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Old member returning in tough times

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  • @Lanky_larry - so sorry to hear about your husband. Sending hugs and prayers from America.
  • KajiKita
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    Hi @Lanky_larry, we haven’t spoken before, but I just wanted to send you huge hugs and support for the maelstrom of admin and grief you will have found yourself pushed into. 

    If you haven’t come across Redofromstart’s thread you might find it helpful. She lost her life-partner a few months ago and has posted in quite a bit of detail about her experiences with both the admin 🙄 and the grief 💔. This is her thread:

    +++ Whoops! Here comes the cheese! +++


    KK x
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  • teapot2
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    So sorry to hear your news, I know it wasn't unexpected but that doesn't lessen the trauma in my experience.  I hope you have good and kind support IRL too.  This is not an easy time of year when you have lost a loved one, my OH died in December a few years ago and its still tricky navigating the festive season.  Hugs to you x
  • Sun_Addict
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    I’m so sorry to read your sad news. Take care of yourself x
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  • Blackcats
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    Very sorry to read your sad news.
    there are many people here on the MSE boards who will offer you our virtual support and help, sprinkled liberally with kindness and care.
  • dawnybabes
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    So sorry to read your news.  My DH also passed away young from cancer, it’s coming up to 4 years now and I’d say me and our son have sort of found our normal now.  

    Any questions please ask. 
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  • maggiem
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    Very sorry to read this. Hope you can carry on being strong but do remember to be kind to yourself. 
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