The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb.

greenbee

My suggestion for boxing day is 'I've been invited out and am going - the rest of you do what you like'

Sun_Addict

My dear departed MIL always used to host Boxing Day. However she used to go to SIL’s for Christmas Day and SIL would ply her with drinks. Which meant Boxing Day she was too tired/hungover to bother. One year we went to hers to find the table laden with food still in its wrappers, some plates and cutlery.  She just told us to help ourselves 🤣 Maybe you should adopt that tactic 😆

RosaBernicia

Buffythedebtslayer said:

RosaBernicia said:

It's hard and it's rubbish and the most infuriating thing about it all (which I have only seen acknowledged in the book I posted) is that if we had been stupid enough to marry any of those idiots and then divorce them, the perception of us would be completely different and people would understand that our being single is financially difficult and lonely! 

Having a plan is usually a good thing... maybe the advisor will find some new options you hadn't spotted before.  Fingers crossed for you. 

OH MY GOD. That is so true. SO TRUE. Especially that bit about the perception of us. "Oh didn't anyone want you? Shame" 
NO. I didn't stick with any of the array of utter morons I "dated". Wow Rosa. Thank you. Literally never thought about it like that. 

XXX

   It's not just us who are fed up with it and it's nonsense

Highly recommend that chapter, the one on 'no being single does not mean I am impossible to share a house with' and - well all of them basically, I spent most of the book snorting my drinks with laughter and shouting YES EXACTLY

badmemory

Personally I would say that being divorced is actually more of a sign of not being able to share a house.  I landed up wondering why I had been so naive as to marry twice, I mean a second one after the first disaster!  Only I could have been so daft.  The current one wants me to move in with him - not going to happen.

Buffythedebtslayer

beanielou said:

What is happening with the financial review?

I am being grown up and seeing a mortgage advisor! Which reminds me, I need paperwork

beanielou

Buffythedebtslayer said:

beanielou said:

What is happening with the financial review?

I am being grown up and seeing a mortgage advisor! Which reminds me, I need paperwork

Hope it goes well. 

Buffythedebtslayer

beanielou said:

Buffythedebtslayer said:

beanielou said:

What is happening with the financial review?

I am being grown up and seeing a mortgage advisor! Which reminds me, I need paperwork

Hope it goes well. 

So do I, I really doubt it but it will good to know where I stand. 

Buffythedebtslayer

Right the appointment went as well as I thought. The guy was very kind and didn't charge, I need to look at my pension. I don't have enough money for anything. Ever. 

I must save. WAY more.  

I don't know what I am going to do about any of the information I gained today. It was MORTIFYING to sit there and explain my situation, the ins and outs of my finances, the family situation. 

I am going to nap as I am quite pathetically tired after the meeting and have a headache, the pressured feeling of being albeit politely scrutinised was like I said mortifying. On the plus side I have done my walk.  

XXXX

 

Aspiration

Great you’ve had the appointment and at least know where you stand. 

Not surprised you’re tired, hopefully a good sleep will help and can think about any actions you want to take after some downtime and rest over the next few days or weeks. 

Jellytotts

Just remember that owning property is not the be all and end all of life.  You have a good job, get paid a good wage and can afford to rent a decent home.

You have to look for the positives and you have lots of choices.  They might not be what you envisioned but I think I'm not alone here when I say that no ones life really turns out how they envisaged it would. You have to adapt to the circumstances you find yourself in.