The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb.

RosaBernicia

I agree with thinking through what lifestyle you would want - that was part of my conversation with a financial advisor.  I got the impression there aren't all that many people who tell him they'll just want a tiny cottage with a garden and a beach or woods to walk.  I have no interest in new cars or flights now, never mind when I am older and even grumpier

Buffythedebtslayer

RosaBernicia said:

I agree with thinking through what lifestyle you would want - that was part of my conversation with a financial advisor.  I got the impression there aren't all that many people who tell him they'll just want a tiny cottage with a garden and a beach or woods to walk.  I have no interest in new cars or flights now, never mind when I am older and even grumpier

I can't really imagine doing much beyond working. I think I would like travelling. no care for cars. Animals....obviously. I don't want to think about getting old to be honest! 

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This is sad, I know, but my great grandmother used to live in a sweet little bungalow on a pensioner's complex.  So she was independent but had those red cords in the house she could pull if she fell etc.  Anyway, she always used to have like a zimmer frame thing with a tray on it which she used to have in front of her chair and she used to watch the tv with her heating on full blast and a big tin of lovely M&S biscuits.  I just used to think "ooooh, when I'm old I'd like to be like that".  Which sounds ridiculous I know.  But she always seemed so cosy and happy!

I think however, I am old before my time - when I was about 13 I used to spend my holiday pocket money on going into a little cafe for a cup of tea and a toasted teacake or bacon roll - that was bliss to me!!!

I am also, at present, craving a much simpler life - having my 2 DC grow up a-la-darling buds of may (original series!) and so I do wonder if I will revert back to being how I used to be and not wanting to travel etc and just pottering around at home making pies!

Buffythedebtslayer

[Deleted User] said:

This is sad, I know, but my great grandmother used to live in a sweet little bungalow on a pensioner's complex.  So she was independent but had those red cords in the house she could pull if she fell etc.  Anyway, she always used to have like a zimmer frame thing with a tray on it which she used to have in front of her chair and she used to watch the tv with her heating on full blast and a big tin of lovely M&S biscuits.  I just used to think "ooooh, when I'm old I'd like to be like that".  Which sounds ridiculous I know.  But she always seemed so cosy and happy!

I think however, I am old before my time - when I was about 13 I used to spend my holiday pocket money on going into a little cafe for a cup of tea and a toasted teacake or bacon roll - that was bliss to me!!!

I am also, at present, craving a much simpler life - having my 2 DC grow up a-la-darling buds of may (original series!) and so I do wonder if I will revert back to being how I used to be and not wanting to travel etc and just pottering around at home making pies!

I had a great aunt who lived in Islington, never had children, never married, had various dogs and went on cruises, I would LOVE to go on a cruise or cruises! Also I would like Jessica Fletcher's life she has a fab time aside from all the murders......

Willowtree222

Buffythedebtslayer said:

[Deleted User] said:

This is sad, I know, but my great grandmother used to live in a sweet little bungalow on a pensioner's complex.  So she was independent but had those red cords in the house she could pull if she fell etc.  Anyway, she always used to have like a zimmer frame thing with a tray on it which she used to have in front of her chair and she used to watch the tv with her heating on full blast and a big tin of lovely M&S biscuits.  I just used to think "ooooh, when I'm old I'd like to be like that".  Which sounds ridiculous I know.  But she always seemed so cosy and happy!

I think however, I am old before my time - when I was about 13 I used to spend my holiday pocket money on going into a little cafe for a cup of tea and a toasted teacake or bacon roll - that was bliss to me!!!

I am also, at present, craving a much simpler life - having my 2 DC grow up a-la-darling buds of may (original series!) and so I do wonder if I will revert back to being how I used to be and not wanting to travel etc and just pottering around at home making pies!

I had a great aunt who lived in Islington, never had children, never married, had various dogs and went on cruises, I would LOVE to go on a cruise or cruises! Also I would like Jessica Fletcher's life she has a fab time aside from all the murders......

I love Murder, she wrote! I love her house in Cabot cove too 😂

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Whenever I've been to places like cape cod I always think of Jessica Fletcher.  I agree it's rather unfortunate about the murders.  I likewise think Midsomer looks quaint but I don't fancy my chances there.

Buffythedebtslayer

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Whenever I've been to places like cape cod I always think of Jessica Fletcher.  I agree it's rather unfortunate about the murders.  I likewise think Midsomer looks quaint but I don't fancy my chances there.

And this is why I want to travel when I retire. So I have memories like that.

At least Jess solves the one murder per episode, in MM it takes about 15!! 

Buffythedebtslayer

Morning all, 

I saved 103.10 in SPC which isn't bad considering I barely use cash these days. I ordered a new work bag from e bay - all class here and it is just very boring and not pretty however it is practical and not worth the hassle of returning. I will use it, it did cost 11 quid.... got some very thin jogging bottoms, good for inside not for outside. 

I realised something today. I have stopped making a  written list to organise myself. This is mainly due to spending so much time with mum and doing stuff ad hoc or actually in the routine for her or the animals, that I don't know what else I have to do or could do. Just been fire fighting for so long now. I read some memories on FB, pre my BIL illness I was pretty happy there for a while.  Work was good, challenging but I liked it, home was the same as it had been when I was growing up but I had weirdly made my peace with that. Accepted that my sister was going to be the same way and so was I, and that was ok, we won't going to be close. She had her priorities and I had mine. And honestly it was fine. 

Then he got sick and our lives revolved around them. The house fell apart cos no one came round, we were always out, at hospital and slowly over two years it got in a terrible permanent state, even when mum went on holiday she didn't seem to understand I spent so much time helping my sister. In those early days she obviously hadn't got it all figured out just yet. Now she is much more on it. Then we had covid and at the start in garden I did well, growing stuff and clearing things out. The shed of doom is a lot better now. Did some good work for school. Then mum got more unwell and we hit a kind of routine in covid that suited her, not because she is stroppy but because of her limitations/needs and now we are here, occasionally she has good days but I can't plan much. And I am planner. She is not. I am just surviving. 

Anyhow enough pontificating, not raining at the moment so am back on the bunny house. 

Buffythedebtslayer

Made lots of progress on the rabbit house, it is covered in plastic and I started to put the hutch together, it is DREADFUL quality. I wasn't too worried when I bought it thinking that it would inside the aviary and not need to be fox proof etc but I thought it would fit together!! The roof was ridiculous. And the base of it, the tray is thin piece of metal, I have seen thicker baking trays. I couldn't put her out there in that. She would freeze alone. 

So the new plan is get her neutered (Monday) have her recover for two - three weeks and then bond her with the other four in conservatory for a weekend. Then all five will go outside to the warm hutch and shed. It is a risk but if the bond goes well then she will be warm with the others. She is a little cow bag mind. I feel sad for the current four, they are happy in their respective pairs and seem to like each other... well through the bars! 

I also tidied up the back part of the garden, I have to say it looks SO much better, cleared of weeds and rubbish, my pear tree, olive tree and Christmas tree all looking fine. I moved the lavender and tidied up the herb garden, my heather is coming back to life, I think I killed the butterfly bush thing but you can't win them all. My Rose bush is about 14 years old and still alive, is growing in a funny shape tho. I think I have done pretty well really. The house is a tip but that is going to get sorted. IT IS. 

Might have Chinese food for dinner if I can figure out how to pay for it. 

Willowtree222

Sounds like a good plan and you’ve sorted the garden out which must feel great x