Money Moral Dilemma: Should my mum help with our childcare costs while she's on holiday?

Hazeld15

I can't beleive this question is being asked. Christ, the cheek of some people. I really hope you buy her something fabulous for Mothers Day

Bev_deV

MSE_Kelvin said:

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

My mum picks my son up from school three days a week, as his dad and I work full-time. On the other two days, we pay for him to go to an after-school club. My mum has just booked a two-week holiday in June, which means we'll have to pay for an extra six days at the after-school club while she's away. Should we ask her for a contribution towards the cost? Or should we just be grateful that she picks him up at all, and not say anything?

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I look after my grandchildren, and when I need a day off, I do put the childminder cost into my daughter’s vank account, because I know it’s a strain for them. But, she always says I don’t have to and is super grateful. However, if she asked for it or expected it, I would be very sad, but she never would, I brought her up better than that. 

SuzeQStan

I don’t think this is real

Grouchiest

Well what can we say.  The comments are like an election in North Korea, unanimous. This really can’t be a serious question.

gocurlygirl

Like many others we did not have grandparents to help with our childcare.We spent a lot of money on childcare,after school care was difficult at times,many childminders are unable to have children for an hour or so after school.We were lucky,we had several friends that helped us sometimes.while we cared for their children at others.
I would have loved a grandmother or/and grandfather who was able to do this.No doubt they and the children would enjoy it too.
I think this must be a spoof-who could possibly even think this.(if you are the grandmother, you will enjoy the childcare as time together, I am sure)
If a genuine question-Pay for her holiday and don't even think about asking her for any money.How much do you pay her?

retired19

As with other answers. Your mum is saving you 60% of your childcare fees. You should be offering her money towards her holiday not even considering asking her for money..
Try adding up how much you owe her for childcare and thank your lucky stars she is prepared to forgo it to help you out for the other 50 weeks of the year 

Bridgetanna

Uh, no! Of course not! She's already saved you a fortune...

oldnewhand

50 years back we only had what we could afford, including children! I understand accommodation whether renting or buying takes a large portion of salaries so two incomes help. If family live nearby and are available great but they should not be relied upon for free childcare to suit the child they have already brought up, quite possibly sacrificing their own career.  Let your mum know how much she's appreciated, this is your wake up call to take responsibility for your commitments.

squirrel59

Are you kidding?? Of course not! Yes, you should be jolly grateful she does as much as does for you.

shoeman123

If this is a 'true' dilemma, then that person needs her head looking at.  
Never read anything so ridiculous!