spare a thought for rick

journ

grey_lady I AM SO MAD WITH YOU DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR EVIL WORDS WILL DO TO THIS FAMILY FDSS FIRST COME ON HERE FOR SUPPORT BECAUSE ALL OF THE FAMILY ARE LIVING A NIGHTMARE AND I FOR ONE ARE SO PROUD AND THANKFUL TO THIS LADY TO TAKE THE TIME TO LET US KNOW HOW RICK IS DOING BECAUSE THIS LADY HAS OUR FULL SUPPORT AND WE WILL NOT STAND BY AND ALLOW YOU TO UPSET THIS VERY SPECIAL LADY.
YOU ARE NOT WELCOME ON HERE BECAUSE NOT JUST THIS LADY BUT ALL OF THIS FAMILY ONLY HAVE ONE GOAL AND THAT TO MAKE RICK WELL AND GET HIM BACK HOME.
I DON'T THINK YOU HAVE A HEART BECAUSE IF YOU READ THE POST YOU WILL SEE RICK IS VERY UPSET AS IT IS AND HE THINKS THE WORLD OF THIS LADY, DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO SIT AT A BED SIDE WATCHING A LOVED ONE FITTING FOR HIS LIFE.

jillie1974

glad rick is still making progress. gues he wants to seehis friends to get gossip etc (yes lads do this as well)

fsdss

grey_lady wrote: »

All about you ay FDSS, Rick is probably far more interested in having his mates and his girlfriend visit him rather than his old Auntie and yet everything is all on your terms...
and your not actually his mother, in fact most of this has been about you and your relationship with Rick, not about how his nearest and dearest are.

Saying 'dont worry i am qualified' suggested to me that your not.

first of all this is deeply hurtful comment - you dont know anything about me or my relationship with my family - if you really want to know about my family, not that its any of your business anyway - yes we are a close family- yes both Rick and his sister have spent most of lives living with us at some point or another - because we (hubby and i and hubby's other sister) have given both these children the stability that they needed.

we have the childrens first teeth, first shoes - favourite outfits and loads of photos of every day out, every holiday and some pictures / drawings etc- we have bought them beds to sleep in, decorated their rooms, clothed them, fed them, been on their school trips, and given them the same attention that our own biological children have and will recieve.

****i have removed this section just in case it upsets my niece***

We are a great family who, like every other family, has problems, but these problems only materialise when drink is involved.

this thread is about how i feel and more important how Rick is progressing. i cannot express how others are feeling within.

not that its any of your business as well -i do have a degree in Psychology and professionally work in the psychology field (with small children and maternal mental health). and have had an abundance of pm's asking me to take care of myself, and i am responding through this thread.

RICK will read this thread and he will see my response - my response won't upset him nor his sister as he has lived with it all of his life and we actually talk about the problems that they both have experienced in their short lives, so theres nothing in my thread that will be a surprise to either of them.

anyway update on rick.

great day today - his mate couldn't come this morning as working -we are going to speak to him after work and pop him over to the hospital. Rick was sitting up and writing - we had a good conversation through this (we easily worked out what he was trying to say). but he got tired. he wanted a bike magazine to look through which we got for him and left him to rest. i knocked out his tube by accident when wiping his dribble, had a little panic, but the nurse was ok and said no problem as he isn't using the oxygen it was just there for later.

Rick thought he was coming home with us next week - very unlikely and the nurse explained that he will be in for a few more weeks. he knows he wont be able to look after himself to start with but we told him not to worry about that just yet and it will be easily sorted out. his other aunty (yes the old haggard one:D) is in this afternoon with his sister.

journ

fsdss we are all behind you i will NOT stand by and let small minded people upset you if i can do anything please let me know I'm always here for you i respect you so much.

I'm pleased you have been able to help Rick to tell people what he wants , My heart goes out to Rick I'm sure he will be able to talk soon xx

fsdss

thanks journ - initally when i read the thread i was very upset - but it doesn't upset me now as people are entitled to their own opinion and thoughts, although some of us on here probably wouldn't express negative feelings quite so aggressively.

when writing these updates - i write them from my own inner feelings, so there is a lot of me me me i suppose, we have all struggled with Ricks illness, especially with lots of regrets on some side of the family, but theres always a good come out of something bad and the good so far is that at least both his parents are talking to each other and reasoning instead of the abusive arguments that he has listened to most of his life. the future might be that he has a healthier relationship with his parents which cant be bad.

its just through life we try and treat people in the way we wish to be treated - people have different skills- i am good in a crisis - my hubby falls apart. some people are good at communicating.........some not so.. and so on.... anyway her comments are at the bottom of my worry pile- there's more important things in life to worry about and at the moment Ricks at the top.

Bogof_Babe

Just to say I was appalled at the crass insensitivity of greylady's post (lady?:rolleyes:). I am glad you have risen above being hurt by it, because she obviously has some sort of personality problem, and should be sorting herself out before making nasty comments to anyone else. Least of all someone like you, who has been a tower of strength for a young man who desperately needs you.

Keep the faith for Rick, you are doing everything right and everything you possibly can. He actually owes it to you to get well, and I am so pleased that progress is being made, however gradual.

We are all here for you fsdss, except the trolls of course, but they don't count. Take care of yourself. xxxx

dizzy_lizzie

fsdss...you've responded to that 'silly' post, as I thought you would, with dignity. You don't have to justify anything you've done or said to anyone here. Those that have followed your journey know exactly what's been happening, and indeed we have all waited for your regular updates with bated breath.
So pleased for you that Rick is responding more and more in a positive way.
If I was as poorly as Rick you are definately someone I'd want close by to me!!
Luv and hugz...we're all here with you huni.
Dizzy x

journ

fsdss wrote: »

thanks journ - initally when i read the thread i was very upset - but it doesn't upset me now as people are entitled to their own opinion and thoughts, although some of us on here probably wouldn't express negative feelings quite so aggressively.

when writing these updates - i write them from my own inner feelings, so there is a lot of me me i supposeme, we have all struggled with Ricks illness, especially with lots of regrets on some side of the family, but theres always a good come out of something bad and the good so far is that at least both his parents are talking to each other and reasoning instead of the abusive arguments that he has listened to most of his life. the future might be that he has a healthier relationship with his parents which cant be bad.

its just through life we try and treat people in the way we wish to be treated - people have different skills- i am good in a crisis - my hubby falls apart. some people are good at communicating.........some not so.. and so on.... anyway her comments are at the bottom of my worry pile- there's more important things in life to worry about and at the moment Ricks at the top.

Good for you it shows you are a better person for NOT letting this person get to you as you said there is more important things to worry about , But i could not just sit back and see you get hurt.

Put your posts have never come across me, me .me far from it you have gone out of your way to raise money for the family room at the hospital, get people to think about giving blood and the help you give when people hurt them self , But you do these thinks without thinking xxxxxxxx

hilstep2000

Fsdss, you are a lovely lady who obviously only cares about your family, and QUITE RIGHT TOO! I haven't posted on this thread before, but I have been watching Rick's progress, and am soooo pleased that he's making a recovery, albeit a slow one. Things don't happen like they do in the films, it takes time.
However, with you and your families support, Rick WILL improve, daily.:T

I know how you feel, my nephew was in hospital two years ago, when he was depressed and tried to commit suicide. We were all there, and after realising how much we loved him, he was able to accept the help he needed.
I'm still there for him today.

As for Greylady....ignore her, she obviously hasbn't a clue:rotfl:

Love and ((((((((HUGS)))))))))) to you all.

ravylesley

FSDSS Like hilstep2000 I have never posted before but I've read this thread from the start.We've all prayed for Ricks recovery and marvelled at how well he has done but it has all been marred by the nasty comments of one particularly sick individual and I personally smell a troll and hope they have been seen off not to return again
I wish Rick a speedy recovery

Lesleyxx