come over and help me "stand over" the packing, and on Tuesday we are going to blitz my many clothes and whittle them down to the best too keep. (I need her to give me moral support, and when I want to hang on to something inapropriate etc will be ruthless for me!!!)
Still cant get through to welfare rights, so I will have to consider the other route suggested to me, and see if I can get someone else to help me fill the DLA forms in.

Been surfing the net to see if I can get any cheaper house contents insurance then I have been quoted on my renewal, but so far that hasnt happened.

Edinburghlass_2

Mooloo, check out Quidco and MoreThan for contents insurance, they are giving £70 cash back at the moment and are very reasonable for contents only.

Good luck with your move and your future plans, I've been following your story a bit and this little cottage sounds ideal for you and your son.

Savvy_sewing

I went onto quidco, and the cheapest insurance was through Sheila's Wheels, with a possible £40 cash back, but as I am still waiting for Augusts Payment from them, of £75 cash back from my car insurance. I am not sure I want to put my contents insurance with them.... Every month quidco say they hope I will get the money by the next. Now they are saying they are hoping it will be by the end of May!!!! Are they waiting to see if I have a crash first?????

Savvy_sewing

I am very tearful this morning. I just broke down and started to cry when I was talking to twin2 about what we needed to do this morning. I feel I am just not well enough for everything that I have got to do now, to get ready for the various moves, and down sizing. I am exhausted and I havent done anything except hold a book today.!
I cannot describe the pain I am in? I think that I need to go and see the doctor again. See if he can help, as I cannot wait until the end of the month for the next Accupuncture treatment?
Today I am dreading the YOP meeting, and just the thought of it has given me an upset stomach. I just want the whole episode over and done with. September seems nearly a life time ago, with where we are today.!
I havent worked since then.!
Now I must go back down stairs and make sure that the girls are doing things and not just dancing to music that I can hear wafting up through the floor.
Also twin2's new boyfriend doesnt seem to have a home to go to, and I am worried that he is influencing her to stay up later at night, and to spend time with him and not doing the things that we need done, before this house is viewed tomorrow!!
Need a bit of Positive Mental Attitude to kick in. Perhaps a slow pace around the back garden to look at the plants will ease my fears and stresses away!
I have got to ring the Jobcentre and see if I can change my appointment, in the Pathways to work, because the Social Service's Meeting is at the same time!. Got to get my act together.

Savvy_Sue

Changing the subject slightly, you mentioned that your DS has a girlfriend. Please, can you sit him down for that embarrassing discussion about The Importance of Using Condoms At All Times, especially when you are young and in love ... if you are on good terms with the gf I might suggest she sits in on it too! She's seen the chaos, I presume!

I don't care how much you and he squirm about it, it needs to be said. Of course the best solution is for him to keep his trousers zipped up, but even if she (says she) is on the pill, condoms aren't a bad idea.

He has seen where these things lead. The last thing you need right now is another grandchild, however much you love them all.

Savvy_sewing

DS has had the talk, and has condoms just incase. He is not sleeping with his girlfriend. Her parents are there. She hasnt seen the chaos as she has never been here. He always goes there, when I go to my BF's.
He just gave me a hug when he found me in tears (again) and said that we would be alright. It is going to be hard for him too. In a remote(ish) village with nothing there. I will be getting him a Moped as soon as I can afford it, and we get him bike lessons etc. etc.
Twins have gone out, with babies (and boyfriend in tow), to pay in a cheque to the bank and to get the bread, milk and butter etc that we need. I dont want to do a big shop now. I want to run the food stocks down, and make it easier for me to get the freezers etc into my car! Unless I can beg and borrow a Van.

I have cleared up the recycling, swept the kitchen floor, and cleaned the downstairs loo etc. I can hear the kids just getting back.
Its time for me to rest. (Hence I came on here). But now I need to lie down on my back, to rest the neck!.
Will attempt to do the rest of my room after I have had a sleep. Least my room is not too bad. Its the paperwork strewn over the table and the boxes. But we are moving, so they will have to put up with boxes around!!.

When I rang the jobcentre and asked for my appointment to be changed they told me that I didnt have an appointment when my card said, and that my appointment was nearly 2 weeks later!!! And at a completely different time?
I am so frustrated with them!! What if the appointment had been earlier and I had missed it??? Oh it doesnt bare thinking about. But it does begger belief at times. He said I never had an appointment then!!! I said was he calling me a liar then? I have it written down on a card given to me by the person at the last meeting!!!!

jha

Chin up Mooloo!!! :grouphug:

Its tough enough to move house but when you are not well and got kids and grandkids in tow too it is going to be a challenge. When i had to move my parents into one house and myself and hubby into another in the same week i found it was helpful to do a bit at a time and use my brain rather than my brawn (not that i have got much brawn):rotfl:

Can you do a box at a time? and set yourself a little target of so many boxes per day? - or a half our challenge (see flylady thread) and make a plan of what needs to go where to help you? Maybe twin 1 boxes in one area, twin 2 boxes in another area etc etc?