Money Moral Dilemma: My partner eats more than me, so should he pay more of our food shopping costs?

MACKEM99

stevefrazer1969 said:

CapeTown said:

JGB1955 said:

You'll need to discount the number of 'excess' showers you have, shampoo used, feminine hygiene products bought on the weekly shop, etc etc..... you get my drift.

To be fair, feminine hygiene products should be free. We are women and we provide children...

That's true, and something else JGB1955 missed is that the poster could just as easily be a man with a beard! 

According to Primark changing rooms there are women and other genders.

vacheron

caprikid1 said:

My partner spends enormous amounts of time using all manner of electric devices to do her hair, Tongs, dryers electric showers etc also always puts makeup products in the weekly shop. I on the other hand have no hair and wear no makeup, should she contribute more to the electricity bill and the weekly shop. I use 1 can of lynx every month.

I feel you!

My wife apparently "needed" a £300 Dyson hairdryer last year to replace her 5 year old, perfectly working hairdryer.
Meanwhile I am still buzz cutting my own hair using the same cast iron Wahl hair trimmers I bought 27 years ago for £17

JB50MSE

Yes. My partner eats significantly more and drinks significantly more than me. We split the home food and drink shopping bills two-thirds to one-third. Everything else is split half and half. He suggested this and we have both been happy with this for more than 20 years. It’s only fair. 

cantbelieveit23

My first thought was that how much somebody ate and whether they ate breakfast at home was a ridiculous issue, then it dawned on me that I am on a totally different planet to many who post here!  Marriage must be the ultimate partnership, and should not involve retain your own personal money.  When my wife and I got married, we closed our individual bank holidays and opened one joint account.  That is how we operated for at least 25 years: my salary was higher, she had years as a full time mum, and also inherited more from her family, but we never calculated any of that and just shared everything.  In recent years, we have opened individual accounts to take advantage of tax free ISAs, insurance packages, cash back and linked savings accounts.  When we have spare cash for savings, we pay alternately into our ISAs.  If one of us dies (or leaves), we will each have 50% shares of two properties, and the same amount of "cash".
We always discuss any items of significant expenditure.
I don't get all this about contributing different amounts to a shared fund, and each retaining different amounts of personal cash.
Complicated, and demonstrates no trust in the person who should be a partner for life.
It suggests that marriage is not a suitable "business" in that case.
My apologies, I realise that I must be in a very small minority here!

Murphybear

Cutmeownthroat said:

Yes he should, I'd also check how much toilet paper he uses and charge him if he uses more than his fair share.
Don't forget to monitor his electricity and water usage as well...



A marriage is a partnership not a business 

Don’t forget you probably use “lady products” that he doesn’t  .  

We opened a joint account and pay into it regularly.  That is used for supermarket shopping.  He probably gets more out of it than I do, he certainly eats more.  That’s quite common, men often/usually eat more than women.  I don’t really care, we’ve been a partnership for 30 years next year.

ps I do eat a lot more Marmite crisps than he does 

Cutmeownthroat

Murphybear said:

Cutmeownthroat said:

Yes he should, I'd also check how much toilet paper he uses and charge him if he uses more than his fair share.
Don't forget to monitor his electricity and water usage as well...



A marriage is a partnership not a business 

Don’t forget you probably use “lady products” that he doesn’t  .  

We opened a joint account and pay into it regularly.  That is used for supermarket shopping.  He probably gets more out of it than I do, he certainly eats more.  That’s quite common, men often/usually eat more than women.  I don’t really care, we’ve been a partnership for 30 years next year.

ps I do eat a lot more Marmite crisps than he does 

I don't use any "lady products"...

Honestly I don't 😉

I should have picked Mr.Cutmeownthroat as a username 😁