Very Different Sex Drives

littlemissmoney

relay wrote: »

Of course there's a limit, but what happenes when that limit goes off the scale in the wrong direction to the stage where the woman just can't be bothered to make the effort even occasionally?

The OP is getting it about 3 times a month plus lots of phyiscal contact inbetween too :rolleyes: Is that really "off the scale in the wrong direction" in a long term relationship?

Bogof_Babe

littlemissmoney wrote: »

The OP is getting it about 3 times a month plus lots of phyiscal contact inbetween too :rolleyes: Is that really "off the scale in the wrong direction" in a long term relationship?

I'd say allowing for the one week per month when it's not possible for obvious reasons, that means effectively once a week it happens, perhaps slightly more as he did say 3-5 times a month. I think that would be about average (depending on your age group) for a stressed out working woman, who is past the first flush of romance in the partnership.

What's that old quip...

20-30 Tri-weekly
30-40 Try weekly
40-50 Try weakly
Over 50 - Give up, try beer .

Or summat like that :rotfl: . (Go on, tell me she's 21 :rolleyes: )

oojeyboojey

Is she on the pill? This can sometimes result in a woman's sex-drive being low. You could try getting her a vibrator for Christmas - the more orgasms you have, the more your brain needs. You can get ones that you can use in the bath - they're great after a stressful day Worth a try, anyway!

relay

littlemissmoney wrote: »

The OP is getting it about 3 times a month plus lots of phyiscal contact inbetween too :rolleyes: Is that really "off the scale in the wrong direction" in a long term relationship?

Well it's not exactly over indulgence. lol :rotfl:

noonesperfect

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

I'd say allowing for the one week per month when it's not possible for obvious reasons, that means effectively once a week it happens, perhaps slightly more as he did say 3-5 times a month. I think that would be about average (depending on your age group) for a stressed out working woman, who is past the first flush of romance in the partnership.

What's that old quip...

20-30 Tri-weekly
30-40 Try weekly
40-50 Try weakly
Over 50 - Give up, try beer .

Or summat like that :rotfl: . (Go on, tell me she's 21 :rolleyes: )

We're in the 40-50 age range but often tri-weekly . Should we be getting a medal :rotfl: :rotfl: ?

Carmina_Piranha_3

if you're still reading this thread privateposter i found ginseng helped. it gave me a bit more energy for other things too, i felt less exhausted. there's a vitamin supplement that contains ginseng but my mind has gone blank. it was fantastic, but expensive at £12.99 for a one month supply.

peppermint in the shower gel or bubble bath will make her tingle all over, especially in certain areas.

i'm wondering about the 'once a month' comment - is this regular? could it be when she ovulates? i have a low sex drive but am always up for it when i am ovulating, it's natures way of getting us girls pregnant :rolleyes: if there's a pattern to it make sure you're taking advantage of it every month

Essex-girl_2

oojeyboojey wrote: »

Is she on the pill? This can sometimes result in a woman's sex-drive being low. You could try getting her a vibrator for Christmas - the more orgasms you have, the more your brain needs. You can get ones that you can use in the bath - they're great after a stressful day Worth a try, anyway!

I was going to mention the pill - some types can drastically reduce sex drive - when I changed contraception I definately noticed the difference.

whitewing

The coil can also put some people off psychologically as they worry about their partner getting caught.

How are you handling the frustration..using !!!!!! or flirting madly with other women would put me off completely.

Compromises can work really well if you care about each other enough. I don't think she necessarily misled you to start with. Perhaps she was genuinely enthusiastic at the start in a new relationship but maybe other stresses have got on top of her.

Is she anaemic? That would make her tired and run down, maybe.

I know it's difficult but stop taking it quite so personally. If she's still with you then you must be worth it to her.

john.xs

visit a prostitute weekly and all your problemsw ill be solved!

relay

I think under the circumstances an 'Inflatable' prostitute might be less damaging to the relationship. LOL :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: