The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb.

RosaBernicia

Big hugs Buffy. 

You are not a disaster, you manage really well in difficult circumstances.  You may have some difficult decisions ahead, but everything changes and you are not stuck. 

Buffythedebtslayer

RosaBernicia said:

Big hugs Buffy. 

You are not a disaster, you manage really well in difficult circumstances.  You may have some difficult decisions ahead, but everything changes and you are not stuck. 

Thank you XXX 

Am feeling a bit more positive, delivery came, I moved it all into the garden, dishwasher is fixed and I have eaten lunch. I will carry on in the garden until it is dark and then come in. Bit worried about my back. 

Whatever he says tomorrow it will give me a plan. I won't like it and ultimately I think this feeling comes in part from a few conversations I have been in with friends, all of whom have a partner, the Christmas presents, the stories of travels and days out, date nights. I understand "having a man" isn't the be all and end all, I have been single most of my life. All the horrible stuff with !!!!!! head is just another in a grow list of idiots and horrible men I have been with. I know all this, I am ok, but today I am so lonely and tired of all the battles. 

Hopefully time in the garden will snap me out of it. 

XX

RosaBernicia

Buffythedebtslayer said:

RosaBernicia said:

Big hugs Buffy. 

You are not a disaster, you manage really well in difficult circumstances.  You may have some difficult decisions ahead, but everything changes and you are not stuck. 

Thank you XXX 

Am feeling a bit more positive, delivery came, I moved it all into the garden, dishwasher is fixed and I have eaten lunch. I will carry on in the garden until it is dark and then come in. Bit worried about my back. 

Whatever he says tomorrow it will give me a plan. I won't like it and ultimately I think this feeling comes in part from a few conversations I have been in with friends, all of whom have a partner, the Christmas presents, the stories of travels and days out, date nights. I understand "having a man" isn't the be all and end all, I have been single most of my life. All the horrible stuff with !!!!!! head is just another in a grow list of idiots and horrible men I have been with. I know all this, I am ok, but today I am so lonely and tired of all the battles. 

Hopefully time in the garden will snap me out of it. 

XX

It's hard and it's rubbish and the most infuriating thing about it all (which I have only seen acknowledged in the book I posted) is that if we had been stupid enough to marry any of those idiots and then divorce them, the perception of us would be completely different and people would understand that our being single is financially difficult and lonely! 

Having a plan is usually a good thing... maybe the advisor will find some new options you hadn't spotted before.  Fingers crossed for you. 

efes_shareholder

your time will come , just continue to do all you can so that when the oppurtunity does present itself there is nothing to hold you back 

as for cooking on boxing day , I assume you will have house guests - either suggest pizza or takeaway all round or get everyone to muck in and cook dinner

badmemory

I always think Boxing Day is a bit of a pain because so many people overate the day before that they are not really hungry by then.   A buffet can make more sense, but some people don't think a buffet is acceptable which can be a pain.  Doing a sit down dinner when many don't actually want it is wasteful of both food & time.

Buffythedebtslayer

RosaBernicia said:

Buffythedebtslayer said:

RosaBernicia said:

Big hugs Buffy. 

You are not a disaster, you manage really well in difficult circumstances.  You may have some difficult decisions ahead, but everything changes and you are not stuck. 

Thank you XXX 

Am feeling a bit more positive, delivery came, I moved it all into the garden, dishwasher is fixed and I have eaten lunch. I will carry on in the garden until it is dark and then come in. Bit worried about my back. 

Whatever he says tomorrow it will give me a plan. I won't like it and ultimately I think this feeling comes in part from a few conversations I have been in with friends, all of whom have a partner, the Christmas presents, the stories of travels and days out, date nights. I understand "having a man" isn't the be all and end all, I have been single most of my life. All the horrible stuff with !!!!!! head is just another in a grow list of idiots and horrible men I have been with. I know all this, I am ok, but today I am so lonely and tired of all the battles. 

Hopefully time in the garden will snap me out of it. 

XX

It's hard and it's rubbish and the most infuriating thing about it all (which I have only seen acknowledged in the book I posted) is that if we had been stupid enough to marry any of those idiots and then divorce them, the perception of us would be completely different and people would understand that our being single is financially difficult and lonely! 

Having a plan is usually a good thing... maybe the advisor will find some new options you hadn't spotted before.  Fingers crossed for you. 

OH MY GOD. That is so true. SO TRUE. Especially that bit about the perception of us. "Oh didn't anyone want you? Shame" 
NO. I didn't stick with any of the array of utter morons I "dated". Wow Rosa. Thank you. Literally never thought about it like that. 

XXX

Jellytotts

I second the Boxing Day buffet or good old turkey and chips.  We don't do take always as a couple (food intolerances/allergies) and my parents wouldn't dare eat anything other than meat and 2 veg so a buffet is normally out of the question too.

Who are you catering for, if it's just you and Mum could you not do a double Christmas dinner plate up and microwave it for her on Boxing Day.  

My absolute favourite on Boxing Day is warm mash with salad cream and peas in (a family favourite ) with cold turkey, cold pigs in blankets and pickles.  Actually I could eat that every day to be honest.

Buffythedebtslayer

Yeah.............Lets not talk about Boxing Day! It will be fine. Again one of the conversations I had with a friend and he said why not suggest XYZ and I did and all hell broke loose. 

More time in the garden, it did help. If I am still here in the spring I will have a space to sit. Sainsbury's came 2 hours early!      which curtailed the garden. 

I need to remember that I piled a load of crap on my bed........and do my walk and cook dinner and so on. Must get the hay out of the car!!                                                                                     

beanielou

What is happening with the financial review?

stymied

More time in the garden, it did help. If I am still here in the spring ….                                                                 

I initially read this as you not coming indoors again until spring! Whoops 😬