A Better Life.

badmemory

I think cleaners would be an excellent idea & take a lot of the stress & strain off you.  I have recently got rid one way & another of the equivalent of 2 double kitchen cupboards worth of "stuff".  I have known I needed to do it for ages, but I finally did do it & have now happily moved on to the next space I intend to clear.  It really is freeing.

Sarahwithlove

Sorry to hear about your mum, hope you are doing ok. Be sure to look after yourself as well. 

Sun_Addict

The hospital thing takes me back 9 years to Mr SA being in hospital often not having a clue what’s happening and the carer and mobility stuff to deal with too. Take it one day at a time that’s my advice xx

Buffythedebtslayer

in_need_of_direction said:

I know you have your financial targets but have you thought about paying for a deep clean while your mum is out of the house.  It might take a wee bit of pressure off you.

I am basically half way through it now, I couldn't bear strangers going through it all. Downstairs isn't so bad as I mostly keep on top of that and have had autonomy since I do the cooking and the cleaning, it is her room and my room that are big issues, too private for someone else. 

Am ok now I am off work. It is a massive relief. I I do need to get a shift on today. Woken up with a coldy feeling in my nose but it feels like an allergy reaction - dust maybe!! 



 

badmemory

I am fairly sure it will be dust, I have the same problem at the moment after my last clearout.  Some spaces are worse than others.  Personally I am hoping that when I eventually finish the dust will be gone.  I think the operative word there though is eventually.

Makingabobor2

I wear a mask if I'm doing a lot of cleaning as I am so allergic to dust. Even hoovering can set me off. 

beanielou

I thought that you were signed off 🤔. Xx

ayupmeduck

Grumpelstiltskin said:

Buffy this is what is obviously behind the hospital wanting to discharge.

Hospitals told to free up beds for ambulance strike - BBC News

But it will no be fair on your mother, you or the dogs and it won't be viable when you go back to work.

Something has to give and give in a big way, you will have to make decisions you don't want to but you can't carry on with that situation.

This isn't new, the hospitals try to get as many as they can home for christmas each year. Unfortunately some families use it as free respite at this time of year. 

milann

I know you like to plan but please don’t plan too far ahead….shorter chunks might feel more positive for you atm. Break your 6 monthly plans down and tick them off as you go. A day is a long time atm with everything that’s happening in your life.
Just wondering if you’ve extended your sick note?

SusieT

I really hope you are ok and that you do not have the nasty lurgy that is going around.