Money Moral Dilemma: Should we drive my mother-in-law over when she doesn't pay towards petrol?

pollypenny

MACKEM99 said:

When my mum was around several years ago I drove 160 miles to her house.  Stayed overnight and brought her back to our house next day to stay with me and my other half for Christmas.  The weather was terrible both ways, very heavy snow.  Took her back using same method.  I would never have dreamed of asking for her to pay.  On other occasions  I paid return train fare for her to visit us.  She is my mum!😀

We used to do a similar thing for my parents. We left it was important for the kids to know their grandparents and vice versa.  

ShinyStarlight1

MSE_Kelvin said:

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

My mother-in-law, 80, wants to visit me and my spouse. All of us are retired. My mother-in-law doesn't drive, and it's an 80-mile round trip to collect her and take her home again. In the past, she hasn't offered to pay towards petrol, and while she's not short of money, she rarely shares anything with us. How do we deal with this?

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Perhaps you could pay for one way and she could pay for the other. So the cost gets divided.