Very Different Sex Drives

Sola

3plus1 wrote: »

I've read through this entire thread .... It just feels like people are projecting their own insecurities and bitterness upon the OP.

I think you may have missed the bit in the very first post where the OP asked if anyone had been in a similar situation. He didn't specify he just wanted replies from the sexually frustrated ones in each partnership! Several of us tried to explain how it felt to be on the other side of the equation, and the OP was rude to us.

haylibo

Think the OP cleared off ages ago lol. Topic has moved on a bit - much less fighting and more discussion and support (!!!!).
Being a nosey devil I wonder how many others have been to any kind of sex therapy or...how many would consider it? Not Relate (which does have some therapist who specialise) but straight sex therapists. Just curious.

stressedaah30

jus been browsin this thread and cant really comment all tht much only known my partener few months so in honeymoon period where cant get enuff of it sure this will pass in time
sounds like op you still into each other by the holding hands and cuddling jus need a way to iron the sex out

Tom_Saunders

I could be the Opening post, I know the feeling only to well.

northernsal

Tom_Saunders wrote: »

I could be the Opening post, I know the feeling only to well.

Does that tempt you to stray ?? That's not an offer btw, was just wondering, what men really think when they're in that situation.

Anxious1

I have a low sex drive and I think thats why partly my husband doesn't want me anymore. I tried to get help when I noticed my behaviour changing but felt pushed away by the clinc that I was making it up or something. I looked at my lifestyle - worklife balance, health, etc tried to make changes which didn't help. We spoke a bit about it but didn't do much to change it. In my personal situation I really don't know what caused it, my just getting a little older perhaps, I know 10 years ago my sex drive was super high all the time. i don't think its all me but its mostly me. I do all the housework, washing and cooking as well as being the main earner so I have a hectic life style which I am fine with but I think that causes me not to relax and think about my needs, ie sex, etc. Or maybe I've fallen out of love? I thought I loved my life but now I know what my husband thinks maybe Ive been kidding myself.

this might not be very helpful, but I thought I would share my own experience about having little interest in sex. Keep talking and I hope you find a suitable solution to the way you are feeling.

Tom_Saunders

northernsal wrote: »

Does that tempt you to stray ?? That's not an offer btw, was just wondering, what men really think when they're in that situation.

What do you think!

northernsal

Tom_Saunders wrote: »

What do you think!

you haven't answered the question tom

cheeks

Since having children i lost my mojo too. My husband didn't pressure me or anything, really patient and understanding, but i missed the closeness. I found that zinc supplements really helped. don't know whether it was psychological or what but it really helped. hope it helps others too! Also having the contraceptive jab sapped my mojo too, since having a coil fitted (the one without any hormones involved) im back to normal. x

Crossy

After my hysterectomy my libido wasn't just low, it didn't exist!. but the fact was I wanted to feel different - would have taken any magic pill to make me as I was before the op.

But it is all hormonal, I had a very good doctor who prescribed testosterone implants (you can now get patches as well) they worked a treat, however I couldn't live with the side effects which in my case was very bad acne.

So really it depends if the OPs OH wants to feel different.