Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

shaz_mum_of__2 wrote: »

Oh mooloo

Well done on putting yourself (and ds)first it sounds like you feel a bit more positive about the move and relinquishing care of the babies

I hope that everything works out as you want


Shaz

Oh so do I. I am weary with it all. I love them all dearly, but I also cannot be swamped any more.
Yes I am beginning to come to terms with the fact that I am putting DS and myself first. I just would like to get the best help for the girls and then I would be able to relax. The social worker for twin2 is coming to see us sometime tomorrow, but I dont know what time as she was supposed to ring me back but she didnt.
Apparantly home start rang back on Friday, but twin2 didnt tell me!.
Typical. They rang again today. But now that we are on the move we are not sure whats going to happen. I will hopefully have a better idea from the meeting tomorrow. I just hope that they get thier fingers out and sort things out for the girls. It would be lovely to be able to relax totally.!! But I suppose that is a long way off yet!

carolt2

Hi MOOLOO,

I stumbled across your thread yesterday ( recognised your name from the mouses and grocery challenge)
I must say that although it did take a few hours to read, i read all of this thread.

As other posters on here have said dont feel gulity for your decisions, your twins need to try and stand one their own 2 feet.
You need to think of yourself and your health.

Savvy_sewing

carolt2 wrote: »

Hi MOOLOO,

I stumbled across your thread yesterday ( recognised your name from the mouses and grocery challenge)
I must say that although it did take a few hours to read, i read all of this thread.

As other posters on here have said dont feel gulity for your decisions, your twins need to try and stand one their own 2 feet.
You need to think of yourself and your health.

Hello, Carolt2, I am sorry that it took you so long to read my thread. I am sure you could probably had better things to do.! What an up and down life I have had since I agreed to take the babies and mums in. Actually to be honest I have had a very up and down life all my life!! Lost count of how many times I have had to move house. This will be the 19th move since I left home when I was 19, and even then Dad was in the RAF so we moved all over the place, nearly as many places as my age!!!! EEK.
I just wish I could settle in one place. Suppose I need a lottery win to be able to buy my own place ever again!.

Must go and see if there is any dinner left? It was put in the oven ages ago!!

carolt2

Yes i probably could have found something better to do but once i started reading i wanted to get to the latest post on the thread.
No need to be sorry for the length of time it took me to read this thread.

Yes it does sound like you have had a up and down life but you did what any mother would do for their family.
Am hoping that when you and DS move into your cottage and the twins move into their own little places that things improve for you.
i can only imagine what a struggle the last couple of years have been for you but you must look to the future and keep your chin up.
Things might be abit difficult for a while but I am hopeful that you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, even if it's just a glimmer at the moment.;)

Savvy_sewing

Well I am planning to make my life simpler, and then try to get my health back on track. I am also hoping that DS and I can have time together, that we just dont get at the moment.
I am looking foreward to a more positive situation. Time will tell, but I am more optomistic then I have been in a very long time.
I am not sure how much of it is down to Prozac and how much of it is down to self preservation. Or could listening to my Paul McKenna change your life in 7 days actually be beginning to make that difference???? Well what ever it is I am along for the ride, so to speak.
I hope that i have a better nights sleep tonight, and then I will meet the Social worker tomorrow, with a determination that I have not had for a very long time!.:rolleyes:

Savvy_sewing

Before I went after the cottage i didnt think of the change of funding that we will be in. I am not sure but I have just posted on the £4,000 challenge, a question that I am not sure how I am going to live on £60.50 when DS leaves school, then I am going to loose the Child Tax credit and also the Child benefit and possibly the maintenance? I am not sure how I can life on £60.50 a week?
I know that its not immenent, but it will be happening soon. Why is the money so low? Its yet another question. Thats just over £3,000 a year? Surely nobody can live on that?
Back to nature then? Wonder if the landlord of the cottage will let me grow stuff in his garden?
I am going to have to sell everything I can manage to sell ASAP.
I know that once my son starts work then I will be able to get some board out of him, but he has to find a job first.!!

carolt2

i know these may not be of use now, and your probably already aware of these sites but you may find them useful.
Have you thought any further of applying for DLA,
Would you be entitled to incapacity benefit.

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/DisabledPeople/FinancialSupport/IncapacityBenefit/DG_10016082
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/DisabledPeople/FinancialSupport/DG_10011731
http://www.entitledto.co.uk

Savvy_sewing

carolt2 wrote: »

i know these may not be of use now, and your probably already aware of these sites but you may find them useful.
Have you thought any further of applying for DLA,
Would you be entitled to incapacity benefit.


http://www.entitledto.co.uk

Thank you. Yes I did try them. I will be able to get Housing benefit and Council tax benefit while my son is at school. after that it will all change again.
There is only one thing left for it. its to get better so I can go back to my work in charity and get a minimum wage.
Its scarey but I am sure that I can manage?/??????? Or is that wishful thinking.
Ever heard of the "good Life"? reckon that is going to be me soon.!!!:eek:

carolt2

Mooloo wrote: »

Thank you. Yes I did try them. I will be able to get Housing benefit and Council tax benefit while my son is at school. after that it will all change again.
There is only one thing left for it. its to get better so I can go back to my work in charity and get a minimum wage.
Its scarey but I am sure that I can manage?/??????? Or is that wishful thinking.
Ever heard of the "good Life"? reckon that is going to be me soon.!!!:eek:

Even at minimum wage you still might be able to claim working tax credit, this is calculated on household income..... When i was on it quite a few years ago i got £12 per month, not alot but better than nothing. While your son is still at school you can claim the single persons discount for council tax. As he wont be classed as an adult.
Find out if the property your going to move into has a water meter, this could work out cheaper than paying full rates.
I know you probably aware of most of this but am just trying to help.

And whats wrong with the "good life"???:D
There would be no harm asking new land lord about planting in the garden. They might be glad of it and at least it will be looked after.... you could even plant things in pots. and then that way you would not be digging up the garden..
Mrs Mc on GC does this and has had alot of success

***** if your son goes to further education/college you still might be able to claim child benefits.... my mum did until i was 19 but that was a few years ago and times have changed.

Savvy_sewing

I hear the landlord of the cottage is a local farmer. Perhaps he will give me a corner to cultivate? Possible place for DS to get some part time work if he has the nose for it?
I am disappointed in my family today. Dispite asking for help to bring in washing, and to tidy up the "den" of a garage, nothing.
I left them with the joint in the oven, and asked for potatoes and brocolli to be done. Nope. No dinner.
I had to reheat some Chilli left over from Saturday. Luckily I was able to carry the plate up to my room. I cant always manage that.
Dispite the fact that the girls said that they would finish the dinner, and bring me a cup of tea, I waited nearly 3 hours before I got my own.
Problem is that it means they have not eaten a proper meal, and eaten what? As it was benefits day, does that mean that they are spending it on Junk food?