Breast Feeding discussion

akaddcmp

Hi ALL


my support worker came over and i kinda told her the issue we have, it just seems abit embarressing, lol...but she was understanding and guess what - she has rang up a local charity shop and they will be delivering one to me tomorow, the support worker said they will sort the money out!!

also in regards to a 2 bedroom house she said that she will try and get me one sorted as she has a few contacts in housing and also because my ilness is stress related and it is out of control at the moment(ibs/migrane) she says i have a good chance at getting one asap. so im now counting on that.

as soon as i get a job and get sorted with cash and stuff im gna give the support service office a big bunch of flowers and chocolates, they are soo good and i dont know what i wouldve done without them.

blue_monkey_2

That is great news, I just found your thread.

I wanted to add from my experience, I had the same with my daughter and I was pregnant again so I had to stop the cycle. This meant that I had to do the controlled crying - it is hard but it does work. I am sorry some people do not agree with it, if you do not stop the cycle of her being in bed with you then she will always want to suckle from you. Once you have the cot (fantastic news BTW) then you need to make a new resolve and stick to it. Sod your neighbours, you will be surprised how quick your daughter gets into her new routine and once she is out of waking at the slightest sound you'll have a new lease of life. Make sure she is put to bed a few hours before you - I am guessing you may get milk tokens, it might be worth giving her a bottle in the night if she wakes up, do not feel bad about this, it will also mean your partner can take a night feed nad give you a bit of extra sleep. If you need it you need it. It took me a couple of week for my daughter to get used to a bottle - as I said, I was pregnant and had no choice as my bump got too big to have her on my lap.

Good luck for the future, let's hope that this is a move forward for you.

Savvy_Sue

blue_monkey wrote: »

if you do not stop the cycle of her being in bed with you then she will always want to suckle from you.

Well, not quite always ... I've never seen a suckling teenager!

blue_monkey wrote: »

Sod your neighbours

Again, my hero Dr Christopher Green recommends talking to the neighbours in advance and explaining what you are doing, that yes baby may cry but this will only be for short periods.

Of course if you CAN move baby away from the party walls that may help the situation, but not always possible!

Glad you've got a cot sorted at least!

blue_monkey_2

Well, not quite always ... I've never seen a suckling teenager!

No, but a 7 or 8 year old wanting to get in bed and suckle would not be nice and if the cycle continues then this will be happening. Just when is the right time to say is the time to stop? Whenever the mum decides enough is enough is the time to stop - and this mum has had enough. There will be tears and tantrums at whatever age - and I say better to do it now than when the child can scream louder and for longer because they cannot get their own way and the mum gives in and so the cycle continues. Sorry, however, natural' it is, even at the age of 3 a child does not NEED to be breastfed and certainly does not need to suckle though the night, if it was normal then all of us BF mums would be doing it - and I breastfed both my children so I am 100% for it. After the age of 2 a child does not NEED Breast milk and BF is done for the childs health - not for a womens need to feel close to her child (or whatever other reason they choose) and children get their nutrition from other sources because they are eating a wide variety of foods. What about the 11 year old who wanted to be breastfed for her birthday and her mother gave her that wish? Is that normal? Personally, I think this is wrong and certainly not normal.

BF should be enjoyable for both the mother and the child - and this mother is quite clearly not enjoying it now and is tired and wants a break and she has made this clear. So NOW is the time for the cycle to stop and she has to be the one to do this of course - sure it is hard, you lose the closeness of BF but this mum needs a break from it. She is not a cow she is a human being and we don't all want our babies attached 24/7 - for whatever reason.

Whether neighbours or understanding or not, they have to understand why you are doing this and once the baby is able to get to sleep alone then they will not have a problem with the baby crying and waking neighbours - if they do not understand then I say it is their tough luck, they'll have to put up with it. I never told my neighbours but it depends on what kind of neighbours you have, Mine are really noisy so it was quite nice to do it and give them a taste of their own medicine!!

Counting_Pennies_2

I have completely forgotten everything from just over 3 years ago with my DS.

Can anyone remind me what foods I should avoid when breastfeeding.

i.e. is it safe to have all the banned foods from pregnancy, nuts, brie, pate, etc..

Also what foods tend to give baby an upset tummy? I think I recall someone saying grapes and strawberries. Anything else?

Horasio

Avoid curry - you will get thro nappies at a huge rate:eek:

elisebutt65

The only things I avoided were strong tasting things like garlic. I think the things like brie etc are ok - It's only you'll that'll get sick if you catch listeria - LOL.

Snaggles

This is what I have been told about breastfeeding, but obviously check with your midwife or health visitor too, because I can't vouch for how correct it is:

The only food you shouldn't eat if you have a family history of allergies is peanuts, because tiny amounts of peanut oils can get into the breast milk and there is a small chance this could trigger a peanut allergy.

Pate, brie etc are fine to eat whilst breastfeeding.

As far as alcohol goes, one unit is okay, but if you are drinking more than that then you should allow 2 hours per unit before breastfeeding, but you don't need to pump and dump, once the alcohol is out of YOUR system, it has gone from the breastmilk too.

Certain foods such as cabbage can make your baby slightly windy, and other foods may make your milk taste slightly different, but it is just a case of trial and error to see which, if any, affect your baby.

Good luck.....and if you get sore at all, cabbage leaves in your bra really DO work!!

Penny_Watcher

My Mum told me that when I was a newborn she paniced because the contents of my nappy were pink :eek:. As it turned out she'd been eating industrial quantities of beetroot (a hangover from her pregnancy cravings) which had gone straight through her and into me. Pink poop - nice

bumpybecky

cider is a bad idea - IME makes the baby really windy and screamy :eek: alcohol generally can make for a sleepy baby, but I'd not worry about the odd glass or two, as long as you're not getting really drunk!

lots of fruit for you can make for runny nappies and a sore bum. Cabbage / broccoli etc can cause wind

but to be honest I'd try it and see not all things will effect your baby, some are more tolerant than others. I'd eat whatever you like and only think about restricting things if you notice a bad effect on the baby.