Breast Feeding discussion

Juicy_Tube

Congratulations on the birth of your LO!!

I had a difficult time with the BF, due to DS having a tongue-tie(like another poster) and he just could not latch. I still had milk and expressed-my choice. Looking back not sure how I did it, but I did, but mixed with formula too. It was hard work and I only had one child! But at the early stages I think I had much more energy than I do now!! Adrenalin etc. The first time I fed him bottled formula he lapped it up and he was obviously starving and he was a changed baby straightway.

I continued to express when I could and at 5 weeks my LO watched and looked, I tried him and he decided to latch on to the boob-so here, I say, if it is something you want to do, keep trying. I would never have thought it could happen. He fed from me until 4 months, mixed with formula. I think by then the suppy-demand thing had gone though, but at least he was having something from me, however little. I think we did ok! But then he stopped feeding as quick as he had started!

I certainly would not be as stressed the second time around to BF, but I would still want to do it if I could..x

Lots of luck.

JT x

Juicy_Tube

in_my_wellies wrote:

Just perservere with breastfeeding and forget all the so called guilt trip. If you want to do it you will even if you have to battle a bit with sore nipples, etc. If you really want to you will try for at least 2-3 weeks.

Going back to work, worried about two year old - excuses! If you can't be bothered then get a bottle and be done with it.

Could you tell us your expreiences please? I would be really interested to know your full experiences on this.

Thank you.

JT x

looby75

in_my_wellies wrote:

Just perservere with breastfeeding and forget all the so called guilt trip. If you want to do it you will even if you have to battle a bit with sore nipples, etc. If you really want to you will try for at least 2-3 weeks.

Going back to work, worried about two year old - excuses! If you can't be bothered then get a bottle and be done with it.

that's a bit harsh, when you have just had a baby you feel like you are being pulled in 101 directions. DH wants you, older children want you, obviously baby wants you. You have all these hormones running round your body and you often don't even know which way is up. Its not about excuses it's about not knowing if you are coming or going and trying to please everyone at once.

IA, I started bfing my ds after a 2 week break, he had undiagnosed reflux and I was told my my healthvisitor it was my milk that disagreed with him which was why he was crying all the time. I ended up putting him on the bottle but after we eventually got him seen by a paediatrician at the hospital and got his reflux diagnosed I started bfing again. He only ever took to it at nighttimes after that but it worked for us and he bf pt until he was 9 months. Give it a try, even if you don't end up feeding kaitlyn all the time any breastmilk is good.

spinning_hamster_wheel

in_my_wellies wrote:

Just perservere with breastfeeding and forget all the so called guilt trip. If you want to do it you will even if you have to battle a bit with sore nipples, etc. If you really want to you will try for at least 2-3 weeks.

Going back to work, worried about two year old - excuses! If you can't be bothered then get a bottle and be done with it.

EVERY BIRTH AND EVERY BABY is different. I think we should be trying to support each other on here, new mums have a hard enough time as it is.

Spendless

Immoral angel-I think you should do what ever suits you and your family best. If you want to give b-feeding another go fine. If you decide not to or it doesn't work out don't beat yourself up about it.

All the best :beer:

HariboJunkie

Do whatever feels right for you. We all know the benefits but no one knows you and your baby except you. It should be possible to return her to the breast and you could do both. Why don't you express the milk you are leaking. That way your Oh can feed it via the bottle so you get a rest.

Jo_R_2

I say go for the breastfeeding.

I have a six month old who is breastfed and a three year old and from day one I was determined to bf - in fact to the point where when I returned to work when DD1 was seven months and had trouble with expressing and she wouldn't take a bottle, I reverse-cycled, waking her at night for her feeds. DD2 luckily will take bottles of expressed milk and as with DD1 I plan to feed until she self-weans.

My thinking is for the long-term benefits. I've always seen it from the perspective of what is best for my baby now and what will see her through to adulthood. I'll be the first to say it's not easy, we've had issues with poor weight gain with DD1 and I was heavily persuaded to swap to formula, and DD2, although a good feeder, initially wasn't as keen as DD1 to latch on. What I actually did was see a breastfeeding counsellor and attend my local bf support group when I needed help - I couldn't recommend it more.

It is hard when you've got a toddler who wants yr attention and there's some crafty ways to alleviate that situation, with various distraction techniques. Making feeding time a special time for the toddler, with a little box full of goodies that only comes out at feeding time is good; also television time, or a favourite DVD is good, so you can all snuggle up together on the sofa. With some practice you can still help the older one when they're playing.

I would heartily recommend a sling as well - you can feed baby in many different kinds whilst yr busy so you can go about doing yr stuff without having to worry about sitting down with baby every time it's feed time. Walking about town is no problem LOL!

Good luck.

donna-j_2

I did both from the word go (bf for 8 months until I had to take mega-antibiotics) with no problems. It really doesn't have to be either/or, no matter what the 'experts' tell you.

in_my_wellies

Juicy_Tube wrote:

Could you tell us your expreiences please? I would be really interested to know your full experiences on this.

Thank you.

JT x

Four children, all breastfed, huge problems with two of them, including being admitted to hospital but I was determined, got on with it and after about 3 weeks it became well established and easy.

My neighbour is a midwife and is always saying how she wishes she had more time to spend with new mums either in hospital or the community so that they wouldn't give up. Pressure of time makes it too easy for the bottles to be give out in hospital and a pressured new mum takes it. Of course a very tiny % have a medical problem and can't be fed but most can if they give themselves time.

So agree with Jo-R about the organisation

dianna8106

congrats on ure new arrrival
the same happen to me with my daughter wouldnt latch so i expressed for a month one day she was in my arms and just started rooting and so i latched her on, it can be done with perserverance id advise some lanolin cream for the pain it saw me thru
and good luck:j