Moving on with things

MatyMoo

So proud of you Alt for not losing it with FIL 🥳

My ex used to have a foul temper and made the decision that he wasn’t going to lose it anymore about 25 years ago, it took me about 5 years to get used to him being calm & reasonable when faced with a problem!

satchmo1

Maybe pull the rug out from under him by saying something like "thank you for always being their for Mrs Alt when I was out of control, I'm so proud of the strong, loyal woman you have raised"

alt80

Not had a too bad day today apart from being absolutely whacked this afternoon. Weather has been beautiful, bit cold but can’t have everything. Half fancied an impromptu dinner out tonight but haven’t, trying to eat better generally, don’t want to wind up a fat !!!!!! now I’ve !!!!!! that Range Rover off ha. Also we are being quite strict about sticking to our plan which includes when we do and don’t eat out, used to have a lot of random dinner’s out in the middle of the week or rather I did. My wife has decided to sell a couple of other things she doesn’t want so perhaps see a bit of a boost from that soon. My ambitious target is still to have no credit card balances by the end of this year. 

 

@Iamouttheotherside Thank you, I can only just start to see your point of view re the challenge tbh I was !!!!!! crushed. Still am to an extent idk. I’ve nothing to prove to my in-laws. I know and my wife knows I’m clean and that’s all that matters, fwiw she has had wobbles in trusting me which I get and I’ve no problem proving it to her and have done.

 

I’m not going on Saturday as I’m definitely not invited, son and I are going to see one of his schoolfriends early evening for a couple of hours so will avoid everyone being drunk fortunately. We don’t really drink at all anymore so I’m half waiting for my wife getting absolutely !!!!!! wrecked ha.

 

Happy part time Friday for tomorrow and hope you’ve got some nice plans for the weekend too.

 

@foxgloves my list gets longer most weeks, I haven’t stopped adding to it and had already added something similar. 

 

@poppy811 thank you and I hope you are doing ok too.

 

@RelievedSheff Thank you and yeah I hope so, keep on the path and things do get better between them and I. Tbh I don’t want conflict had enough of that for a lifetime.

 

@MatyMoo thanks and I think my Mrs could probably relate to that. 

 

@satchmo1 Nothing untrue there tbf, I am and continue to be so proud of her and actually am grateful to my in-laws for how they have supported here and been there for her.  

alt80

Last weekend before budget reset has now been and gone, on target to make usual additional payment over the minimum amounts. Need the reset as we're heading off to Barcelona on Thursday - I think that'll probably make it tough for next month. Our trip to Spain has come around very quickly I’d been ok until I wrote that now feel anxious as !!!!!! for having another short work at the office. Need to leave early tomorrow too for a GP appointment which I almost feel like cancelling after writing that. Have to get through this – it’s not good for me and I don’t want to wind up potentially falling back again through compulsive work/ stress/ burnout.

 

This one has a nice weekend overall. Today didn’t go to plan, the weather was awful here so just went for lunch. Wife went to the housewarming on Saturday, had one drink then got a taxi to son’s schoolfriend’s place and spent most of the evening with us. Wasn’t planned that way but she just wanted to get away when she got there. Idk not sure anything is ever going to be alright there, certainly not how I want it to be for her. Anyhow we can’t control others and their reactions – just our own. We ended up having a nice evening at least. This sort of stuff would have once tripped me off, !!!!!! my personal finances, !!!!!! any time clean I'd managed to accrue so I'm taking some wins from these small things. 

enthusiasticsaver

I hope you enjoy Barcelona.  Sounds like you and your wife are working as a real team together so forget about others trying to bring you down.  It may well be they are struggling to see how much you have changed.  As you so rightly say you cannot control others behaviour but you can modify your reactions to it.  

RelievedSheff

Enjoy Barcelona.

For our sins we are in Rotherham for the bank holiday weekend    

warby68

You will enjoy Barcelona.

Family relations will probably be a work in progress for some time. If you and Mrs A keep on as you are, I'd expect things to change over time. They have provided good support to both of you in the past. They might be uncomfortable with the changing dynamics with Mrs A as well as with you as she seems to be 'adulting' pretty well these days too.

poppy811

Hoping you are Ok?

poppy811

Forgot to say I worry when you go quiet!

alt80

We had a lovely holiday thanks to everyone on here who made suggestions, it was wonderful. I wasn’t well on the way home, in the few days before we went on holiday I literally worked and slept, we then had a brilliant time as a  family but the moment we were on our way back idk things have not been good for me this week. Seen I’ve too much to lose. Wife and son went to in-laws yesterday for the coronation I just stayed in bed, tbf since we got back I’ve worked or been in bed, with phone / iPad / computers etc in another room not much sleep but only way I feel safe from pressing the !!!!!! it button ruining things. Tonight been the first time since we got back I’ve felt like I’m not going to !!!!!! ruin everything. Let myself have the iPad lol.