Juggling mum/work life, whilst looking after my future self, both financially & healthily

jwil

Glad you got paid!  Hope you feel better soon x

missymoo81

Thank you for the well wishes @jwil. And thank you @redofromstart my staple supermarket is sains but pop into lidl on occasion. I thought I looked at Sains online for their pulses but I will gladly check again. I’ve had a look at amzn too and they’re cheaper on there. I really do need to scrimp in August so more veggie meals! 

ETA thank you so much, I have just checked and they are indeed half price. I will stop off on my way home from work tomorrow! 

Spendless

Sorry youve been ill. Years ago a hospital consultant told my husband that if you're 'low' but continue working without regular 'downtime' what happens is adrenaline kicks in and gets you through the day to day but the minute you stop work for a rest then slam you are prone to infection and ill. He compared it to driving along at high speed and then suddenly you see a brick wall, no opportunity to slow down you're going to hit it. I think thats whats happened here.

Glad youve been paid. On the subject of taking regular breaks, with the company you work for potentially having issues,  make sure you havent got loads of AL built up. You dont want a battle if the worst happens where the company hasnt enough money and youre owed holiday pay. 

biggerpickle

pleased you were paid @missymoo81 - I can't even begin to imagine that stress. Hope you're feeling better this morning.

missymoo81

Hi @Spendless thank you for your message, yes I believe you are right in that. My dad was the same, always got ill on holiday. I don’t have a lot of leave left but thank you for thinking of me. 

I got drenched at work so didn’t end up going into Sains, I did have to top up with fuel for £48, and got a £3 off a £30 spend so that might be helpful when I go to buy my beans when I’m back. Work was crazy. Meeting after meeting, there are lots of mutterings and bad feeling and whisperings about what is and isn’t happening, meeting still hasn’t happened either for the higher ups. I’m clinging on for dear life and feel like I’m fighting a battle with imaginary enemies. Oh and just to top my day off some guy, I don’t know his name, was sitting at a desk quite a way from me but was very noisily clipping his fingernails….. I mean…. Did he need to do that at work *insert sick face here*, the thought of it gives me shivers. 

 I am feeling a lot better thank you @bi@biggerpickle although OH now has a rotten cold. We go away for a couple of days tomorrow, all prepaid so although a tight month I can’t cancel or change this so we will enjoy it. Have done mountains of washing today so house looks like a laundrette. But at least it’s drying.

MSE things, ok so I did not buy breakfast at work today, it is a social Friday thing at work, I didn’t have any other food either but I ended up being on a call until after everyone came back so that was a bonus although I was very hungry….. and I didn’t even get anything from the vending machine *polishes halo*.

Anyway need to hang up this next load of laundry. Thanks for reading

missymoo81

Have just realised my massive faux pas, I don’t come back until 6th so I miss the chickpeas and kidney beans on offer at sains! 

missymoo81

Ok have been up since 0450 with OH shuffling around and being all coldy, I have indeed woken up with a cold myself hopefully I wont get it a badly. 

This is going to be a bit of a rambling post so feel free to skip. Just thinking about things. Obv my job is hanging in the balance I will know I think more in the next few weeks. I am going to apply for a public service job, I applied a couple of years a fo and got in but took current job instead. It’s just a lot of hoops to jump through to get the job in the first place a lot of it fitness related and I’m not as young or fit as I used to be. Shifts are days and nights so not sure what I would do for childcare. I need a cheap child minder that is happy to do as hoc and stay over night if OH is away, it’s really not a perfect situation. But a lifetime job with pension.

 I’m really concerned about applying for other jobs. This is my first job apart from running own business as management. So would look for that role but is hard to walk into a different industry and know what you’re talking about and be a manager. Couldn’t stay in same industry as it’s too small and no companies around here. I could be a PA and work from home, but I’m looking at a £15k pay cut. I really need to have a good look at what is out there I think and what I can do with little childcare. I haven’t looked at Indeed yet as @d@debtfreewannabe321 suggested way back. Ridiculously work is going to be crazy busy when I get back from leave so I wont even have time to breathe. I can have a look whilst I’m on leave. Should have had a look last week but being ill and not knowing quite how bad the mutterings at work had got, meant that I didn’t.  I do have next Sunday off though. So I can dedicate that time. Also OH is working away some of the folllowing week so I can dedicate my evenings to it too.

ok other things. I need to lose about a stone, maybe a little less, but my clothes are tight and I have lots that I can wear, they fit they just don’t look the best right now. So I need to try and get my head into that, I love food though and being used to feeding my training it’s hard not to overeat. I do need to get back into our garage gym though so that should help. When I’m going to find the time though I’m not sure. I do have all of my winter clothes I need. I think children can do with some new ones, I will have a look more end of sept time when money is better and go for Vinted stuff. I have now got a big bag to put on Vinted. That needs to be a priority too. 

Gosh I’m thoughtful this morning, have also sent out a lot of work emails as the thoughts came to me.

oh need to book Roos eye test, just reminded myself. Maybe I should get up at this time every day! 

Anyway must get ready to go on mini holiday. Thanks so much for reading my ramblings. I’m so grateful. I have a very small circle of friends in real life, literally a couple. So being able to chat on here makes all the difference.

Much love, Missy x

jwil

Good luck with it.  Public sector job sounds like a good idea.  Remember you got this job and offered the previous job - so you've clearly got the skills and come across well in interview.  

Have a good break and hope the cold eases off!

joedenise

Might be worth looking for a Civil Service job that is daytime hours only and when the children are old enough to look after themselves transfer into your preferred job with shifts.  It's relatively easy to transfer from one department to another - I did it a couple of times.  The only one I didn't take though was transferring from a London job to a local one as the difference in pay just was'nt doable - about £10K difference and my fares were about £2.5K so I was prepared to drop a bit but not that much.

fionaandphil

Universities and colleges may also be worth looking at as they are fairly decent pay, some are cutting jobs now but might be worth a look. Remember too that lots of places also offer hybrid working so you may be able to just go in a few days each week. Linked in also have jobs so may be worth looking there too.

Early morning ramblings are the best! Everything seems fresh in your mind, good to get it all down. Enjoy your break with OH