Money Moral Dilemma: Should my partner contribute more to household bills as he works from home?

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Nothing to add, thankfully it's all been said and I couldn't agree more.

gothvixen

As a qualified chartered accountant I am willing to carry out an analyis of your lifestyles and prodcue a spreadsheet showing the financial impact of every daily action you both undertake, along with your individual contributions to your child. A fair and rational division of household costs should then be possible. I promise I will use my own electricity for computer tasks. I assume you have a relationship contract? Your lack of emotion is admirable.

gothvixen

Brie said:

GingerTim said:

I suspect MSE might regret posting this in the plain speakin' energy forum!

well spotted!!!

And just to stir things a bit.....I'm well aware that some couples, completely emotionally devoted to each other, keep their finances completely separate.  I don't know how they do it as it seems like a lot of work at times.  But if one must then I would do it strictly down the lines of how much one makes not by how much one uses.  Going down the "uses" route means the child should be contributing as well!

Ah, but no! The cost of the child should be allotted in inverse proportion to the childcare efforts of each partner in this situation.

ripongrammargirl

Seriously? You’re in a big girl relationship and are arguing over who pays for what in your home? You need to get an understanding of the word relationship/partnership as this “dilemma” is just crazy. Why not just do what Steptoe and son did and divide the house down the middle so you can each pay for your own half? You have a child and are arguing about money? What kind of lesson is that teaching- “daddy and I fight over who pays for things in our home”. You need to take a long look at what you call a partnership and stop treating him like a business deal.  The whole world has gone mad.

hannerrbabes

Good grief. Maybe you should pay more of the bills because you work less and are home the extra day with your child using the heating, electricity, oven, etc 🤦🏽‍♀️ He may be using more resources as he works from home, but at least his usage is providing an income (and one that's larger than yours I'm assuming as you work part time)!

hannerrbabes

QrizB said:

Brie said:

GingerTim said:

I suspect MSE might regret posting this in the plain speakin' energy forum!

well spotted!!!

And just to stir things a bit.....I'm well aware that some couples, completely emotionally devoted to each other, keep their finances completely separate.

OTOH the QrizB household runs on strictly Marxist principles:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/From_each_according_to_his_ability,_to_each_according_to_his_needs

We have a joint account that receives our salaries, from which household bills are paid and from which we each draw an allowance for personal spending.

You 'draw an allowance for personal spending'? 😂 Are you an 8 year old getting his pocket money? 😂

Bonnypitlad

It must have been a particularly long liquid lunch and stagger back to MSE Towers to dream up this one.
 I sincerely hope no one is crass enough for this to be a genuine dilemma 
I suggest meter readings for electricity, gas and water are taken daily before leaving for work 
The alternative is to have separate meters in separate houses
IF the “ dilemma” is genuine I’ll wager you are now regretting posting it
Good Luck

sje_111

So maybe you should be cooking more meals to even up the duties

Really, I can't believe how selfish this attitude is - are you a couple or just 2 people sharing a home and child?

Qwertybaz

I can’t believe this is real. 

My wife and I have always had a joint account, all our income goes into it and all bills are paid from it. We are both free to buy anything we want from it. Simple!

I earn a lot more than my wife does but that’s because she stayed at home looking after the kids when they were young, leaving me free to build up my career, how can you price that into a spreadsheet?

we have been together now for 45 years and have never argued about money 

Sea_Shell

I'd better get that invoice raised for the extra Hobnob DH ate last night, as he is over his 'quota' for the week.