COVID cancel plans with friends

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

Other then Meetup where else to meet people

Lots of people have suggested evening classes. 
Why don't you consider that?

Your friend who approaches girls in the supermarket sounds incredibly creepy.
If he tried that on me, I might just let off my attack alarm which would scare him to death and bring Security running.
Don't aspire to be like him.

As for not knowing what to talk about, do you watch the news? Or read the news?
I always have a couple of things I've read about on BBC website to bring into the conversation with friends. Usually something light, like the basking shark that was seen in Tenby recently.
My friend and I talk about books.

It's not going to come to you in a crash of drums or a flash of light  you need to work at it.

Sea_Shell

Pollycat said:

sim2335 said:

Other then Meetup where else to meet people

It's not going to come to you in a crash of drums or a flash of light  you need to work at it.

🎶Any dream will do🎶

Pollycat

Sea_Shell said:

Pollycat said:

sim2335 said:

Other then Meetup where else to meet people

It's not going to come to you in a crash of drums or a flash of light  you need to work at it.

🎶Any dream will do🎶

Sorry. Couldn't resist.

sim2335

@Pollycat not sure what to do evening class in like Hare Krishna so still gona go to that after October.

So I told him, 

Then he seemed very calm, so I’m like a true friend would undertand

He’s like I don’t I’m very angry but what can I do

He said can’t you sit in a isolated place there

Then he did say you have let me down, you should cancel your hoilday.

I said this is last time me and my mum are going on hoilday as I won’t keep going same place again, and only time she and I could get off, and even then I was still gona come with you until I had covid

Then he’s like ok don’t worry about it I will just try and find someone elese.

He even said have a good time on hoilday, I do feel bad about letting him down but what can I do.

This was all in a normal tone, to be honest suprised about his response, in the past he would be angry in his tone , calm down and try and persuade me in a nice wayetc.

Sea_Shell

How many months are they to go for him to "work on you" though?

Time to "wear you down"?

Stay strong, keep saying no, as from what you've said about this "friend" I very much doubt that this will be the end of the matter.

He knows you, and he knows which buttons to press to get you to do what he wants.

sim2335

There’s about 2 months left.
he lives in a diffent city to me now, 

it ain’t happing anyway, because I chnage my work shift time, to diffent rota  before so I can go because it finishes late, now chnage it back, so not gona chnage again to go.

Tbh I really don’t want to go either find it boring, depressing to as brings back mentions of when I was very young, and start thinking I should be moved on.

Sncjw

SIM what are your interests? 

I have friends and acquaintances that indont often see due to work and living in a different area. You don't always need to be constantly around someone. As adults it's harder to meet up due to work life, family commitments so you need to understand that. 

I have worked in my place for several years and it's only in the last couple of years I've become friends withab few people as I found they had similar interests and also they have reignited an interest I had as a child and they are interested in it such as the rugby. I have taken steps to even offer then the chance to come with me when my husband can't come to games as I got a season ticket. 

She has a busy life and we are going out together on a day trip to a thing we are interested in. I don't go out alot in evenings socially with others due to issues I have but I have made the effort and gained the confidence to ask if she would like to come to the event and she said yes. She lives in a different area so we only really see each other at work. 

A relationship weather it's romantic or friendship takes time..

Have a think about your interests and is there clubs with these interests you can go to or even communicate on Facebook with. 

When I found my husband on POF I was on there on and off for about ten years. I had to weed out the guys who just want one thing of were not right for me. I didn't just stick to people who have exactly the same interests I even put on my profile looking for someone with similar or interesting interests. Just because I don't have the same interest in it doesn't mean they aren't worth knowing.

I'm sure there are better people out there who will treat you kindly but it can take time to develop freindshop and trust. 

powerful_Rogue

You know friends aren't everything.

Close friends, I can probably count about 2.

Friends that have come from being work colleagues, about 7. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhBcegRkISQ

But then i'm happy with my own company and the majority of the time the wife!

Karl Pilkington got it right when he said you only need 7 mates!

JGB1955

I've always kept 'work' mates at some distance.  Home and work are two different planets.  I was persuaded to host a hen night (at my house) for one of my colleagues - the stress of having my work-mates in my personal space was far more stressful than giving birth to children!  When working in London, home and work were a safe 15+ miles away....not 2 miles! 

sim2335

My interests are music, sports football boxing travelling, dinning out, soclsing with friends, theme parks.