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in_need_of_direction

What bad memory said but tell them that you’ll be back in x number of hours.  Then go and just sit somewhere with a notebook and look at how you want next year to be

CRANKY40

One of my Christmas things is the "Get your sh*t together journal" by Sarah Knight. I'm going to give it a go....it's based on her book and it says how to stop worrying about what you should do so you can finish what you need to do and start doing what you want to do. It says it's going to help me to help myself. Maybe you could do something similar? It might help you to hatch your escape plan because you definitely need one. Hugs. 

Buffythedebtslayer

badmemory said:

Are you taking mum over tomorrow?  If so how's this for a suggestion.  Take her over, go out to the car for something you forgot, then just drive away.  Don't tell me you wouldn't love to do that.  I know you would.  You don't know how often I've sat there crying into the steering wheel.  I know you won't do it because you are a much nicer person than me, but you will enjoy thinking about doing it.  Just remember to take something that YOU like & preferably they hate tomorrow.  And remember "revenge is a dish best served cold".

Oh Badmemory! This made me laugh and laugh! I would love to do that! That sounds terrible, and yes you are right, I wouldn't do it, I think this year the state of the house really got to me and the constant demands to get things meant I never had a clear day to get stuck in and that lead to late nights which lead to tiredness which lead to my near inability to cope with yesterday. I am very glad it is over with. So so relieved. Makes it ever more clear that this house must be tidy and presentable. I need it to work for me. I know I am constantly saying this but at work I have moved rooms about 4 times and people there would not believe I lived like this.  I am so tidy and organised. And there are bits of it at home - medications, the clothes. Plus I went and stood in the conservatory this morning and thought actually this looks far better than I realised. 



                                                                                                                   

Buffythedebtslayer

stymied said:

Our whole house is a tip. At least that part is expected at Christmas and no one can judge me for it.

I’m sorry it’s not gone well and hope you can take some much deserved “me” time tomorrow. Sod going anywhere - you have a migraine and are therefore unfortunately indisposed (unless you want to go that is).

I ate 2 chocolates, 2 slices of Christmas cake, a bowl of coco pops and half a packet of breadsticks to get over Christmas. And that was with everything generally going pretty well!

I had a lot of chocolate when I got in. Industrial amounts!! I need to go which is frustrating, too "outing" to explain why  specifically. Headache is far less tho after 9 hours of sleep with only one interruption for a wee was total bliss! 

Buffythedebtslayer

in_need_of_direction said:

What bad memory said but tell them that you’ll be back in x number of hours.  Then go and just sit somewhere with a notebook and look at how you want next year to be

You are back! Brilliant XXX 

Buffythedebtslayer

CRANKY40 said:

One of my Christmas things is the "Get your sh*t together journal" by Sarah Knight. I'm going to give it a go....it's based on her book and it says how to stop worrying about what you should do so you can finish what you need to do and start doing what you want to do. It says it's going to help me to help myself. Maybe you could do something similar? It might help you to hatch your escape plan because you definitely need one. Hugs. 

I bought myself a wellbeing journal but have to say Get your Sh$t together sounds much more like it. 

Buffythedebtslayer

So I just argued? with mum. 

She commented that I didn't put enough marmalade on her toast. Apparently I used to be quite good at it..... but lately not....... 

Ok...then. 

I appreciate that seems small but when about 50% of what you is criticised and asked to be done differently it grates.  

I am afraid after everything I have done organised and sorted that was too much for me. Don't get me wrong she says thank you for stuff, in that automatic way but she resents needing help so that resentment comes out directed at me or the dogs. And very occasionally she will properly realised what I am doing and be upset that I "have" to do it. And it must be hard, I mean she brought us up with an inability to ask for help or accept help without feeling like a failure. So she finds it all impossible. I do get it but sometimes!!! 

The weird thing is, I don't feel guilty. 

Just quite relaxed. 

RosaBernicia

Oh Buffy I'm so sorry they couldn't manage to appreciate you on Christmas Day of all flaming things! 

2022 Get Your S*** Together challenge, anyone?  Definitely needed in this neck of the woods too...

Buffythedebtslayer

I think she just finds it hard, she was always in charge and we all spent the time running round doing what she wanted - it was never intentional and I suspect before I came along the balance was different in the family- different times and different rules/expectations and slowly it has evolved into this. 

Hey ho. I do hate all this self reflection. I bore myself thinking about it. 

I feel like I am getting a cold. Totally paranoid it is Omnicom. I must put on the turkey. 

Sun_Addict

RosaBernicia said:

Oh Buffy I'm so sorry they couldn't manage to appreciate you on Christmas Day of all flaming things! 

2022 Get Your S*** Together challenge, anyone?  Definitely needed in this neck of the woods too...

Oh we definitely need one of those 🤣