We really can't afford the house we want/need will things get better for us or just forget it?

mrsmortgage

Crashy_Time said:

My point was that if people are feeling the need to knock 50-70k off their asking price things are getting better, it won`t take much for that to accelerate IMO and the reports of a "red hot" market are as usual mostly EA hype.

Not around here though. 

purplebutterfly

mrsmortgage said:

My husband has looked at every single available house in a 10/15mi radius just in case and he said nothing was suitable.

I suggest you also look.  My husband and I are in complete agreement about what we want AND what we need (not always the same thing as we both desperately WANT a swimming pool but that's not going to happen!) but we see totally different things in the same listings.

There are houses that I have written off from looking at them online but my husband has suggested we view them and I have changed my mind about what I thought they were like.   

We all process visual information differently, so no two people will ever see the same thing in a single listing.  Don't leave it all up to your husband, get the kids involved as well.  They might surprise you and have their own suggestions about how to make the space work - currently you are projecting your own opinions of what they want onto them

Anyanka1

Sorry, OP, but have you considered just learning how to parent?  E.g:  This is what you can have, this is what you can't have; deal with it.

mrsmortgage

purplebutterfly said:

I suggest you also look.  My husband and I are in complete agreement about what we want AND what we need (not always the same thing as we both desperately WANT a swimming pool but that's not going to happen!) but we see totally different things in the same listings.

There are houses that I have written off from looking at them online but my husband has suggested we view them and I have changed my mind about what I thought they were like.   

We all process visual information differently, so no two people will ever see the same thing in a single listing.  Don't leave it all up to your husband, get the kids involved as well.  They might surprise you and have their own suggestions about how to make the space work - currently you are projecting your own opinions of what they want onto them

The main problem is that I see  most projects as easy fixes. Last time we were house hunting, for every house I viewed, he wouldn't be ok with ANY of them. 

mrsmortgage

Anyanka1 said:

Sorry, OP, but have you considered just learning how to parent?  E.g:  This is what you can have, this is what you can't have; deal with it.

Which is what we're doing? The kids and us as parents have more or less the same priorities in the end. We all rather go on holiday rather than to have a much bigger house. We found one today that ticks all the boxes and is way within budget, so fingers crossed! 

lookstraightahead

mrsmortgage said:

Anyanka1 said:

Sorry, OP, but have you considered just learning how to parent?  E.g:  This is what you can have, this is what you can't have; deal with it.

Which is what we're doing? The kids and us as parents have more or less the same priorities in the end. We all rather go on holiday rather than to have a much bigger house. We found one today that ticks all the boxes and is way within budget, so fingers crossed! 

Great the drama is over. Hope it ticks all your 15 million boxes 😂

mrsmortgage

lookstraightahead said:

Great the drama is over. Hope it ticks all your 15 million boxes 😂

They're actually not that many.... as long as it's within our desired location it has to have four bedrooms that can be used as bedrooms (two have to be on the larger side). 

Anyanka1

lookstraightahead said:

mrsmortgage said:

Anyanka1 said:

Sorry, OP, but have you considered just learning how to parent?  E.g:  This is what you can have, this is what you can't have; deal with it.

Which is what we're doing? The kids and us as parents have more or less the same priorities in the end. We all rather go on holiday rather than to have a much bigger house. We found one today that ticks all the boxes and is way within budget, so fingers crossed! 

Great the drama is over. Hope it ticks all your 15 million boxes 😂

Thanks times a thousand, lookstraightahead.

Crashy_Time

mrsmortgage said:

RelievedSheff said:

Which begs the question. What was the point of this post?

Good all vent? And maybe somebody had a link to an article that would give me some hope (higher value houses decreasing in price at a faster pace than lower value properties for example). 

Also, because of the craziness of the current market, we have to have sold our house to even view some houses, but if it looks unlikely we'll ever find what we need, we might as well remove ours from the market as it's a waste of time for  everyone involved. 

PropertyLog is your friend, and when SD comes back there will be a lot less "frenzy" to buy houses (LOL) if SD doesn`t come back it will be because we are back in lockdown and there will be a lot less people splashing the debt on houses, so I think you will probably get what you want at some point.

[Deleted User]

I was struggling to understand this post when I first read it and now 5 days later I still don't understand what the point of this discussion is. 

You're complaining that you can't afford the house you want yet go on over 25 pages listing off all the things that you aren't prepared to do, or give up, in order to get the said house. 

Whilst I can appreciate the reasons you don't want to make those sacrifices, what I can't fathom is why you have come here to moan about it. Sorry, but I can't help feeling a little unsympathetic.