Breast Feeding discussion

juliejim

Hi

I agree you need to get her in her own room. Where does she go to sleep in the day? If you get her used to sleeping in her own room in the day then you'll know she's not crying at night because it's something new but because she wants your attention. It will be difficult because she's used to sleeping with you and using the breast as a dummy. You know she's not hungry at night so it's only comfort feeding. It might be worth just warning your neighbours that you're moving her into her own room so she might be crying more than usual for the next few nights then at least you've forewarned them and they shouldn't have cause to complain. I'm assuming she drinks out of a lidded cup in the day? If so just offer her that at night with some water in it then you'll know she isn't thirsty. It may also be that she's a little warm at night so does get thirsty from being in bed with you.

It is hard, although my DD and DS never slept in bed with me (not all night anyway) I breastfed my DD until she was 1 and my DS until he was 3! My DS though would never have a bottle or a dummy and always wanted the breast to settle off to sleep no matter how many times he woke in the night. In the end I had to just offer him a drink in a cup and persevere.

I hope this helps a little - it won't be easy whatever you decide to do but it will be lot harder to get her to sleep in her own bed and bedroom when she can just get out of bed and climb back into bed with you!

Julie

juliejim

Sorry you posted that you had only one bedroom and no cot while I was posting. As already said try freecycle for a cot or bed for her or is there a charity furniture place near you where you'll be able to get one very cheaply. Speak to your Health Visitor to see if she can help in any way.

Whereabouts do you live? I'll see if I can come up with any contacts for you.

Julie

zpacey

I have a son who is now 16mths, he still sleeps in my room but i also had the same problem until afew weeks ago, I have a daughter as well who is 3yrs old and I was worried that if he cried alot he would wake her up but decided I was going to try it. 1st night, I put him to bed at 8pm, he woke up at about 8.30pm, i went in, put him back in the cot and walked out, left him crying for 5mins, went back did the same, left him for 10mins, went in again for the 3rd time, I was meaning to let him cry for 15mins but he cried for 10mins then slept. I thought he would wake up as soon as I went to bed as he's cot is in my room. well, I was surprised, he woke up at 2pm, I just went to his cot and shhhhhed him and he went back to sleep. the following night, he woke once, i went in and he went back to sleep straight away. i am now enjoying a goodnight sleep as he is sleeping throughout. I couldn't believe it. Just took 2days to train him. Well worth trying once you sort out the cot. the first night you will feel really bad when you let him cry but don't give in, just think in a few days time you will be enjoying your hubby plus having a peaceful night.

Ophie

If all else fails, Ikea do very cheap cots if you live any where near them... £29 http://www.ikea.com/gb/en/catalog/products/00115751, they also do cheap bedding too if you can't get it on freecycle. Nursery and Toys do cheap bits too http://www.nurseryandtoys.com/ .

Go and talk to Surestart they may be able to help and join NCT maybe?

akaddcmp

hi all,
thank you all for your information,


i will take this up with the OH and will see if we can sort this out.

it is really driving me nuts tho and the only other thing is i cant stand dd crying, if she cries its like someones banging a nail through my heart!

akaddcmp

juliejim wrote: »

Sorry you posted that you had only one bedroom and no cot while I was posting. As already said try freecycle for a cot or bed for her or is there a charity furniture place near you where you'll be able to get one very cheaply. Speak to your Health Visitor to see if she can help in any way.

Whereabouts do you live? I'll see if I can come up with any contacts for you.

Julie

hi julie,

i live in kirklees, well just in the outskirts...

maypole

4 times a night? :rotfl:LOL! if we believe that, we'll believe anything

keelykat

Hi, well i don't have any more advice-only what others have said about trying to get a cot, and asking the council about a bigger place to live so that baby can have her own room.

Good luck,

keely.

ps-4 times a night?! i dont think many people do it that much before kids lol, lucky you!

squashy

Another slant on this, I am personally not a fan of leaving little babies to cry, using scripted "methods" from the likes of Gina Ford (don't get me started on that topic...), it seems you already are aware of the merits of co-sleeping, exclusive breastfeeding etc and are just hitting a glitch with it....anyway I recommend you have a look at this book called The No Cry Sleep Solution http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0071381392/202-2193241-3523035

Ophie

squashy wrote: »

Another slant on this, I am personally not a fan of leaving little babies to cry, using scripted "methods" from the likes of Gina Ford (don't get me started on that topic...), it seems you already are aware of the merits of co-sleeping, exclusive breastfeeding etc and are just hitting a glitch with it....anyway I recommend you have a look at this book called The No Cry Sleep Solution http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0071381392/202-2193241-3523035

Bl!!dy abusive that Gina Ford woman. Sorry to all who subscribe to her theory.