Money Moral Dilemma: Should my mum help with our childcare costs while she's on holiday?

SMarg

I cannot believe why you would even ask that! Your mother is not beholden to you when she takes a holiday. The fact that she picks your kids up without charging you I imagine, is more than enough. .
How could you even consider asking her to contribute to YOUR child's care costs!!

whatdayisit

She is doing you a favour for 3 days a week. Definitely no. Maybe look at your budgets and see where you can save money on non essentials. Essentials being roof over your head, food and heating. 

Sungold8

You sound so entitled. Your Mum should take a month’s holiday and then tell you she’ll only do it twice a week. I doubt she ever had that sort of help when you were young.  Now she has to fit her life around your needs and probably not do some things because of it. Selfish. 

Ed264

I don't think I've ever heard such a ridiculous question. If you say anything to your mum, I imagine there will be a whole load of trouble.

mopearce

Oh dear I can’t believe this is a dilemma. The answer is no. Your mum doesn’t have to look after your kids but she does

Zippygirl

MSE_Kelvin said:

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

My mum picks my son up from school three days a week, as his dad and I work full-time. On the other two days, we pay for him to go to an after-school club. My mum has just booked a two-week holiday in June, which means we'll have to pay for an extra six days at the after-school club while she's away. Should we ask her for a contribution towards the cost? Or should we just be grateful that she picks him up at all, and not say anything?

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Sounds like someone's either lost their moral compass - or possibly never really had one - or this is a wind-up. I'm tempted to think the latter as this post is just ludicrous and shocking. 

Rocketdogroya

NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!

Just NO!

Reader18

The real moral issues at play here are 1) that you would even have the cheek to consider asking your mum to pay towards your childcare costs when she already helps you so much; 2) your lack of appreciation for what your Mother does; 3) your lack of understanding of how tiring it can be for your Mum looking after even a beloved grandchild; 4) I could go on but you probably (maybe) get the drift so frankly grow up and appreciate and thank your wonderful Mother. 

2702

you cannot be serious! Your poor mum having such an ungrateful daughter. How does your mind work? Try thinking of others for once and realise you owe your mother so much. She deserves your gratitude and a great mothers day gift. But you will never be able to repay her.

newpuppy

Watch this space for next week's dilemma: Mum's gone missing after we rudely asked her to pay for OUR child's care while she took a well-deserved holiday.  Should we beg her to come home or change the locks?