Buying a little piece of Middle England; Manifesting my way to mortgage free.

slm6002 · 21 January at 5:42PM

It really does always happen.

When we moved into my grandparents house after my grandad dies, I spent almost a year in a caravan. Not the most enjoyable time especially in the winter when every single pipe burst, but it allowed us time to build a lovely house.

Hopefully the perfect plan will appear soon

~FlowerPot~ · 21 January at 6:23PM

Really sorry to hear how unhappy your eldest, is and totally get that you would want them to be able to stay with you for a while until they get themselves a bit more sorted! I would be exactly the same.
Could you take out the old garden building and put in a log cabin? Just another thought. We bought an ex display cabin, I can't remember but there was a good amount off it and they came and put it all up. Then when they do move on you either have a lovelyy sunroom or another office space. This plan does have the added bonus of giving them their own space, away from the rest of the family!

LadyWithAPlan · 21 January at 6:47PM

I am now seeing you as Michell Pfeiffer in Dangerous Minds ! Go you !

They need to learn to communicate better so go you for being a great example despite their behaviour

thanks for sharing your story - I am sorry you went thru that and no worry you get triggered by aggressive men
unfortunately physical and verbal abuse in the home is far more common than any of us expect - and increasingly people (mainly women ) are stopping pretending all is fine and finding a way to escape and truly live their lives to the full - the book sounds great

I am sure your DS1 is relieved to have an escape plan . A nice cabin sounds lovely - guess you will have to cost all ideas out more fully

debtfreewannabe321 · 21 January at 8:54PM

slm6002 said:

It really does always happen.

When we moved into my grandparents house after my grandad dies, I spent almost a year in a caravan. Not the most enjoyable time especially in the winter when every single pipe burst, but it allowed us time to build a lovely house.

Hopefully the perfect plan will appear soon

Oh no ...I've heard some horror stories about living in caravans in the cold. Didn't fancy that on the drive anyway...and that might push DP too far losing his car parking to a caravan 😂

I'm waiting for the plan to just come together...it usually does if it's meant to be.

debtfreewannabe321 · 21 January at 8:55PM

~FlowerPot~ said:

Really sorry to hear how unhappy your eldest, is and totally get that you would want them to be able to stay with you for a while until they get themselves a bit more sorted! I would be exactly the same.
Could you take out the old garden building and put in a log cabin? Just another thought. We bought an ex display cabin, I can't remember but there was a good amount off it and they came and put it all up. Then when they do move on you either have a lovelyy sunroom or another office space. This plan does have the added bonus of giving them their own space, away from the rest of the family!

Can I ask where you sourced the log cabin as that's an idea I'm floating around. Most are so expensive though. Has it held up okay? I'm worried they're not a long term thing and I will waste my money...

debtfreewannabe321 · 21 January at 8:58PM

LadyWithAPlan said:

I am now seeing you as Michell Pfeiffer in Dangerous Minds ! Go you !

They need to learn to communicate better so go you for being a great example despite their behaviour

thanks for sharing your story - I am sorry you went thru that and no worry you get triggered by aggressive men
unfortunately physical and verbal abuse in the home is far more common than any of us expect - and increasingly people (mainly women ) are stopping pretending all is fine and finding a way to escape and truly live their lives to the full - the book sounds great

I am sure your DS1 is relieved to have an escape plan . A nice cabin sounds lovely - guess you will have to cost all ideas out more fully

😂 I used to love that movie. Gangsters paradise is one of my fave karaoke songs 🤣.

I spoke to another tutor today who pulled me aside to ask what had happened. After I'd told her she told me the exact same culprits did the same to her only she'd not handled it well and was left crying as they just refused to leave her class. Thankfully for me a tutor came in and kind of broke it up as it was getting really bad.

A cabin does seem like a nicer option especially as we will see it out of our dining/ kitchen area. It's not going to be hidden away at the bottom of the garden but in full view 😁

redofromstart · 21 January at 9:07PM

Both of our cabins came from Tuin if that helps. Don't forget the need to insulate and to add proper flooring to your costs. We used plastic grids rather than a concrete base which was a lot cheaper and easier. The hardest and slowest bit was putting the roof on.