Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

Amazing. The Estate agents have done thier search, we paid the deposit by bank transfer yesterday, its in today! So Biggest of Mooloo gets her keys to her flat tomorrow! !! She is so excited.
I am just leaving for Oxford to take BBJ to his other grandparents, DS to his girlfriends and me, to my BF. He is taking me out to a posh restaurant tonight!! So my best Jane Norman Frock is out, and my strappy sandals, as they are the only black shoes I have.. Lets hope it doesnt rain or my feet will get wet!.
The earrings I ordered off of EBAy arrived successfully. The person also included a free pair of earrings as a thankyou to celebrate her first day of sales. How lucky is that!. Yipee. There is luck out there!!
TAke care everyone, not sure if I will get on until Monday, but you never know what the weekend will bring.
I may be in a lot of pain today, but I am going to top up all my medication before we go out, and hope for the best.

jha

Sorry you had a rough day yesterday Mooloo! I am jumping up and down :j for the biggest of the mooloo's - they must be overjoyed getting the keys.

I have read all your thread and think you are amazing:T :T :T

have a nice meal with bf tonight.

SuziQ

Wishing you a fantastic weekend Mooloo you deserve it.

Jo4

Enjoy your weekend!! Well done to biggest of Mooloo, didn't take her long to get her own place.

Savvy_sewing

Just popped on to check my emails and have a quick natter with my mum on MSN. its a lovely day here in Oxford, have been out in BF's garden, but thought I would grab the chance of using the computer when non of the kids are on it. (which is rare). BF's daughter has started to sunbathe! I have done a little weeding. But have not been that well all week, and struggling since I over did it earlier in the week. My hip has been the worst!.
We went out for a meal on Friday, to Malmaison. the Prison in Oxford that has been converted into a hotel. Wow, it was an amazing place and we had a lovely meal, even better as it was MSE with a voucher for a meal for two including wine, £29 + service charge... It was truely lovely.
Then one of BF's friends and his girlfriend asked us to go out for a meal last night, so we went to another restaurant, all you can eat, Thai, Chinese and indian, so its been a very enjoyable weekend as I havent had to cook anything!.
Going to pick up DS at 2.30 and head back to Towcester. The granddad of BBJ is going to bring him back home this evening.
I believe biggest of mooloo has been packing this morning and twin1 has been helping her. Twin 2 as usual disappeared the minute I left with her baby, and she is not home yet. Gone off with that girl I do not like, that I put up for about 6 weeks last year!. (Sure she was something to do with my missing money box and purse that time! but of course I cannot prove it!),
I dont normally have an acquising mind, but too often things have been a bit odd when she was about. etc etc so say no more.
Right I am off to the garden again to enjoy the sun while I can. It always helps with the depression when the sun is shining. It sort of gives hope at this time of year, of better things to come... Ha, Maybe, I have still been finding the odd penny or two on the ground or in corners of pockets etc! Thats a good omen I am sure!
Take care everyone and those that have sun, get out and enjoy it if you can.

SharonW_2

Hi Mooloo

I'mnew on here, but have watching your thread for a while before registering.

Exactly what disabilities do your twins have?

I can't help but feel they are really quite lazy. They are grown adults and need to take respponsibility for their own kids. They seem to behave like children themselves. They need a good boot up the a**e if you ask me!

I think you need to stop the shouting as they clearly don't take you seriously. An individual chat where you explain in a calm and EXTREMELY firm tone that their behavior is a disgrace seems to be what's needed.

You go out to work, despite your pain to providea better life for everyone, even their kids, which they don't seem to do in any great way. You come home to a dirty house as they do nothing but make excuses! Time to make them face up to their responsibilities, me thinks! They seem to show very little respect for you and are happy to sit back and watch you struggle! No wonder the SS are always on their back!

Think you need to take back your life a bit more Mooloo! x

Savvy_sewing

Hello, Well I am no longer working. Had to give it up when stress levels and pain levels hit a non tolerable state.
The girls have ADHD, Dyslexia, Dyspracia and autism (mild.). Their mental age is that of a young teenager. Around about 12-14years So it is hard even though they have no physical or visible disability. Its the juvenille state that is the main problem.
They want to be 20year olds, know that they are, but just cannot step up to the mark.
Yes, I also know that some of it is lazyness. Lack of focus being the problem too.
Dyspraxia, is a form of clumsyness. So their co-ordination is not good.
They have no real concept of time, (like most kids) and they really do not notice thier surroundings, so therefore they are unaware of dangers that normally we would pick up on. Mostly due to the attention deficite.
I don't always shout at them. I do take them aside individually and try encouraging them. Shouting is a last resort, not the first. I know that that doesnt always help. I try very hard not to shout, but sometimes I am at my wits end.
Things with twin1 are a lot better then with twin2. unfortunately, the pair of them are at loggerheads, like most kids, and instead of helping each other, they argue over things instead of getting them done.
It was your turn, I did it last time, sort of stuff.!
Since we have moved, Social Services here have not been so involved, which is why I am still struggling, and why I have put in a letter explaining my situation, as I feel that they were not really fully aware of what the problems I am having are.

Biggest of Mooloo mostly moved out yesterday. When I got back from Oxford It was seats out of my people carrier, and sofa's in.! So she slept there last night.
Not all of her stuff has gone, but the place already seems empty without her, and I missed the morning natter over a cup of tea before she went off to work.! But hopefully she will have re gained her wings, her independance, and I can relax about her for a little while anyway.!

I am determinded to be more positive, and daft as it may seem, I think that the fact that I am continuing to find the odd 1p, 2p and 5p on the ground is a sign of a change to me. (Well I didnt mean that to be a pun!).
Ok so my arm has had enough typing for a few minutes. Time to finish checking my email and get ready to do battle with DS's school about the missing software for his IT course!. Life is never simple. Oh for the Good Life!

Havent seen the ducks outside today. Wonder if their egg is abandond?

Savvy_sewing

Well I had a meeting at DS's school, and we have come to an agreement to reduce the number of GCSE's he is to do, so he can spend more time on the subjects he is not so far behind with. I hope that will take some of the pressure off of him and that he will be able to catch up. Lets hope.
I went around to see my Mum and Dad, and went to have a mooch around the charity shops with them, (all two of them). I got a pair of Laura Ashley wide legged black trousers, for £2.50!!! Result.
Also a little dress for BGP and a tee shirt for DS.
Was walking along with the parents and Dad noticed the 1p on the floor. A nice shiney new penny!! See the luck is with us.
This afternoon the girls had gone out so I took the opportunity to have a long soak in the bath! Luxury. Peace and quite.
I also managed to plant my Sweet pea seeds, and my freesia bulbs. So I feel as though I managed to do a few different things today. For a change.
Biggest of Mooloo popped in around 8pm after work. She is happy about her flat but doesnt know anything about the storage heaters. So shes cold. Double blankets for her tonight then. Lucky we are having some good weather.
Tomorrow I am at the nurse to see if she can sort out my deaf ear, then I hope to get on with more odds and sodds jobs that have been hanging around for too long too mention.

Savvy_sewing

Last night was a parents meeting at the school, to talk to us about the revision etc our kids are going to have to do, with Exams starting 12th May.
Mind mapping, memory games etc... I just managed to cope through the first hour, but didnt make it to the second hour. I was home and in bed by 8pm!.I over did ita bit yesterday by walking with the babies. I used the clip on the buggies to take them for a walk to my parents....Never again. Well not with the little strollers we have. They have fixed wheels, so I couldnt go anywhere unless I was in a straight line.! Even though it was only 10 minutes away it was too much. We had to unclip the strollers, and my Dad had to walk back pushing one of them for me!.
Today I have to go to the Jobcentre, as our wonderful government are trying to send me back to work. Granted it is 6 months today since I went off sick, the last time. Which is a while, but I only lost the job 2 months ago. The docotor still has me signed off until first or second week of April!
But if I dont go, they will cut my money. (HOw do you cut £60.50 to anything less?) No doubt the government would if they could!.
This afternoon we are expecting a visit from the Family Centre people, from Daventry. They are coming to see if they can do something about the girls and the babies.
Be interesting.
Now I better try and get myself dressed. ITs going to take me a while to get around and about this morning.

Savvy_sewing

Hello, well I am unfortunately still struggling. I really did push myself too the limit with the buggies the other day. My neck hasnt felt this bad in months.
It was bad enough, but this is making me feel sick.! That will teach me.

I was at the Jobcentre plus yesterday morning. The lady was very nice, and talked through all the options I have. The compulorsy courses etc, the medicals I will have to attend etc etc. She also said why wasnt I getting DLA, I said I was refused it, in November. She said that I should re-apply. Get someone to help me fill it out again, and if I am turned down to appeal. And appeal etc etc.
Apparantly I could earn around £90 and work up to 15 hours and 59 minutes for the next year... I explained that that would be good, if I could work, but what job could she suggest I do? Training was her result, but what training and for what?? Just so I am not on the unemployed list I suppose!.
I was in a bad way, so I didnt meet with the family centre lady, I had to let her chat with the girls on her own.
Today I just managed to drive the car to drop twin1 at the jobcentre, but that was too much for me. She came back on the bus after. I have tried to sit in the garden. Struggle when I see things that need doing and I cant do them. I am wondering how long I will be able to drive. Wish I could afford an automatic car!!
This afternoon the lady from homestart came to see me, and the twins, but twin1 had gone to bed when her baby had gone down, and the lady came an hour early. So she just sat talking to me and twin2. She has taken our history, and my needs/mums needs and is going to put us on the "waiting list"
for a sutable volunteer. There is a bonus, they have an outing in August to Guliver's land for the mums and babies and thats funded by the charity. So something for the family to lookforeward too.
Now I need to go back to citizens advice, as I cant seem to get through to Welfare rights, and see if someone else can help me fill in the forms for DLA that the job centre gave me. See if they word things any better for me.
Now, sorry but I need a rest. Not going to Oxford this weekend. I couldnt drive if I had wanted too. Not again today anyway.