COVID cancel plans with friends

MovingForwards

How can your friend afford to pay for an escort for both of you, when he isn't working.

A real friend would not be pressuring another to have paid for sex with a stranger.

Do you really want that 'secret' being held over you? Any time you then say no to meeting up with him, the reply will be "I'll tell your parents/ sibling/ cousin/ uncle / aunt you had sex with a prostitute if you don't come out".

Another thing to think about is almost anything goes when you're paying for it, and if you agree/ do it there will be more visits and pressure to return by your 'friend'. You'll also have the wrong idea of what a loving relationship is, where a woman says 'no' I don't want to do that. 

Between the two "friends", you've the one who likes to buy on random females all the time and this one wants to pay for sex, neither are what any of us would say are your friend. 

You're fast heading down the wrong path, yet you cannot see the issues.

sim2335

He can afford it from his family 

I have told him lots of things he’s told me stuff too he never uses it against me.

That’s true he may pressure me to go again.

MaryNB

sim2335 said:

It’s not just any singles event it’s this one, as I know someone who went, and met somone.

It’s not just this friend all friend, I would meet

However I may have reconsider my decision so May meet him anyway, didn’t realise it would feel this long.

He hasn’t met me for ages even though I was free, once he had a excuse says postman is coming to collect video game, which was true but then couldn’t meet.

It’s normally him that’s too busy to meet not me.

I’m not using this as a excuse as still meet, I’m just pointing it out.

My friend would pay for escort for me and him.

Without friend no I wouldn’t go 

I'll be honest, I'm struggling to comprehend some of your posts.

Are you saying you would put this event ahead of your relationships with all of your friends not just this one? 

If you're using it as a reason, I'll say again, you don't need to worry about getting Covid until September unless you are particularly vulnerable and if you are particularly vulnerable you'd want to avoid this singles event anyway. You're saying to your friend that avoiding Covid is more important than meeting with him for a few months, but not more important than a singles event. You're saying you don't want to risk your holiday with your mother but you are willing to take that risk for the singles event (well only really a risk if it's in September). If you were my friend I would think you were fobbing me off.  

If you both aren't putting that much effort into meeting up (do you live nearby, is distance an issue?) on top of all the other issues you've raised then why are you continuing with this friendship? I might not see friends because of family commitments or because I'm worn out with work but we understand sometimes life gets in the way and we'll make it up later. But we don't give eachother lame excuses for not meeting up, I put the effort into those friendships because they are important to me. 

sim2335

I was too hasty with covid gona go back to normal till September 

Anthor reason I kept these friends so close for so long is at least they meet me when they can

For example today I spoke to three other friends one been asking to meet up for weeks gona meet up this eveing now says I’m diffent city

Other one goes defiantly meet doesn’t give a date

Final one says I’m busy et you know then just makes excuse

It’s hard to find friends, you get along with and are willing to meet.

Doesn’t mean I would leave them for example if they took large amount of money or physical harm, no going back that’s not happend though

Also with friendships doesn’t mean you have to meet all time or even talk, but when you do it should be quilaity even if it’s after few months 

MaryNB

sim2335 said:

I was too hasty with covid gona go back to normal till September 

Anthor reason I kept these friends so close for so long is at least they meet me when they can

For example today I spoke to three other friends one been asking to meet up for weeks gona meet up this eveing now says I’m diffent city

Other one goes defiantly meet doesn’t give a date

Final one says I’m busy et you know then just makes excuse

It’s hard to find friends, you get along with and are willing to meet.

Doesn’t mean I would leave them for example if they took large amount of money or physical harm, no going back that’s not happend though

Also with friendships doesn’t mean you have to meet all time or even talk, but when you do it should be quilaity even if it’s after few months 

But you're saying that they are friends because they meet you when they can. Then you go on to say they're not giving you dates and making excuses as to why they can't meet up. It's very hard to give advice because I cannot get a sense of what is actually going on.

You say its hard to find friends but then are prioritising singles events over spending time with the friends you already have, you say the singles event is far more important. Then the friends you have seem to be bad at making plans with you. I have friends I see only occasionally because they have children or live in a different city but when we can make plans we do and we stick to them as much as possible. My close friends with fewer commitments I see quite frequently and I make the effort to maintain those friendships. I've drifted away in the past from people simply due to lack of effort on both sides.  I've learned how hard it is to make friends as I get older and how important it is to make the effort and value the good friends I do have (and of course let go of the ones causing me stress). 

sim2335

Yes they do meet me, especially other one who’s moved away

I’m on about these two friends who I also had problems with meet me.

It’s other friends who are so called normal don’t.

Any girl related event that could lead to marraige.

My two closest friends cause me join and happiness hence it’s so hard to leave left in past and just got too lonely and miss their company as we close friends, so went back 

ontheroad1970

If you do away with your existing friends (well the ones that are worth having) while you meet a prospective partner, what will you do for companionship in the early stages of any fledgling relationship?  Very few girls find it attractive the a new boyfriend wants to spend all his time with her all the time.  As a relationship develops, she will want to meet your friends as  that would help her get to know you.  

If you are too intense at the start of a romantic relationship, it will not survive the first few dates.  You will scare more girls than you would attract.

sim2335

ontheroad1970 said:

If you do away with your existing friends (well the ones that are worth having) while you meet a prospective partner, what will you do for companionship in the early stages of any fledgling relationship?  Very few girls find it attractive the a new boyfriend wants to spend all his time with her all the time.  As a relationship develops, she will want to meet your friends as  that would help her get to know you.  

If you are too intense at the start of a romantic relationship, it will not survive the first few dates.  You will scare more girls than you would attract.

if you have no friends you can’t get a girlfriend,

I wouldn’t spend all time with her, when I’m not with her just spend alone time.

or any groups like Meetup etc

TheJP

Festival is in September, you have covid now and the festival is in September and you  want to cancel because of covid? Is it because you don't want to get it again or because you don't want to go?

Don't use covid as an excuse, if you don't want to go tell him. 

sim2335

TheJp - after the festival which he wants me to go every night for one and a half weeks, I’m going on hoilday., the following week, hence I’m not doing anything in spetmber.

I don’t want to go to festival, if it wasn’t for Covid I would only go not to let him down.

even if they let me go on plane with Covid, I still don’t wanna get it as I just don’t want to be ill.