We really can't afford the house we want/need will things get better for us or just forget it?

lookstraightahead

I have a masters and I have stacked shelves to get me from one point to another. Nothing wrong with that. 

MysteryMe

If the pandemic proved anything, it is that people who are often viewed as being disposable in low paid work are actually the most important. 

Scotbot

mrsmortgage said:

Thank you @purplebutterfly. That was a very kind reply. I think it's very hard for people to understand where in coming from as Cornwall is seen as such an "idyllic" place. I'm most certainly not a beach person, when I lived in Australia, I lived in a sea side town, it was actually a lot closer to what I would call a perfect beach... I think in the whole year I lived there, I only went to the beach maybe 6 times? Most of the time I was in Sydney

Sydney has some of the best beaches in the world and I am not talking Bondi.  Clontarf, Freshwater, Bronte & Tamarama would be my favorites. I wou,d live in Bronte or Clontarf in a heartbeat. All I need is £2 to 3 million

mrsmortgage

I never did it wasn't, I mean like I said I liked being a KP, but it wasn't for me in the end. I was doing a job more aligned with my skills for two years, but the pay was terrible. 

I've lived in Penryn and Falmouth. I found both equally as depressing (Falmouth a bit less but it has changed a lot since I moved down here). Truro has been the happiest place I've lived in Cornwall. Still haven't made any friends, but never made any in the other places either. I've always worked from home which makes things a lot harder. 

RelievedSheff

mrsmortgage said:

I never did it wasn't, I mean like I said I liked being a KP, but it wasn't for me in the end. I was doing a job more aligned with my skills for two years, but the pay was terrible. 

I've lived in Penryn and Falmouth. I found both equally as depressing (Falmouth a bit less but it has changed a lot since I moved down here). Truro has been the happiest place I've lived in Cornwall. Still haven't made any friends, but never made any in the other places either. I've always worked from home which makes things a lot harder. 

Is the answer not to go out there and make friends. You can't make them sat at home and that will be the same wherever you live!

getmore4less

Maybe you need to unwind some of the decisions that  got you into Cornwall in the first place if it is that bad they were wrong.


Making friends,  done no favours by having kids in school 30mins away thats one route many parents make contacts with other adults.

Going out and doing things that involves others is now possible so you can do that if you have any interests.   

Ramouth

mrsmortgage said:

I never did it wasn't, I mean like I said I liked being a KP, but it wasn't for me in the end. I was doing a job more aligned with my skills for two years, but the pay was terrible. 

I've lived in Penryn and Falmouth. I found both equally as depressing (Falmouth a bit less but it has changed a lot since I moved down here). Truro has been the happiest place I've lived in Cornwall. Still haven't made any friends, but never made any in the other places either. I've always worked from home which makes things a lot harder. 

I’m really sorry to hear that.  I found Penryn to be the friendliest place I have ever lived.  Moved only because we wanted an easier commute to work by bike and a parking space.  I have lived in Truro too and found it dull but it may well have changed in the last 15 years.  

I really hope you can find somewhere you are content and can make the most of.  Life has taught me that you have to make the most of now because the future is not guaranteed.

Tokmon

MysteryMe said:

If the pandemic proved anything, it is that people who are often viewed as being disposable in low paid work are actually the most important. 

The job role's are important but the people are generally disposable because low paying jobs tend to be one's that almost anyone can do, so there isn't any shortage of workers to replace someone if they are let go.

purplebutterfly

Tokmon said:

so there isn't any shortage of workers to replace someone if they are let go.

Sadly, after Brexit, this is no longer true.  We currently have a deficiency of fruit and veg pickers, hauliers, bar staff, restaurant staff and other minimum wage jobs.  That's before we look at the shortage of skilled tradesmen due to a mass exodus back to Europe. 

mrsmortgage

getmore4less said:

Maybe you need to unwind some of the decisions that  got you into Cornwall in the first place if it is that bad they were wrong.


Making friends,  done no favours by having kids in school 30mins away thats one route many parents make contacts with other adults.

Going out and doing things that involves others is now possible so you can do that if you have any interests.   

Yeah, I'm part of running club in Truro (haven't been able to attend due to poor health). In fact that's how I met my second husband. I have ZERO interest in making any friends in that school. I was physically attacked and had to get a restraining order on someone. I tried to change schools for my daughter but her dad didn't let me, and I understand why I mean she was happy and with friends!  I was scared to go to that school for a couple of years. It's a thing of the past, but it left me with absolutely no desire to live in the nearby area AT ALL. 

Life hasn't been easy for me over here.... I'm finally getting out of it. I'm friendly with one mum at the nursery and was supposed to have a "girl date" the other day. So it's not like I don't try.