We really can't afford the house we want/need will things get better for us or just forget it?

gettingtheresometime

Whose actually in charge here? Your mum or your children because it certainly doesn't sound like it's you lol.

boxer234

These children would never have survived an 80s up bringing.  No holidays abroad, tiny bedrooms, threat of nuclear war.  Your in charge OP you’ve heard their voice and now decide what you want to do.  

moneysavinghero

80's kids would never have survived a 2020's upbringing. Corona Virus, Monkey Pox, no holidays abroad, , tiny new build bedrooms, threat of nuclear war (ok Trump may have saved us from that)

Sazzy1253

This might have been covered but can you extent or convert the loft etc? We can’t afford a 4 bed so we’ve bought a 3 bed and are planning on changing the garage into a room/ extent in a few years. 

mrsmortgage

Sazzy1253 said:

This might have been covered but can you extent or convert the loft etc? We can’t afford a 4 bed so we’ve bought a 3 bed and are planning on changing the garage into a room/ extent in a few years. 

No, not much can be done to our house for better or for worse... 

gozaimasu

Assuming shared custody means 50/50, then the kids are only in the bedrooms half of the time. Alternate the shared custody days, and they each get a day sleeping alone in their shared bedroom.

boxer234

moneysavinghero said:

80's kids would never have survived a 2020's upbringing. Corona Virus, Monkey Pox, no holidays abroad, , tiny new build bedrooms, threat of nuclear war (ok Trump may have saved us from that)

Ha ha very true.  Our summer holiday consisted of being given a sarnie and sent out until dinner.  (Don’t even mention monkey pox of we ignore it it will go away) 

jennystarpepper

boxer234 said:

These children would never have survived an 80s up bringing.  No holidays abroad, tiny bedrooms, threat of nuclear war.  Your in charge OP you’ve heard their voice and now decide what you want to do.  

Try the 70's lol.  One bath Sunday nights, power cuts, water shortages, 3 channels on the telly... OMG and you had to get up to turn it over!!  

Salemicus

boxer234 said:

These children would never have survived an 80s up bringing.  No holidays abroad, tiny bedrooms, threat of nuclear war.  Your in charge OP you’ve heard their voice and now decide what you want to do.  

On average, houses were larger in the 1980s than they are today, foreign holidays had definitely been invented, and no sensible person thought a nuclear war was going to break out - that was the decade the Warsaw Pact fell apart. Perhaps you grew up in a different 80s.

boxer234

Salemicus said:

boxer234 said:

These children would never have survived an 80s up bringing.  No holidays abroad, tiny bedrooms, threat of nuclear war.  Your in charge OP you’ve heard their voice and now decide what you want to do.  

On average, houses were larger in the 1980s than they are today, foreign holidays had definitely been invented, and no sensible person thought a nuclear war was going to break out - that was the decade the Warsaw Pact fell apart. Perhaps you grew up in a different 80s.

I was being tongue in cheek sorry should have put a winky face.