Money Moral Dilemma: Should I help pay my boyfriend's travel costs if we move further from his work?

JayD

Short answer - NO!

At the moment you are just boyfriend/girlfriend and this could easily change. When you have a more committed relationship, then you can discuss where it is best for you will live together and who contributes what. For now, do what is best for you both financially and for your convenience.

maddogwoman

I doubt if his extra travel costs will be more than the rent he was paying. Tell him to like it or lump it! If he does not like it he can rent another place for himself.

Philip_P

Isn't this an easy one? Assuming you want him to move in, find a place equidistant to your places of work 

P0123

No! 

It sounds like your boyfriend is only moving in with you due to his tenancy ending.  Would he be moving in if his tenancy wasn't ending?

It's YOUR choice to move closer to work to cut your current commuting costs, but would he help towards your commuting costs if you stay put?

Basically, it's YOUR home, YOUR work and YOUR commute and costs.  Your boyfriend hasn't moved in as yet, and so he can choose to see the situation from your point of view and circumstances, and move in at a later date - if you want him to, or he can renew his tenancy, find another place to live that suits his commitments or, even, change his job.

Whichever the decision, he cannot expect you to pay for HIS decisions or choices.

robbo_robbo

Dump him.  Right away.
If HE wants to move in with YOU, he's already going to be saving money.  If he's not happy, let him get his own flat nearer his work.
But overall, if he's being like that now, it's only going to get worse in the future.
As I say, dump him now.