Weekly FLYLADY Thread 15 January 2024

roundtuit

roundtuit said:

Round 1
Brew 2 and breakfast ✅ 
Laundry shuffle ✅
Get dressed ✅

I've fed the birds and put out the recycling, taken the roofing nails to NN, had a coffee with P and S, picked up my prescription and filled up with petrol. I decided to save my trip to Mr Al until tomorrow when it's quieter.

Round 2
Decant bird seed into container 
Lunch

Rxx

ETA Also sent a save the date to DB, DSil, DNiece & her husband. 

pigpen

ASB.. you do amazing.. you teach your children so many wonderful things, you support them, you are always there and they know.. the absent parent is always the fun parent because they don't enforce boundaries and have the spare cash to do the days out and treats because they aren't having to buy shoes and clothes and months of food so can get takeaways.. The children know and will appreciate it, they just don't know that yet.. think about who they want when they are ill or worried or hurt or needing love.. who do they go to?? Ditch the guilt.. you are doing amazing!!
Tooch... you know the rules... no playing catch up it all comes back around!

Fayolle.. you too.. no guilt allowed.. you have survived one of the biggest trials any parent can face and are all thriving and close.. Life has thrown some hard balls at you and you have joined together as a unit and stomped on it.

Round.. your son is a credit to you.. you can ditch the ancient guilt too.. he is a lovely man! You've done a great job!

I'm doing lunch and writing a shopping list.. I wanted to sort the girls room today but my brain which was on board last nightis now not..

toochoosey

Thanks Pigpen x I have done some washing and drying today x

flamingo747

ASB I had an absent father as  kid. As adults, all three of me and my sisters know that he did an awful job for our family and that our mum was amazing to manage to raise us and still work full time too. Your children will wise up to it when they are grown, and will admire how you tried to take the high road.
 Mum guilt is awful. Try to look at it from the outside. If your best friend or beloved sister was doing everything you do in your circumstances, would you tell her she was being a bad mum? Of course not. Never be cruel to a mum doing her best, even if you are that mum.

WUDUPA done, had gotten a backlog again!

How do you all do your grocery budget? Work change and switching from tax cred to UC means money will now be coming per calendar month, not weekly. We've lwys done a weekly budget for his 4 weekly pay.

Crazycatlady2

Have used the pic and mix list to do myself a master deep cleaning list to complete over next 3 weeks before half term. I Wil ask 2 older kids to select some to do on half term aswell as deep clean and sort own rooms out...wish me luck 😂

soappie

Evening everyone

@Valli - so sorry about your Mum's deterioration in health and your step-Dad's stubbornness re the car xxx
@ASP - don't feel the guilt, you do a terrific job. Being a single Mum with majority custody is not east. I know, because I've been there. My one saving grace (if it can be called that) is my children's father just walked away and didn't bother keeping in touch. In many respects, it made it easier that they didn't see him because there was no freedom-parent/rules-parent conflict.

Been a productive day generally. sorted a disorganised part of the cupboard under the stairs - in particular, I focussed the top layer of the full tool box I inherited from my Dad. (I need to do the body of the tool box but that can wait for another day). I've put all the screwdrivers in the separate storage box which already held some, put all  the Allen keys in the same place, binned some v. old and rusty hacksaw blades etc. curtain hooks in with the other curtain hooks etc. Also binned some old curtains I used to cover things when decorating which I'll not use again (I'll be paying someone else to decorate going forward who should have their own coverall equipment!). Also pottered about in the kitchen and living room. Small steps but it aligns with AnWsMum's dot-to-dot approach.

Piece of topside has been in the slow cooker since just after lunch so that will be ready to serve in an hour or so once I've done the roasties and veg.

I'm a bit bothered about the amber wind warning we have here (as does most of the country looking at the latest Met Office forecast!) for overnight. It's already picking up a bit but as it seems to be a south-westerly generally veering to  west-south-westerly where I am, if the trees at the bottom of my garden go, they will fall away from the house. I hope you all have a safe and incident-free 24 hours whilst storm Isha blows its way through.

Cloth_of_Gold

@pigpen is correct - no guilt allowed. It's obvious to me that everyone works very hard, and does their best, often in difficult circumstances. Most of all, you all care, which is worth a huge amount in its own right. Flamingo is also right in what she say as, although I have not children, I have been a child (albeit a long time ago ) and from the vantage point of time and experience I can see much more clearly why my parents behaved in the way they did in certain circumstances and that where their 'parenting' wasn't as good as it might have been (my father was very 'hands off' compared to many modern fathers for example), the reasons for it.

I have also noticed over the years that the people who are cared for, whether they are children or adults, often seem to appreciate the people who only pop in and out of their lives more than those who are there all the time, through thick and thin. Ultimately though, I believe that they do know who is their rock. For the care giver, whether it's parent, partner, son/daughter, knowing that you are doing the right thing, even if in your own eyes imperfectly, is priceless.

[climbs off soapbox]

The only flying I've done today is making lunch and tea (does that count?) and washing up. I got up rather late did eye meds, made a mid-morning coffee for us both, went to mass and spoke to my brother and two friends on the phone. I've just prepared supper for A and am having a glass of wine before having mine.

pigpen

Some unpleasant news for us.. OH's friend who is the godfather to the girls.. his wife has just being dxd with breast cancer.. (Over near you Valli .. remember S.Pike and Milligan??) The medical bods are  hopeful for a good outcome.. but still.. it's rubbish.

Shopping done and away

2 girls in the bath.

pack ups done.

That's it.. not a stroke more.

Natty68

NEW THREAD

Cloth_of_Gold

pigpen said:

Some unpleasant news for us.. OH's friend who is the godfather to the girls.. his wife has just being dxd with breast cancer.. (Over near you Valli .. remember S.Pike and Milligan??) The medical bods are  hopeful for a good outcome.. but still.. it's rubbish.

Shopping done and away

2 girls in the bath.

pack ups done.

That's it.. not a stroke more.

Sorry, I missed commenting on this in the transition to the new thread. It's frightening to get such a diagnosis whatever the prognosis, but it's good that it is a hopeful one and once the initial shock has worn off I hope that OH's friend (and you and your OH) will feel a bit less anxious.