Breast Feeding discussion

akaddcmp

ha ha, the 4times a night part wasnt a lie!! hence im missing it!
sorry to be a dumb twit but who is gina ford? if its a tv program then i wouldnt know coz i aint got/cant afford a tv!!!

skyrocket

you really need to go on freecycle!
get a cot and some bedding then get yourselves a telly from some nice person who has one to give away.
you need some time to chill out and be just the two of you
xxxx

akaddcmp

i have thought of doing the freecycle thing re TV but i cant afford the tv licence......!! i know i probly sound like a begger but im serios i got hardly owt if it wasnt for the support workers in the council i wouldnt even have this placE!!

u know the saying when S hit comes it comes from all corners - ITS TRUE

i had alot 1 year ago (30k job/no debt/phat car! and alot more!) but now i have nothing and im in debt all coz things happnd and stuff changed - my illness has somoething to do with it as well (IBS and MIGRANE-which always comes with PUKE and stays for 7-8 days in a ROW)

but i got my daughter and OH and thats basically all i want, to tell u the truth i wasnt this happy when i had everything!!

im gna ask my support worker for a 2 bed house and see if i can be put on waiting list tomorow, in regards to a cot i think il just see if i can ask soem mates if they willin to give me a single bed and i can put it in the same room with the side protectors/barriers which are cheap. then i can make a start on putting her where she belongs at night (not in MY BED!!)

Savvy_Sue

I would talk to your HV as well, she may be able to help you get a cot or give you other advice on how to break this sucking all night habit ('cos that's what it is now!)

Gina Ford has written various books which are after my time, all about how to have a perfect baby / toddler / child, and it seems you either love 'em or hate 'em. Probably best to leave it at the suggestion that your local library is bound to have something by her that you could borrow. Or your HV might be able to lend you something.

My personal favourite however is 'Toddler Taming' by Christopher Green, and that includes a bit on sleep problems. I've seen many others agree with me that this is an excellent book, not prescriptive at all and very honest about how hard it is to be a parent!

trace_567

I can't advice on the baby issue as such as I've never had one. However as others have said you really need to sort out a way to get a cot. Check the dss for any help they can give you.
In regards to the housing situation, I don't know what you have in terms of accomodation from the council, but in respect of studio size flats the council where I live don't I'm affraid even class a baby as anything till they reach about 6 months old. My friend lived in a council studio flat with her b/f and baby till he was almost 2. As you have a social worker use them to your advantage in pushing at the council. Like I said not all councils have the same policies on overcrowding, so yours may be different.

As for the neighbours, I really think they will have to just put up with a baby crying. That is what babies do. I can't imagine any council taking complaints from neighbours about a baby that crys seriously.

Savvy_Sue

I fear trace is right, a baby doesn't 'count' towards the total in a household until they reach a certain age (and I can't remember what that is and it might vary), and even when they reach that age the council still doesn't HAVE to rehouse you. All it means is that you move a little higher up the priority list because you ARE now overcrowded, and they won't move you into a similar sized property because they don't move you into a situation where you are overcrowded from the start. Hope that makes sense ...

Do you have any local Housing Associations? Make sure you're on the list with them as well, they may have a common application process with the council.

akaddcmp

regarding the housing, im gna be trying to sort that out toms wit hthe support workers.....

so i think thats the main underlying cause....need a bigger place!!

Elliesmum

akaddcmp wrote: »

regarding the housing, im gna be trying to sort that out toms wit hthe support workers.....

so i think thats the main underlying cause....need a bigger place!!

Can you pm me as to where you are in Kirklees? I am also in Kirklees and think I could get hold of a travel cot for you................. if you like? Let me know if this is any use.

EM xx

CharleneUK

Aaah comfort feeding! I remember it only too well and sympathise! Our dd3 (22 months) is still sleeping with us, but I stopped feeding Feb this year cos she was STILL trying to comfort feed at night!

You've had some good advice thus far, I hope something works for you. I personally couldn't leave my child to cry, but if it's something you want to consider, speak with your HV as well (I know already mentioned)

Best of luck with it all! I'd love to tell you she'll grow out of it, but chances are....... She won't!!

Let us know how you get on.

With the cot side of things, we had a co-sleeper initially, but she grew out of it pretty fast, so we purchased a good enough cheap cot from toys r us and took off one of the sides, and pushed our bed up against the cot, so another co-sleeper, only bigger! Might want to try that.

xx

maypole

My daughter in Law doesn't leave our grandson to cry, she realises it is his only way of communicating and babies need their parents attention, whenever! They have a very content and happy baby as a result.