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  • alt80
    alt80 Posts: 4,637 Forumite
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    @MissPennySave thank you. I try to keep electronic devices out of the bedroom altogether but writing things down, not a stupid suggestion, I should. I'm trying to sort a lot of things out that should have been done quite a long time ago and are now needed to move forward. I hadn't been well for a very long time, just fortunate I generally had built a good team. With my head clear I've managed to see how to move forward with things and am in a position to sustain what needs to be done. I only have the right team around me now but I have quite a lot of work to do to be making progress to get to the next step which will in turn free more of my time up. 

    @Iamouttheotherside Not tried the Twinnings, have tried the Tea Pigs one which is pleasant but can't say it sends me to sleep. I'll give it a go, thanks. 
  • foxgloves
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    When I had a couple of years of horrible anxiety (tbh, I'm an insomniac at the best of times), I used to buy a herbal product (available on the high street, nothing dodgy) called 'Potter's New Relax". I used to take 3 doses a day & they definitely helped. I now find myself unable to source this product for love nor money! It's a shame. I use valerian tablets when I need them, but the others had valerian with additional soporific herbs & I found them very good. Insomnia is just awful - I've had it on & off (mostly on) since I was 17. I can get off to sleep fine, but often wake around 3.15. If I sleep right through to 5am, that's a result for me. 
    Agree lack of sleep very wearing & hinders concentration.
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  • Morning @alt80, how did the tea work for you?
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  • alt80
    alt80 Posts: 4,637 Forumite
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    Unfortunately been really struggling with everything but working and letting work take over again. Quite aware it's not good for me or my family. In better news, looking like I'll hit my personal finances target for the month although all the other healthy targets I had I've completely failed with. Can only try for the rest of the month, need to keep myself accountable.

    @MissPennySave the tea seemed to work well Friday night and Tuesday night, rest of the time my sleep has been a complete joke.
  • SusieT
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    edited 20 January 2023 at 9:50AM
    You are hitting the financial target so that is a positive, with "all the other healthy targets I had" why not have 1 or 2 rather than what sounds like a lot, set yourself up to succeed, rather than having a lot of targets and telling yourself you have failed, especially as it is only a bit over half way through January. Set 1 to achieve between now and the end of the month, even if its to cook or help cook lunch for the remaining Sundays. You can do this, but you need to tell yourself you can do a&b rather than you cannot do qrstuvwxyz
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  • alt80
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    Hitting financial target because I’m doing nothing but working ha. Thank you though, concentrating on 1-2 things would be better really. There’s so much I need to improve personally I know I’m just retreating to what I do ok at. 
  • KxMx
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    Hi Alt, I haven't posted on your new diary but have been really pleased to see you back and posting, you seem in such a better place.

    Don't beat yourself up you have made real progress, before you wouldn't have even seen you were being unrealistic in your targets, just acknowledging that now is a massive achievement and a big step.
  • alt80
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    Another working week of the year gone idk 2023 seems to be flying by already. We are going out again on Sunday as a family so already have that planned. Apart from that I was going to work tomorrow but so whacked I think I'll just a few bits that'll make next week easier as we've got a long weekend coming up that week.

    @KxMx thank you I am staying on track in one regard and generally am in a better place. 

    Had a bit of time to think tonight and for the rest of January I've like to keep my Sundays for my family and get to the gym three times over the week and do a yoga class. I'm not really exercising, which doesn't help tbh if 1 or 2 sessions are home gym that'll be better than doing nothing. I know work becoming compulsive again is not good news for me, think my sleep is so bad because I'm working until it's stupidly late, going to bed straight away and can't switch off. Someone on here I think said could I make better sleep my target for this year and the pros think it is something I should have as a major priority, it'd do me the world of good tbh.
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