spare a thought for rick

shopndrop

So glad to hear Rick is still doing OK. Thanks for keeping us posted.

Badger_Lady

journ wrote: »

But this person took it out of my bag and i didn't feel a thing the police asked what was in my purse and i started to cry because i had my baby's photo etc, and the police said they would just take what they need and just bin it:mad:

I can echo that (sort of) - someone took my purse on a train, then chucked it out of the window when they realised there was no money in it.

I reported it and got an answerphone message from the Police a week later to say someone had found it in their allotment and handed it in, so they were going to post it back to me. But, to save on postage, they were going to remove all the "rubbish" from it first.

So I got my cheap fake leather purse back, but the Police had thrown away all my photos and email addresses! :mad:

dizzy_lizzie

So glad to see each time you post that Rick is still being such a strong lad.
Hope you're feeling okay too. Take care.
Luvz Dizzy x

fsdss

update

just spent the last 2 and a bit hours in the hospital - rick was in a sitting position in bed (bed doing all the work). it was the first time since he was admitted that he was awake for me -he saw us and sobbed - he got very upset because of the dribble dripping down the side of his face- in fact after calming him down it was my turn to sob and i used more tissues. he cannot communicate but we got to the gist of answers through his facial expressions - he is feeling a lot of emotional pain and is very frustrated that he cannot communicate but this hopefully will be rectified within the next week. he's very confused obviously but we put him at ease by explaining why he was there.

i know it sounds daft but Rick and his sister are very close to us - it always has been like that since they were babies, there has only been a couple of years where we haven't taken them on holiday with us (in fact Becca still does), we took time off in school holidays to have them and they stayed over at ours almost every Sat when they were younger. we haven't had any bad times with either of them. so all this feels like a big kick in the belly. my husband had a few moments of in depth meaningful time with Rick tonight, it was very moving. i stroked his hair and wiped his eyes and dribble and left Rick with the knowledge that he is very much loved and cared for.

off to cry now - had a really emotional night - but hopefully one which will give him the strength to continue to improve

shopndrop

Wow, what an emotional week you have had. Glad to hear that Rick was awake for you and able to show some emotion. Hopefully things will just continue to improve each day now. Hope you are OK. Take care of yourself too.

specialK

It is a bumpy road you are walking here (((hugs)))

The positive news just keeps coming, although it's not nice to witness, you should be glad Rick is feeling like this. I mean, he must be more aware and does not want to be in this situation. It will give him more fight. (if this sounds funny , it is not meant to )

You and your husband have done the best thing you can do, Rick knows exactly how much you love him and you are not hiding anything from him You will have to be careful, he will get a big head

There is nothing wrong with having a good cry, let it all out, you'll feel loads better.

You seem a very close family and this in itself is helping Rick's recovery. I just wish I could magic this all away for you, but that would be too easy wouldn't it? (my Mum said to me years ago, "I'lll never lie to you and tell you life is easy, because it's not", this might sound blunt but it works for me )
It is like everything else, you only get out of it what you put in, you have shown us all exactly the type of person you are and how good a family unit you are part of. This means that only great things can come out of this situation you have found yourselfs in!

Rick is doing remarkably well and he is not doing it for himself, he is doing this for the love of those around him.

Take care and try to relax, everything will still be there tomorrow.
xxx

journ

Badger_Lady wrote: »

I can echo that (sort of) - someone took my purse on a train, then chucked it out of the window when they realised there was no money in it.

I reported it and got an answerphone message from the Police a week later to say someone had found it in their allotment and handed it in, so they were going to post it back to me. But, to save on postage, they were going to remove all the "rubbish" from it first.

So I got my cheap fake leather purse back, but the Police had thrown away all my photos and email addresses! :mad:

God i'm so sorry how did the police not knew theses photos and email addresses were not important:mad: you can never replace these items

oops_a_daisy

thankyou so much for the update fsdss - so many people are looking in on a daily basis to see how he is doing. Send him out virtual love next time you see him and keep looking after yourself too - this is such an emotional rollercoaster for you too ((((HUGS))))

journ

Aw i really feel for Rick it must be very difficult not to be able to talk i really wish i could make things better .

I know Rick cannot say it in words but i bet he is showing you and his family he loves you so so much, And me and everyone on here think the same for Rick please pass on my love and respect.

Rick sweetheart i know you have been through so much and thinks are hard for you not being able to talk but sweetheart that day will come , I carry you in my heart and i pray for you every day.:heart2:

fsdss

spent most of the afternoon with rick- he is a very frightened (little) boy, i think he thinks that he will be in this state for the rest of his life-he wanted the photo of him in the garden messing around that was stuck to the window - we got it down and reassured him as best as we could that he would be able to do that again-

he tried to write down something using his fingers, although he is dyslexic, i managed to get an alphabet card from the nurse. using his limited ability he told us he was lonely - and wanted his friends - he spelt out his best friends name and confirmed that he wanted him there - i phoned his friend and left messages for him as i want to take him to the hospital with us in the morning, but as yet no reply.

so busy at the moment as need to be at the hospital for rick, as we are calm and more focused on his recovery we are able to get more out of him and discuss feelings. i am having to use my psychology skills to reassure him that everything will be ok, and that there is a future for him (dont worry i am qualified). Everyone else visiting him are in a state of self blame / grief and downloading all their feelings on him which how hard we try to explain, is not helping him to recover. the nurses are picking up on this and have asked some family members to leave.


his recovery has to be my main priority at the moment, thankfully other family members are helping us out with childcare etc. i am not run down anymore i am very focused, i knew that i needed to be this a week or so ago, or whenever he came round, and have prepared myself by resting. i am off to the doctors this week just for a check up - i promised him over christmas that i would pop in for an appointment as soon as he heard about rick.

rick has a few bed sores which look painful, but is being treated for them.