The Diary Of Onebrokelady Aged 60 And A Half

amber03

So sorry to hear about your dad. It sounds like it was peacefully at the end, which sadly many don’t get. Don’t be hard on yourself about you not being there, remember the good times.xx

milann

So sorry about your dad. Now’s the time to be kind to yourself as well as your mum and family. Don’t underestimate the effects losing a parent can have. I’m pleased he went in his sleep.

Deni_debt-free_dreamer

Condolences to you OBL
x

Blackcats

Sorry to read about your dad.  Sending soothing wishes.

foxgloves

Sending best wishes, OBL. What a difficult time you have had recently with your own health, your cat & now your Dad. Try not to feel too bad that you weren't with him at the time of his passing. I think it's natural to feel bad about this when it happens  - I know both me & my sister did when we lost Mum - but the reality is that people die when they are ready, & sometimes that's at a time we are not with them. At least he didn't have to go through being moved to another care setting, which is confusing for elderly frail people. 
I hope you are treating yourself kindly & that your Mum is bearing up as well as expected given her sad loss.
Love F x

millymolly22

Sending you a hug....take comfort in the fact he went in his sleep and was peaceful and he wasn't suffering.As others have said sometimes they wait until everyone has gone but always remember how happy he was to see you the last time 

Cloth_of_Gold

I'm so sprry to hear about your dad OBL but he passed away peacefully, which is a blessing and will be a comfort to you. You've had a such a hard time this year and I hope that you have plenty of support, as well you giving support to others. I pray that 2025 will bring better things for you.

debtfreewannabe321

I'm so sorry OBL 😞. My condolences to you on all counts that I've just caught up on 🙏🏼❤️

satchmo1

So sad or you OBL, hugs x

Onebrokelady

Hi everyone just popping in for an update. First of all thanks for all your kind words it means a lot ❤️  I’m glad that Dad didn’t have to go through being moved in the end as I think it would have upset him. We had a lovely last visit so I am at peace with us not being there when he died and although im sad he’s not here anymore I’m also relieved that his suffering is at an end. He didn’t want to be here anymore and kept telling us which was hard to hear but I can understand why because living with dementia is an awful way to live. He is at peace now ❤️ 

My Mum is doing ok and my sister and her partner came down on Wednesday to be with her. They have organised the funeral which is on Wednesday the 30th. DD1 is taking me and DD2 as they aren’t having any cars apart from the hearse. I expect both my sisters,my sisters partner and my mum will go together then my other sister is going with her family.  My Dad used to be a local football referee and was involved in running the local football league so people from there will go and of course any family friends.

I was supposed to meet my sister that lives here yesterday to talk about what happened because Dad fell out with her years ago and they didn’t speak again but she had to cancel because she is ill with a cold. She knew he had dementia and was in hospital but was in France when he died. 

I was supposed to meet my mum for coffee today but she also cancelled because she wasn’t feeling too good and had a bit of a tummy bug, we are going to see how she is on Saturday and maybe meet then

I’ve been supporting DD2 this week who had a bit of a breakdown last Friday. She suffers with depression and anxiety and something happened at work to push her over the edge. Thankfully I managed to get her a doctors  appointment on Monday so she saw  an incredibly helpful gp who signed her off for two weeks and gave her some medication to try, she is also signing up for CBT to help manage her anxiety. She has suffered for years but never sought help but this was particularly bad so I made her go to the doctors, she is relieved she went now so that’s good. 

I’m not doing to well at the moment with my pain levels but I’m plodding on. I don’t know if I’ve posted this but I’ve got an appointment with the Rheumatologist on the 15th of November which I’m really looking forward to. I just need to get through Dads funeral now, I am dreading it because two of my sisters who will be staying with mum don’t speak to me so I’m not sure what’s going to happen on the day. I will have both my daughters there and my other sister as a buffer so hopefully the day will pass without any arguments. If anything happens I will just leave and remove myself from the situation because I can’t deal with their drama. One of the sisters who doesn’t speak to me was hysterical when told Dad had died but it’s just drama,she didn’t like him and hadn’t seen him for at least four years, she never visited him while he was ill but now it’s all about her and how upset she is 🙄 I’m not sure I will even get to be close to my Mum on the day because she will be with them and won’t want any aggro so won’t say anything. Oh well it’s just another thing to get through in 2024 😬