Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

anguk

Good luck with the head of the Support Team, hopefully she'll get her team to actually support you!

Jo4

Good luck. I hope you make lots of progress with the Support Team!

Errata

Good luck, hope things improve. You do an awful lot, but it looks like right now sorting out the twins, their babies, your son and you has to take priority over you or a twin running around because of the heating in Biggest's flat.

Savvy_sewing

This is the first time that I have managed to get on to the computer. Thursday was a bit of a day for me!. The Social Worker lady, wanted to know what it was I wanted! Ha. Thats easier said then done.
She brought with her someone to take notes.
I had to go over our life story again. From being a single mum, loosing our home when the kids Dad left. The twins diagnosis. Why we moved. ETc etc.
Then she wanted to know what it was I expected from them. I said Support. That I didnt feel that my needs were being taken into account. I said that DS is side lined. That I feel isolated. That the twins, especially twin2, are not listening to me, and that they are unaware of health and safety issues, etc. That they have the knowledge, but not the links to put the knowledge into practise. That they need someone to visit them daily, to check on them, to enourage them and to help them as I cannot do it. They dont listen to me as I am Mum.
They asked me to fill in a Referral Form, to access the Adult Social Services!. Why were they being seen by teenage support workers when they are 20, and the systems that they have knowledge about, (the social I mean) run out when most of the teenagers hit 20!. By then they are expected to be able to care for themselves. !
The twins did come into the room after about an hour. Needed them to sign a conscent letter to say that Social could refer them.
The lady said that they have shared accommodation with others in some houses in Wellingborough. But they want to have a few meetings, have the girls assessed, and see what else they can come up with.! The girls have agreed to stay with me for six weeks, while they do thier assessments.
Twin2 was all sweet and light, but as soon as they were gone, she was back to her ways.
I took the baby to the other family on Friday afternoon and brought him back on Sunday. Twin2 went out on Friday night when I had gone, and stayed out.
I was desturbed by the girls ringing me, twin1 didnt want twin2 to leave her on her own again on Saturday, but dispite my telling her that she needed to stay home and to do her jobs etc, she left her sister on her own with her baby. She was abusive and hung up the phone on me twice before switching her phone off!.
She wasnt back when I got back with the baby either. She came in about 6.30pm Sunday evening. I was not very happy at all.
We had the arguements etc all over again this morning between the twins. It started at 7.30am!! One minute they were arguing and saying they couldnt stand each other. Then when they had finally done the jobs I insisted needed doing they went off together into town???? I give up. They may be 20 but they act like 12/13year olds.!!!
It is tiring me out.

I was expecting to see the support worker/social worker or what ever she is called today, but she didnt make an appointment today.

When twin2 was arguing with me about staying home to keep her sister company, (she had been out Thursday and Friday night), she ranted at me that I could keep BBJ and she would leave, as she was 20, and could do what she liked!. It scared me somewhat. But when I asked her about her outburst on Sunday evening, she said she didnt even remember saying it!!

I really am at my whits end.
The sad thing is that DS and I are going to have to leave this lovely house, just as he is going to do his exams too!!. Becuase now that I have lost my job, I cannot afford the £1200 rent, and Housing Benefit will only cover £400 of it. I dont have a spare £800 a month. (Wish I did, as I really dont want to have to move), But the girls housing allowance will go with them when they are moved into assisted living. I cannot give notice here, as we dont know how long it is going to take, and I cannot therefore secure another home.
I rang the council today and asked them what to do. But all they could do was say they will send me another form to change my details, and that when we have a date for the girls to move on, (if indeed they do). then I could go in and have a chat!!. Great, I want things finalised and sorted out while I am still in a home, not when I am out on my ear.!!!!
Oh why is life so complicated?????

Savvy_sewing

Twins just telephoned, the bus driver wont let them on the bus, with the buggies. So I have to go into Northampton to collect everyone.! Just as I was thinking about the dinner!!

Savvy_sewing

I had accupuncture today. Feel even worse. (Hopefully will feel better tomorrow!). Back to the doctors an hour later to take BBJ for his Jabs. twin2, his mum did come, I just drove. But all the driving, stop start and parking has played its toll on my arm.
Just reading my emails and thinking that I am so exhausted I need a sleep. I over did it yesterday, driving to and back from town, cleaning the patio windows, (not verywell looking out of them today!). I also put the first paint coat over the patch in the sittingroom that the babies had drawn on. I gave up asking the Mums to do it when the babies were in bed. I have been asking for two weeks at least!.
Had a quick visit to my parents for a cup of tea. Cant get MSN on my laptop anymore, link is broken or something!
Actually I think I will go for a lie down. Really am struggling.
Finally finished filling in the ESA assessment form. Just got to photocopy it, then I can post it. Where is the paper? Why does it always disappear when your not looking!.

Savvy_sewing

Well I feel a bit better. Listened to my Change your life in 7 days CD. (Still trying to change my life in 7 weeks I think!). Then fell asleep. Twin2 woke me at 3.30pm.
I have finished photocopying the ESA form and posted it. Found some paper in the hall. (Dont ask!).
DS did an extra hour after school. He now has about 5 other teenagers in the house/garden. Its looking quite dull out there, so I must keep my eye on the washing out on the line and the airers!.
Twins now doing babies dinner. (Just have to heat up the rice, veg, and gammon I cooked yesterday, so that should be easy for them.)
Now I want to get some inspiration for some menu planning. So over to the Debt Free and the old style.
We currently have a bit of peace reining in the house? So I am going to enjoy it while I can.

Savvy_sewing

Woke up sluggish but determined to be positive today. Managed to hang out 2 loads of washing, and do the kitchen before 9am. Then after a bit of breakfast I had my shower etc. Telephoned the Welfare Rights, and the answer machine said that they are not able to offer the service today!. Again.!!!
Sat outside on the decking and read my book for about an hour and a half. Deliberately making the best of the glorious sunshine that was there. Even sat in a sleeveless top, and I have caught the sun!.
After lunch, that twin2 made me, (shes still being nice today too), I went for a walk down into the main street to get my prescription. I found 1p on the way down. Then as I walked a few doors down to the charity shop I found a 2p. To top it all, I changed direction to go home as my hip/leg was getting bad, and found a £1 coin in the side of the road!!! As I get my prescriptions free, I actually gained some money today!!
Unfortunately it is too far for me to walk really, (without a rest) and by the time I got home, I had to have my tablets and go for a lie down!.
Was planning to go and visit my BF tonight, as all was well at home, but he is planning to go sailing for the first time this season, with one of his sons, so I am staying at home.
Twins are just bathing the babies.
Twin2 is probably being good as she has met an old school boyfriend, (who has come over with twin1's boyfriend), and she is now "in love" already!!
To put things into perspective in her "fantasy" world, she is after two days, in love, the boy wants to be a Dad to BBJ, and she is getting washed and dressed up, make up the lot!!. On her Facebook she has said she is getting married. Eldest of Mooloos rang me in the middle of the afternoon to tell me! One of her friends had text her and asked if it was true!!!
So you can see, its not the normal attitude of a 20 year old is it!!!
I think we fell in love when we were about 12 and dreamt of marrying our boyfriends, scribbling thier names on every spare piece of jotter we had!!! Then a few weeks later it would be another boy!!
(Or was that just me becuase I was in a convent, boarding school, so could only dream?).
Anyway my £1.03p is in my savings tin, ready for a deposit in my dream future!!
Did I tell you that Biggest of Mooloo is happy again as her BF is back on the scene, full of appologies and wanting to marry her!! Whether that will happen I dont know. We will have to wait and see.
Think I need to practise my sewing skills again, just in case I need to make the dress. As I made my own dress and all the bridesmaid ones, it has been always expected that I make the families.!! But I wont get my hopes up, cos I cannot afford to send my girls off into wedded bliss!. Mind you I hope that nobody elopes!!!

Savvy_sewing

Struggling this morning. Something to do with the dull weather!. Been reading my emails and a few threads. The last two hours have been non productive really!. Kids had a few people sleeping over last night. So thank god for the big bag of sausages I had in the bottom of the freezer.
Realise that the sun does make a big difference to the way that I feel.
Not got a set plan for today. Biggest of Mooloo is in her flat today, waiting for the repairs people so I am going to see if I can walk that far. Maybe have a cup of tea with her. Need to learn my limitations as I overdid it yesterday. I can no longer walk to the highstreet and back again.!
Will try tringing the Welfare Rights again this afternoon. Lets hope they are there this time, or time for me to fill in my DLA forms will have run out!.
Time to listen to my motivational change your life CD again!!!!
I can do this. I can be positive. I can find something to focus on!! (Cant I?)

Must find out if the ESA need another doctors note yet, must remember to keep track of the dates etc.
Time to move.

Savvy_sewing

Well after seeing biggest of mooloo's I had to get the rest of my prescription from the chemist. I decided to visit the estate agent a few doors down and ask about what 2 bedroomed properties were around, and the ones that may take people on housing benefit. This has resulted in me going to look at a cottage a bit later today. I have to give 2 months notice from this house, so I really need to find out very soon, what the Social Services are going to do. There is no way that I can pay 2 lots of rent on this big house! I am worried about having to move yet again, so soon, and right in the middle of DS's GCSE's. I wanted help, but I fear I have stirred up a hornets nest of problems for myself and my son too!.