Old member returning in tough times

enthusiasticsaver

Sorry to hear your husbands cancer is inoperable but from the sound of it he is still able to get out and about so living each day as it comes sounds like a good if trite mantra.  Look after yourself too.  I am a stress eater so totally get the overeating as you have so much going on.  

Saver-upper

Hi @Lanky_larry.
How are you? I've been thinking of you.

Blackcats

Another one here who is thinking of you and your family 

Lanky_larry

Thank you all

sorry I went AWOL, it's been a bit tough mentally but I'm here

he's off chemo, first 4 rounds shrank the tumours a bit, but 5-8 only held it stable, so no surgery.
He's having a 3 month break to enjoy life before going back on a different chemo (which by all accounts is just as bad, if not worse, than the stuff he's just endured so trying not to dwell.)

I took a bit of a dip mentally, but I have a coach and through my sessions with her I have decided that I need to suck it up so to speak. Or maybe a better phrase is fake it until you make it! I am okay, he is okay, we are okay, okay not forever but for right now.

Currently house hunting so being as careful as we can financially and focussing on that.

I now have 3 jobs (I know, I know) but I need the money - they're pretty interesting roles (parish clerk and burial board clerk) on top of my full time job - I did toy with the idea of going back to my degree too but think I should take one step at a time!

Hope you are all well - thank you for thinking of me, it means a lot

Sun_Addict

Good to hear from you, sorry to hear it's been so tough but glad to hear things are ok for now. Sounds like the coach has been useful for you. Sending hugs and positive thoughts your way x

ladyholly

Good to hear from you and I am sorry things are tough. Dont try to take on too much although I do understand the need for money but you need time for you and to be with your other half to enjoy a bit of life before the chemo starts again.

Saver-upper

Oh Lanky_larry, so lovely to hear from you again ❤️>
It sounds like you have had a couple of tough months- I am sorry.

Do take care of both yourselves, and we are here any time you need to chat .

Take care xx

Chieveley

It's been a year since your last post Lanky_Larry, how are things?.

Lanky_larry

Chieveley said:

It's been a year since your last post Lanky_Larry, how are things?.

Thank you - it's really kind of you to think of me. 
He's still here and doing as okay as he can be, all things considered. 
we fly to germany once a month for treatment as there's been a few muck ups with his treatment, so I'm working all hours and we fund raise, so busy is mostly how things are.  

thank you again

xxx

Lanky_larry

Popping on to say that my husband passed last month, life is pretty awful, but as I’m the sole provider for my family I am back trying to use the forum to maximise what I do. 

Just wanted to let you know and thank those here you asked after me and supported us. Im so grateful xx