An apology

Tahlullah.H

Maskface said:

I never really understand these big 'I'm leaving' announcements. Will people's egos not just allow them to quietly slip away unnoticed? 

I think that their absence was noticed.  We just didn't know where they went.  However, it does seem that it was a 'by invitation' departure to the new forum.

Doozergirl

There's another new forum? 

I live in a parallel universe to you lot. 

Doozergirl

Tahlullah.H said:

Maskface said:

I never really understand these big 'I'm leaving' announcements. Will people's egos not just allow them to quietly slip away unnoticed? 

I think that their absence was noticed.  We just didn't know where they went.  However, it does seem that it was a 'by invitation' departure to the new forum.

And again, it seems that a pre-warning is needed, otherwise you just disappear into the ether. Better to announce than be booted.  

There's a poster I often think about but I can't remember his name.  Used to always tell people on the In My Home board that everything builder related was partially their fault for not doing due diligence.   He was usually right, but someone would have taken offence eventually although I'd worried until this thread that he'd died. 😟

Tahlullah.H

Not new Doozergirl, newer than this one but old.  Happened when they changed the format of this one - lots preferred the way it looked and were unhappy, so moved across.  I remember it being talked about on the 'Nice Peoples' thread at the time.

Doozergirl

Tahlullah.H said:

Not new Doozergirl, newer than this one but old.  Happened when they changed the format of this one - lots preferred the way it looked and were unhappy, so moved across.  I remember it being talked about on the 'Nice Peoples' thread at the time.

Ah. Thank you for the swift response! 

YoungBlueEyes

I’m not the only one who mistakes people’s absence for something rather grimmer then! Did seem to be quite a few folk suddenly not posting…..  but covid n’all…. 😔
Happy to be proved wrong.  I was entirely ignorant of the whole banning/moving to other fora fandangle!

deannagone

Thrugelmir said:

Doozergirl said:

YoungBlueEyes said:

Yeah AdrianC, DavidMcn (..?), also where's davesnave? God they did make me laugh!

We're being picked off!   This is ridiculous.  

Certainly been the case that certain posters are taking personal umbrage at others. Then trawl through their posts to find something to report. However inoffensive,non political or legally correct the post is. A card gets issued.  Get two over time and a ban ensures...........

Yes, this is exactly what happened to me.  A newish user was offended  by one of my replies to his post and started following me around on the forum. Reports were made for any rule breaking including posting on the covid help thread asking for advice with a covid related personal family matter that wasn't actually about saving money.  I had no one else to ask for advice.   After a very short time I was banned for two weeks and told another 'wrong un' and I'd be banned permanently.  I actually told the mods that this was my only contact with the outside world (yep I'm 'neurodivergent').

As a lot of my replies and threads don't mention money saving (neither do many on here, they are more about problems), I couldn't really get how the situation happened.  But it did and I still expect it to happen again, every time I post.  So the forum has lost a lot of the 'good' stuff for me.  Its a shame.  I did post a few threads that were removed about G_M being banned, sure that didn't help lol. 

TripleH

I have read posts by frequent contributors that I have strongly disagreed with, but I don't report them.

I have had differing opinions to others that could easily have descended into an arguement if I'd continued to pursue, but I've left it in case I'm wrong (and let others come and correct or support me).

I have tried to amend my approach to be more sympathetic as I can be quite cold and methodical in my perspective.

To me the biggest issue is a forum without differing views. I also disagree with picking fault over past posts (here and elsewhere). We as a society are becoming quite counterproductive in how we operate. People quite rightly want us to change our thoughts and opinions if they had negative connotations, but yet we get shot down for the person we once were not the person we now are.

Skiddaw1

I worry about what regular posters such as Adrian will do with themselves if permanently banned. Adrian was on here just about all the time (I imagine that he was another 'neurodivergent' member). It's like being banned from your local pub or community centre and could potentially be really damaging for some. 

canaldumidi

I know we have to be welcoming and kind to newbies, but it does seem unjust and counter-productive when someone with half a dozen posts takes umbrage at a reply they dislike often because it's not the answer they wanted, complains, and someone with several K posts who has helped countless people gets penalised.