Since she was born, our four-year-old has been given money by friends and family on birthdays etc. She now has a few grand saved up in a bank account we opened for her. Recently, we've signed her up to some extracurricular activities she wants to try - gymnastics, swimming, drama and Scouts. The cost mounts up, so would it be fair to charge them to her account, rather than our own?
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Money Moral Dilemma: Should our four-year-old child pay for her own extracurricular activities?

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At four years old she has no idea what money is for so it's a meaningless question. It's effectively your money until she is old enough to understand
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almost a silly question to me. she might say "I want to do X" but you are the ones deciding that's what she can do. So your money. If after a several of years of Scouts she decides she wants to the jamboree in Tahiti then you can think about whether she needs to pay for that or if you do.I’m a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Debt Free Wannabe and Old Style Money Saving boards. If you need any help on these boards, do let me know. Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any posts you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button, or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.
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If you can't afford the activities for your child then they should not do them. This will be a life lesson your child needs to understand as you bring them up.
The money should be kept for when the child is older and has the knowledge of its value and is able to make their own decisions.17 -
I cannot actually believe someone would genuinely ask this, but, NO!41
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as an uncle who has given a lot to my neices and nephews i would be !!!!!! off with my brothers and sisters and stop giving until my neices and nephews were older and give them there money direct .first time i can remember having money was my mum giving us 5p each and going to saturday morning cinema paying my 3p entry which left me 2p to budget for the rest of the week / being 6 i went to the sweetshop next to the cinema and bought 1/4 sweets so it lasted a few mins.also from memory and showing how times have changed i do not remember a single adult being present in a que that must have been 200 kids long every saturday.4
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Perhaps ask the gifters if they'd be happy to give the gift of gym class (or whatever) instead? As giving money to such a young child is sort of meaningless, given they can't really understand what it is yet.
Also maybe in future the family members can be encouraged to give toys / pay for a class etc - things that the child would actually use or interact with in some way. Giving money at this age is really just parking cash to give the child later.. if that's what they want then why don't they just keep the money and give a lump sum later.1 -
These MMDs get more ridiculous by the week.18
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Pollycat said:These MMDs get more ridiculous by the week.
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And as usual, all I can say is that, in the seven-odd years I've been in the MMD hotseat, we've never used one that we didn't receive from a user, someone from MSE, or someone connected to someone from MSE.
If we did make 'em up, I'd like to think we could concoct something a little more juicy15 -
At 4 years old, your child does the activities that you think are worthwhile and you should pay for them. Their money should be used for things that they want, but don’t really need, when they are much older.I'm a Forum Ambassador on the housing, mortgages, student & coronavirus Boards, money saving boards. I volunteer to help get your forum questions answered and keep the forum running smoothly. Forum Ambassadors are not moderators and don't read every post. If you spot an illegal or inappropriate post then please report it to forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com (it's not part of my role to deal with this). Any views are mine and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.com.7
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Quite obviously the four-year-old should pay for all her extracurricular activities.
Similarly, she should be charged board and lodging, transport, and any other expenditure on her behalf.[I'm with @Pollycat ! Clearly MSE cannot detect a wind-up...]11
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