Old member returning in tough times

Lanky_larry

satchmo1 said:

For info - cancer patients don't pay hospital parking fees. HTHs

Sort of - when we’re at the main hospital he has a card to get free parking there, but the others for scans and chemo we pay  - Eg todays hospital for scans was 3.20 for parking (we are lucky that we can claim this back through my husbands job should we choose to do so) 

Lanky_larry

Today has been tough, the scans were done quickly enough, but it takes its toll on my husband. And now the gut wrenching anxiety as we wait for the results. 

We stopped at Morrisons on the way home to grab him a sandwich as he was starving and whilst we were there I got an email that Asda had cancelled our shop due later in the afternoon! 

so what was a basket with a sandwich and a drink in it became a weekly shop with him in his tracksuit white as a sheet insisting he was fine and he wanted me to do it now so I didn’t have to go out again later. 

I was all flustered and spent £70 and probably don’t have many meals! Although we struck it lucky as there was a staff member reducing food so got a few bits of meat cheap at least,

what a day (there’s been a few tears this evening, I need to find an outlet for it as I’ve got 2 weeks of this!) 

KajiKita

Firstly, have a hug, ((((((((Lanky_Larry)))))))))

Second off, I hope these two weeks fly by. So crossing my fingers for you all. Your husband sounds like he has a lot of grit to have stuck out that shopping trip!

Thirdly, waaay up the thread, you mentioned getting your CV updated. I’m pretty good with CVs, not a formal coach but I’ve helped a lot of people over the years. If you decide that the time is right (probably not now with everything else going on!!) give me a shout, either in your thread or PM me, and we can have chew on it together. FWIW, I don’t have many formal qualifications for what I do either, but it doesn’t matter so long as you can show your knowledge, which by the time we have finished (when you are ready), you will most definitely be able to! 😊

KK

Lanky_larry

Thank you - that’s really really kind of you! 

I may take you up on that, I am not looking at leaving my current job, but it doesn’t pay well at all (but the pay off of having a workplace that allows me to be home and is understanding of the situation is worth so much) but I know there may come a time where I need a lot more money than I bring in right now.
Whether there is some freelance stuff I can do, I need to look into it and having my CV up to date and looking good should help.
I’m going to wait until I’m settled back at work in the new year (I took 3 weeks off so I have a lot to catch up on, end of quarter accounts are due and I have done none of it some late nights incoming) but once I’m sorted I will get on it. especially if the news isn’t good on the 10th I need something to focus on. Xx

ladyholly

Nothing much I can say except I am sending you my hugs and prayers..

Blackcats

Such a long wait for results.
Being busy at work might be a helpful distraction but don't work too hard and burn yourself out.
hope that you have some nice family time planned for the next few days.

Sun_Addict

I’m so sorry to read about the circumstances that have led you to come back to the forum. I nearly lost my OH to a brain tumour 9 years ago, thankfully he’s in remission for now, but I know how it is waiting for MRI results. Looks like you’ve had some good advice already and I will be following your diary and keeping my fingers crossed for some good news on the 10th. Work was a good distraction for me when things were looking bleak and still is to be honest. Don’t forget to take care of you amongst all this. 

Lanky_larry

Thanks all  - I am a bit of a beggar for overloading myself but I’m at my best when I’m flat out, give me too much time to think and I crumble.
I haven’t found the balance yet but I am very lucky that my husband is utterly wonderful and is making sure I’m okay and looking after me beautifully, despite everything he’s going through! 

Lanky_larry

Feeling a little melancholic this evening - the end of 2022 is nigh, 2023 is a scary year, it’s my birthday tomorrow and I just want to press pause. 

I have instead spent the day (after a good walk on the beach) whilst my husband is sleeping to update my account app, and move money all over the place so we only have access to the budget for fuel and groceries. 

I paid off the Klarna account in full yesterday, and paid a little chunk off the CC so it’ll be a round number once the scheduled payment comes out. 

Everything feels more manageable when they’re round numbers 🤣

I still haven’t done any housework

I have all good intentions and then it’s all a bit overwhelming- to be honest the house isn’t too bad on the surface, the kitchen is awash with pots, but they’re stacked neatly… things are kinda pushed to the side to be dealt with later (a bit of a metaphor for my life one could say)

It’s a funny old life - a year ago we were full of excitement for the new year, we were moving house to an area we were all eager to explore and we’re ending the year not knowing how our future looks.

I shall cheer myself up I think, no point being so maudlin about it all, doesn’t get me anywhere!! 

Sun_Addict

Just take it one day at a time don’t think about the year as a whole. I know it’s hard not to. No one knows what’s around the corner, live for today. Big hugs x