Watty's Awakening

Watty1

thanks for the  tips re the carpet.  They are now dry and two bedrooms look wonderful, the main bedroom not so wonderful but acceptable and the stains the ex made (on purpose I suspect) while he was here are mostly gone. 

The sofas however look amazing.   I bought 3 new cushions but two need to be returned as they don't actually go with the sofas now they are a different colour.  Will get those returned this week.  

@greenbee  Oven cleaning is on my list to do, I might get that booked in soon.  Also WattyDog needs to go to the groomers before he makes the sofas messy.  He is not supposed to get on them but I've noticed he sneaks up there when he thinks I'm not paying attention so a throw to cover one has been washed and is, at last, on the line as it has stopped raining for a few hours according to the forecast.   

I've rung the builder and asked when he can send the decorator back to finish the final two bedrooms so waiting to hear on that.  

Watty1

@PennysIntoPounds and @KajiKita   Thanks for comments re proxy m-i-l.    Part of it is a genuine fear that if she goes to a hospital appointment but part of it is, I suspect "the sticky fingers" that have been in every relationship he has had.  Now, he does not admit this, but I've considered leaving him because of the woman and so I'm not surprised he has 'ex-wives" as clearly from the family stories she has been "very much involved".

I'm working hard at drawing a line between "support" for him but not getting "involved" or saying too much. I did explain health p-o-a  yesterday very carefully and drafted a letter for her to sign to go to her doctors asking for him to be copied in on appointments etc but that was more because these things are obvious to me because of the ex's parents.  Ex father had a full power of everything signed from almost when we got together because he had read about it in the paper and thought it was very sensible.  My grandmother had moved all her accounts to joint accounts with me and made sure I knew where everything was and what to do "in the event"    In contrast the VNM and his family appear to have a head in the sands attitude.  Again not my problem, I just look on and try to make "info-commercials" about things and then wash up or make a coffee or anything to avoid further discussion.  

greenbee

I'm having to put throws on furniture because of the cats too Watty. While mostly they stick to the same places, it's hard to stop them (I have enough problems keeping them off the worktops!). Electricians start tomorrow, so several weeks of disruption on the cards here. 

FreetodoasIlike

Watty -  I have been reading your diary (saw you on another thread) and just want to say that you’re making the right decision to not get too personally involved with VNM’s situation. It’s not your problem and you sound as though you’ve done everything in practical terms that you can, with no thanks from his mum. She sounds manipulative, and that’s what you don’t need right now, when you’re starting to get your own life back together. You are doing the right thing in stepping back a little and waiting to see how it all pans out. A health PoA sounds the ideal situation all-round, and it’s obviously up to him to pursue this. You need to think of your own mental health in all of this, not get too involved and take a step back. 

LadyWithAPlan

FreetodoasIlike said:

Watty -  I have been reading your diary (saw you on another thread) and just want to say that you’re making the right decision to not get too personally involved with VNM’s situation. It’s not your problem and you sound as though you’ve done everything in practical terms that you can, with no thanks from his mum. She sounds manipulative, and that’s what you don’t need right now, when you’re starting to get your own life back together. You are doing the right thing in stepping back a little and waiting to see how it all pans out. A health PoA sounds the ideal situation all-round, and it’s obviously up to him to pursue this. You need to think of your own mental health in all of this, not get too involved and take a step back. 

Just catching up and Free is so right here - your sanity is very important and her games have nothing to do with you. 

Smile , wish her the best, don’t get into conversations about her and indeed keep as far away as possible. Your job is to hug VNM and have fun with him - allow him to have good times away from his family drama 

Watty1

Thanks both.  I know you are right.  In the midst of it, it is hard not to be sucked in and so I am very grateful for the comments on here which really do help me keep going in the 'right direction'.

Watty1

In other news. £350 spent on blood test for the Charming Cob and it would seem very little is wrong. Yes, some markers are a little low and some a little high but my worries have all been put to rest.   He seems much better on his daily dose of painkiller and no work at all so  maybe his joints are just a little arthritic.   I am due to have a chat with the vet to decide next steps for him but one of my joys is now seeing back to trying to race the young Fell and Most Handsome in from the field.   (The Fell puts his heart into the race and wins every time which really annoys Most Handsome who shakes his head and stamps his foot as he is so cross).

Cherryfudge

That's such good news for Charming Cob (and you) - so presumably you just keep an eye on his condition and maybe give supplements or something if indicated? I wonder if he's been reacting a little to all the wet weather this year? A lot of people with arthritis seem to react to wet weather, and for all I know, that could include horses too. I just googled and t'Internet says there's a possible link to a drop in atmospheric pressure putting inflamed areas under more pressure.

I love the picture you paint of them thundering across the field and MH having a little strop .

Slinky

How old is CC?

Watty1

MH could win every race if he was not so busy having a strop   MH has wings on his feet he is so sharp but he likes to micro manage the other two!

I think supplements for the Charming Cob are a good idea and I've researched some.  As for his age, around 18 we think so a nice good age and he is a very heavy set horse so joint supplements are a good plan for him anyway.  I've ordered some.