COVID cancel plans with friends

sim2335

I mite end up losing him as friend, as I’m gona try and be as honest as possible.

Also with the job thing I think he will continue lying, saying I do have a job.

Then how can I always be honest with him when he can’t be with me.

I feel anxious even asking him, 

Let’s see what he says today,

Pollycat

Friends don't routinely lie to each other.

Why are you so sure he doesn't have a job?

sim2335

We don’t rountily lie it was just this matter, and only reason I did is if I was honest he would try to persuade me to meet him too.

I’m sure he doesn’t have job

He’s never had a job expect one for a week,

He won’t tel me what the job is

He’s on PlayStation during work hours or if he’s not gone out picks up home phone during work hours.

After are argument we talked normally on phone that’s why it’s so hard to just leave him.

MaryNB

I can understand why you are avoiding the festival in late September but I can see why he would be annoyed that you are using it as excuse not to do anything until after your holiday in October.  Most people (in good health etc) are over Covid after two or three weeks of coming in contact with someone who is infected. Saying you can't do anything in July because of a holiday in October just seems like you are using Covid as an excuse. 

Making an exception for a singles events but not doing anything with him isn't helping the matter. A social event with people you don't know is fairly risky if you're telling people you're trying to avoid Covid.

sim2335

He says lots of times let’s meet, and hasn’t met me for months busy or doesn’t have money, no idea why he keeps asking then.

Singles event way more important then meeting a mate.

I think when I was ill but too hasty, I went a bit far as didn’t wanna be I’ll again might go back to normal till September now.

Yes it is risky, but more I do more likely to catch, but even in spetmber will stop that.

elsien

I’m just baffled by the whole escort thing. Do you really want to be a joint visit to a prostitute? 

sim2335

I’m not bothered about the escort thing, I’m just annoyed that he keeps saying it for years, then when I told him, he’s been saying it for years he’s like no I haven’t,1!; he said I’m never avalible to come, when he doesn’t even give date.

I’m annoyed he keeps mentiong it, then he ask how come you never brought it up if you gona come., I said cos I’m not that bothered.

I told him before not too bothered but if it’s free I could come

MaryNB

sim2335 said:

He says lots of times let’s meet, and hasn’t met me for months busy or doesn’t have money, no idea why he keeps asking then.

Singles event way more important then meeting a mate.

I think when I was ill but too hasty, I went a bit far as didn’t wanna be I’ll again might go back to normal till September now.

Yes it is risky, but more I do more likely to catch, but even in spetmber will stop that.

I really disagree with this point. If you think a singles event is way more important that spending time with the person your are referring to then they aren't a friend. 

Friendships take effort and spending times with friends is important. If you have a good friend a singles event certainly wouldn't be more important than spending time with them. I wouldn't mind if a friend, who I saw frequently anyway, couldn't meet for coffee because they were going to a single event. I certainly wouldn't take it well if they were refusing to meet with me for 3 months using Covid as an excuse but then went to a social event with a bunch of strangers. 

elsien

sim2335 said:

I’m not bothered about the escort thing, I’m just annoyed that he keeps saying it for years, then when I told him, he’s been saying it for years he’s like no I haven’t,1!; he said I’m never avalible to come, when he doesn’t even give date.

I’m annoyed he keeps mentiong it, then he ask how come you never brought it up if you gona come., I said cos I’m not that bothered.

I told him before not too bothered but if it’s free I could come

Escorts tend not to give freebies. And whether free or not isn’t the issue. Do you want to visit a sex worker, with or without your mate? 

sim2335

It’s not just any singles event it’s this one, as I know someone who went, and met somone.

It’s not just this friend all friend, I would meet

However I may have reconsider my decision so May meet him anyway, didn’t realise it would feel this long.

He hasn’t met me for ages even though I was free, once he had a excuse says postman is coming to collect video game, which was true but then couldn’t meet.

It’s normally him that’s too busy to meet not me.

I’m not using this as a excuse as still meet, I’m just pointing it out.

My friend would pay for escort for me and him.

Without friend no I wouldn’t go