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Diary of a 30-something idiot

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  • dawnybabes
    dawnybabes Posts: 3,341 Forumite
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    A relationship is supposed to be a partnership, he needs to step up ! He’s just behaving like a toddler who’s been told no more sweets - sometimes you have to say no and rip the plaster off …..
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  • Valli
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    edited 17 October 2023 at 3:37PM
    I’m thinking about an Amazon ban (except for kindle or audible books which you obviously can’t buy elsewhere, and I’m not likely to trade in my kindle for a different E-reader). It’s crazy how easy it is to just keep buying. No wonder they are such a successful business!

    Another option is delete your cards off so you can’t order stuff without having to input everything- gives you a minute to think it through. 

    While I see your point re the waste of seven years… you do run the risk of one day saying “I wish I hadn’t wasted 20 years”. Not telling you what to do, just I don’t necessarily think you can decide based on that sunk cost of time. It needs to be the right, supportive, caring relationship for you now. 
    our local library does audible books

    https://www.derbyshire.gov.uk/leisure/libraries/ebooks/eaudiobooks/eaudiobook-set-up.aspx

    Don't put it DOWN; put it AWAY
    "I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness" Emily Dickinson
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  • jokono
    jokono Posts: 767 Forumite
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    edited 17 October 2023 at 4:20PM
    My sister shared this youtube channel with me recently, it's a lady counsellor who has lots of helpful videos, many focusing on setting healthy boundaries

    Julia Kristina Counselling
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  • slm6002
    slm6002 Posts: 4,378 Forumite
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    I found that being single meant I was so much more relaxed (after the initial shock).  No more walking on eggshells and being careful what I was saying in case he decided it was the wrong topic.  The money is controlled now and therefore we have more.  The children can see I am relaxed and happy and that in turn makes them happy.

    Don't give up. If he cant be a grown up that is not your fault 
    Me, DD1 19, DS 17, DD2 14, Debt Free 04/18, Single Mum since 11/19
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  • Bluegreen143
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    edited 17 October 2023 at 5:34PM
    Thanks @Valli, but the audio and ebook options are our libraries in my area aren’t great. Particularly for kids’ literature (this is why I buy from audible, for my son who isn’t a fluent reader yet - I don’t actually like audio books myself!). Hopefully others can benefit from things like this in their area! 

    Hugs to you Fox, hopefully whatever happens it’s helpful to see that there are many on the forum who have been through it before you and can advise on your best steps. If your husband is going to step up and sort himself out, it sounds like it’s a now or never moment now. 
    Part time working mum | Married in 2014 | DS born 2015 & DD born 2018

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